Topic: A good weekend
Member # 16953
| Posted: 3:50 AM, July 29th (Monday), 2013|
I finally got motivated to get myself out and meet new people Saturday. An old friend had invited me to a BBQ. He lives about an hour from my mountain house. At first I was not gonna go because I really was not into it and I was not in the mountains. But I got up early Saturday morning, tossed some nice clothes in the back of the truck and me and my dog headed out. Got to my place early and I took a nap. I got a text from friend asking if I was showing up and I finally said yes I was. Picked up a couple bottles of wine and some steaks and headed out. When I got there a couple other of the guys I grew up with were there. Had not seen "the boys" in years. It was a pleasant surprise. We laughed, caught up, joked about the old days etc. I have to say I really enjoyed myself. It was nice to also meet some new people and a chat with a few of the single ladies. While I did not connect with any of them it was comfortable talking to them.
Now that my house is just about done I think I'm going to start getting out more. It really felt good to be able to mingle without any pressure. Aside from the hosts most of the people there were single. And I knew many of them so it was easy to just hang and be myself for a change. As my old friend is recently retired like myself I was invited to stop by more often. I think I'll take him up on that. I've spent the last year working on my house and chasing a couple of women who were not right for me. I think I'm just going to put my life on cruise control and see where it takes me. If someone comes into my life that's great. If not that's great too. I have put too much emphasis on finding a mate to bad results. So now I'll leave it to fate and see where that goes.
You cant eat soup with chopsticks.
Posts: 5434 | Registered: Nov 2007
|Sad in AZ|
Member # 24239
| Posted: 4:49 AM, July 29th (Monday), 2013|
That sounds like the perfect weekend. I'm moving back closer to my lifelong friends.
I promise to surround myself with amazing souls and love them fiercely.
Posts: 19187 | Registered: Jun 2009 | From: Upstate NY
Member # 35229
| Posted: 6:44 AM, July 29th (Monday), 2013|
Someone (I think it was Tesla quoting someone else) talked about the time between grief and healing as "cocooning". It has always made me smile - it is what this feels like.
Here's to butterflies busting out everywhere.
Sending all of the love and strength I can muster to Phoenix1 and her family.
"Death leaves a heartache no one can heal, love leaves a memory no one can steal."
Posts: 4569 | Registered: Apr 2012 | From: Australia
Member # 21964
| Posted: 7:21 AM, July 29th (Monday), 2013|
This is a really nice update. It gave me the warm fuzzies ha ha.
A hawaiian friend of mine used to constantly tell me "sometimes cayc you just have to hang ten" in reference to my habit of constantly planning, charging forward, and always trying to lock something into place.
For sure, things always go better for me when I just back off, go with the flow, "hang ten" and just be.
You've got a lot of things to relax, be happy and about and enjoy in the moment. I'm glad the pressures have backed off a bit so you can do so.
BS 45, WH 38
M 8 years, together 10
Real DDay 10/07/11
Too many OW to count.
D final on 6/21/12
The difference between involvement and commitment is like ham and eggs. The chicken is involved, the pig is committed.
- Martina Navratilova
Posts: 2795 | Registered: Dec 2008 | From: Mexico
Member # 20150
| Posted: 8:39 AM, July 29th (Monday), 2013|
I think I'm just going to put my life on cruise control and see where it takes me.
DDay: June 15, 2008
Mistakenly married Mr. Superfreak
20 years of OWs, WTF?
Divorced Dec 26, 2011
Celebrating 60 years on Earth
Posts: 16635 | Registered: Jul 2008 | From: Canada
Member # 14833
| Posted: 12:08 PM, July 29th (Monday), 2013|
Now that's living my man...
The secret of life is enjoying the passage of time...
Posts: 5895 | Registered: Jun 2007 | From: A better place
Member # 31468
| Posted: 6:25 PM, July 29th (Monday), 2013|
Nice post stronger
Together 9 yrs
Status: Divorced 4/27/11
Above all, be the heroine, not the victim. - Nora Ephron
It is our choices...that show what we truly are, far more than our abilities.
- J. K. Rowling
Posts: 4160 | Registered: Mar 2011 | From: Texas
Member # 27035
| Posted: 9:57 PM, July 29th (Monday), 2013|
Here's to butterflies busting out everywhere.
"On particularly rough days when I'm sure I can't possibly endure, I like to remind myself that my track record for getting through bad days so far is 100% - and that's pretty good."
Posts: 4661 | Registered: Jan 2010 | From: Midwest
Member # 3438
| Posted: 10:10 PM, July 29th (Monday), 2013|
I spent my divorced life on cruise control and have been happy the entire time! Enjoy!
Me: FORMER BW
Posts: 748 | Registered: Feb 2004
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