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User Topic: Trigger today...another bite of the sh*t sandwich
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Default  Posted: 7:37 AM, August 1st (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

note to self: never take Ambien...

Still hugs for you today HFSSC!!
You've worked so hard!

his Dday: 2/10 but TT until 7/11
my Ddays: 1/12, 4/12 broken NC 12/12

me (WW/BS): 48
him: (BS/WH)52
4 kiddos in mid 20's

“Follow your intuition. Be smart, be brave. Tell the truth and don’t take any shit.”

Posts: 5329 | Registered: Dec 2010 | From: Midwest
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Default  Posted: 9:26 AM, August 1st (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

My family has horrible issues with Ambien. In January of this year we almost lost my sister from an overdose she took while on Ambien. In the hospital she pulled me and my brother apart and told us how she did it on purpose and it was intentional. However, how she was found proves that it was nothing she had planned and the very next day when I told her she confessed to it being intentional she burst out crying and she had no memory of it.

I have another long story about another sister who took it who cooked naked in front of my parents (FRIED BACON NAKED) and has no memory of that nor is it like her to be publically nude.

So it could be the Ambien or it could be the Ambien showing him that his boundaries are not as high and strong as they should be.

After every situation the best word to describe all of them is strange.

What a shit sandwich. I'm sorry it was served to you.

Me - BW 38
Him - WH 33
Don't fuck with me fellas! This ain't my first time at the rodeo!
DD - 3/28/11

Posts: 177 | Registered: Oct 2011 | From: Indiana
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Default  Posted: 9:32 AM, August 1st (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm a recovering master rugsweeper/gaslighter.

I could believe it if he had PM'd other people but a woman, who looks like OW, knew he sent it, knew it when you confronted him but didn't come to you beforehand???

Even I'd have trouble rugsweeping/gaslighting myself into believing that it was the ambien.

I don't buy it. Not for a second. It wasn't an accident, it is a massive, flaming, flashing red flag.

I'm so sorry honey.

I may have reached a point where I'd piss on him if he was on fire.... eventually!!

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Default  Posted: 10:15 AM, August 1st (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I use Ambien most nights to fall asleep. The first night I used Ambien, I took a whole pill and sent my current boyfriend (we had been dating just a short time) a very pornographic text. Please know I am as straight-laced as they come. The next morning, I vaguely remembered sending something and when I checked, I was horrified and mortified. Words can't even describe it. Of course he wasn't exactly turned off.

Anyway, I now take HALF an Ambien pill each night, and I'm good.

So I can buy the Ambien excuse.

Me (BS) 53
He (XWS) 56

"Give up hope of a better past"

Posts: 131 | Registered: Oct 2011 | From: Missouri
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Default  Posted: 11:04 AM, August 1st (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Ugh, sorry HFSSc that you're going through this and I agree you both seem to be employing your R experience to sort through this healthily.

I come out on the side of this being a (stupid) misunderstanding/coincidence.I just don't think he'd be that "open" about it if it was motivating by A thinking. That said, I have no experience with Ambien and others have pointed out, it can fuck you up.

Given that, for me, I'd have to reconcile whether the Ambien (or some other brain fart) caused him to do this or whether it caused him to be sloppy in the pursuit of A behavior.


DD 11/28/10
Me (BH)
Her (WS)
Separated and filed (7/13)

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