Stbx thinks that if it doesn't *exist* (text messages, b&w copies of receipts/phone records, etc) that it never happened.
AND as long as at least one thing in his story is correct? Well, to him -- that means that he hasn't lied. So he would spin some tale and throw in that he was wearing a blue shirt (or something equally ridiculous) -- and that made the entire statement true.
I call that the *grain of truth* lie.
Lying, at its most base level, is all about *control*.
If you actually thought that he was being honest with you and giving honest effort to the M, then you did not lie to yourself. You were hopeful and you were willing to extend a bit of trust to a person that didn't deserve it.
However, now that you know that you are dealing with a liar, you'll have to face that and decide how you're going to handle it. Once you *see* something, you can't *unsee* it, and once you reach a realization -- you can't ignore it anymore.
Sorry D2. All of the lies that I was told just about drove me f'n crazy. Life is much better now that there is very limited contact with that shit."Oh, what a tangled web we weave when first we practice to deceive." - Sir Walter Scott
In my effort to be *concise*, I often come off as blunt and harsh. Sorry, don't mean to be offensive.