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User Topic: Anybody else find scandals triggery?
Jaded4life
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Default  Posted: 8:47 PM, July 25th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I am really tired of hearing about this arrogant idiot and find myself breaking out in hives and feeling anxious lately. Oh and WH shut up already about him. You're the last one qualified to make fun of him. I'd rather be married to someone who was sexting than someone who was screwing around...a lot.

Huma, I hope you're on SI and if you are, hugs to you!!!


Me: 43...so betrayed.
Him: WH 46...multiple ONS, in therapy. A work in progress.
D-Months: Nov & Dec 2012. TT.
Married 4 years, together 5.
One beautiful amazing daughter, 15 mos

Posts: 94 | Registered: Nov 2012 | From: Land of the lost
sunflowergirl30
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Default  Posted: 9:02 PM, July 25th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

It just makes me sad and at this point i respect his wifes request that its between them and she has forgiven him. Once stuff is out on the internet it will pop up and though he did what he did some time ago. Im sure it will pop up to haunt him, his wife and family for the rest of his life.

I think his wife is a strong woman. I live in a glass house..so im the last one to be throwing stones.


Together 21yrs married 18yrs
2 kids, now 19 & 16
Bw: now 38
Wh: now 37
Mow: now 50
1st D-day EA w/mow our realtor 4-?-2007, 2nd D-day PA w/ same mow 5-29-2010

Posts: 1079 | Registered: Jul 2010 | From: Pacific Northwest
jo2love
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Red  Posted: 9:16 PM, July 25th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Jaded4life -

No politician names are to be mentioned. Since it's a current event about infidelity, you can talk about that part without his name.


Posts: 35919 | Registered: Mar 2011
Jaded4life
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Default  Posted: 9:18 PM, July 25th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Ok thanks . I'm not sure how to edit that though.


Me: 43...so betrayed.
Him: WH 46...multiple ONS, in therapy. A work in progress.
D-Months: Nov & Dec 2012. TT.
Married 4 years, together 5.
One beautiful amazing daughter, 15 mos

Posts: 94 | Registered: Nov 2012 | From: Land of the lost
nomistakeaboutit
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Default  Posted: 9:21 PM, July 25th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

What kind of judgement does this man have? He's forced out office because of a humiliating sexting scandal, then he continues to do more of it after he resigns. It's embarrassing to watch. Who would vote for this guy?!? Come on!

Whatever he and his wife work out between the two of them is fine with me, but I'm not sure his behavior is compatible for running for public office. I'd vote for a dog before I'd vote for him.

[This message edited by nomistakeaboutit at 9:22 PM, July 25th (Thursday)]


Me: BH 58.........Her: WW 45
DD: 8..........DS: 5
Married for six years.
DDay: 12-25-11 Divorced: 7-15-12
...................................
"It's like a nightmare within a nightmare, which in and of itself is a nightmare!"

Posts: 955 | Registered: Sep 2012 | From: U.S.A.
blakesteele
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Default  Posted: 9:23 PM, July 25th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I feel very differently when infidelity hits the news now versus how I viewed it pre-A. It might be decorated Generals, politicians, celebrities, or movie stars....but the overwhelming feeling of sadness comes over me. The fact that they have attained higher status or more money then I doesn't matter. We have the same worth and have the same struggles.

I feel sad for all involved...having seen the pain adultery causes. It is also disturbing how frequently it is reported and how prevalent it is in American society today.

I no longer judge the strength of a BS...matters not to me if they stay or leave the WS....I see both decisions in equal light. I see both as difficult roads.

I do have anger towards the WS, but within that anger is some sympathy. I have witnessed first hand how controlling the emotions of being in an affair are. My wife was like she never had been before...I didn't recognize her, nor did her friends or family.

A famous golfer replied to reporters like this....

Reporter...How could you lie to us for a year about your infidelity?

Famous golfer...Honestly, I was lying to myself at that time so I didn't think I was lying to you.

I can NOW see the truth, as crazy as it is, behind his statement.

God be with us all.

[This message edited by blakesteele at 9:25 PM, July 25th (Thursday)]


ME: 42 BH, I don't PM female members
SHE: 38 EA
Married: 15 years
Together: 17 years
D/Day 9-10-12
NC: 10-25-12
NC: Broken early November 2012, OM not respond
2 girls; 7 and 10
Fear is payments on debts you have not

Posts: 4008 | Registered: Jan 2013 | From: Central Missouri
outtanowhere
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Default  Posted: 9:36 PM, July 25th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I watched that news conference last night & felt the pain I saw in that woman's face with every ounce if my being. I watched her turn her back to the camera several times as if to fight back tears or try to compose herself. I felt agony for her!

In my new life as as the wife of a sex addict I see things from a different prism. I don't know how anyone can do the work that recovery requires under the watchful eye of the public nor do I understand why anyone would choose to do so. There's apparently a whole lot of things that don't make sense to me!


BS - 58
SAWH - 61 multiple encounters with prostitutes and other sex workers
Married 38 years
Dday - 2/19/13 - found the emails
He promised me Heaven then put me thru hell

Posts: 759 | Registered: Apr 2013
blakesteele
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Default  Posted: 10:04 PM, July 25th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

outtanowhere....great comment. This is tough enough without the added pressure of an over zealous press and our societys thirst for this type of scandal.

I also think that the almost none-stop reporting reduces the trauma that it is...making it an easier and easier choice for people to engage in it.

very sad...I, too, can just imagine how dreadful that conference was for her. No doubt it was embarrassing for him, but simply dreadful for her....hardly the same level of hurt and pain....but I do feel sad for both of them.

Peace to all of us.


ME: 42 BH, I don't PM female members
SHE: 38 EA
Married: 15 years
Together: 17 years
D/Day 9-10-12
NC: 10-25-12
NC: Broken early November 2012, OM not respond
2 girls; 7 and 10
Fear is payments on debts you have not

Posts: 4008 | Registered: Jan 2013 | From: Central Missouri
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