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doggiediva
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Default  Posted: 6:29 PM, July 28th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I don't know if I am posting in the right forum...

I am just venting and ruminating...


I do wonder if I am now very jaded and bitter about life...I don't think so..

I just feel so very trapped and my problem is that I have to work the mazes to get out of my trap so to speak..

I know that when all is said and done and I extricate myself from the living situation that I am in now, I will breathe ten million sighs of relief...

Me being bitter is that I don't see myself as remarrying, EVER..

I can't stomach the thought of nurturing a partner that turns selfish on me and stabs me in the back..I don't want to ever deal with another life partner that has bottomless needs and is never happy..

I don't think marriage is for the weak or the weary....Count me in as being one of the weary....


Don't tie your happiness to the tail of somebody else's kite

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Ashland13
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Default  Posted: 7:08 PM, July 28th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I know this feeling, too.

I struggle with the belief that marriage is still a good thing, for an idea in general.

My POV is from the angle of trust, also, where it would take moving a mountain to help me ever trust someone in that way again.

The life lessons I am still learning are not good ones and this treachery has stretched far and wide, across oceans and involved many people besides nearly ExH.

So I feel it too, DoggieDiva.

I have felt also like I got in the wrong line when I was born and that "life" and its people, or "the cosmos", mocks me.


Ashland 13

A person is a person, no matter how small. -Dr. Suess

Perserverance and spirit have done wonders in all ages.

-George Washington


Posts: 2229 | Registered: Feb 2013 | From: New England
LadyQ
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Default  Posted: 7:20 PM, July 28th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I hear ya! There are times when I think it'd be nice to have a relationship, but then I think of ending up back in this same boat and I go back to "no thnaks!"

Hang in there, those moments do get further and further between.


Tune out the noise of what others tell you about who you are and work it out for yourself...

Posts: 1650 | Registered: Jul 2011
LadyQ
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Default  Posted: 7:23 PM, July 28th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Or "no, thanks!", as the sane people say! Stupid tiny tablet keyboard...


Tune out the noise of what others tell you about who you are and work it out for yourself...

Posts: 1650 | Registered: Jul 2011
inconnu
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Default  Posted: 7:28 PM, July 28th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

It is a very normal feeling for people going through a divorce, or just recently divorced, to have. A lot of it may have to do with being weary.

For some people though, feelings change and as they heal, they decide they're not as anti-marriage as they once were. For others, they're perfectly content with not ever marrying again.

Neither is wrong. What works for some doesn't work for others. The important thing is to live your life the way you want.


Say what you wanna say and let the words fall out...honestly
I wanna see you be brave

Pretty pretty please, don't you ever ever feel
Like you're less than, less than perfect


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