His response: she made him feel good as I the mother of his 7 kids was NEGATIVE
And he knew it was wrong, or he wouldn't have hidden it from you in the first place.
Of course he says its not him. He only texted the 21 year old for 9 months. Says hes being framed for the rest.
Am I suppsoed to pretend it didnt happen???
How do I get him to admit hes messed up & hurt me???
“The most difficult times for many of us are the ones we give ourselves.”
― Pema Chödrön
Says hes being framed for the rest.
We know how painful it is to be betrayed by a spouse, after being loyal through thick and thin, sacrificing one's own career to raise children, and trusting they are mature and loyal too.
Have you read the Healing Library? It is found in the yellow box at the upper left corner of your screen. Read up on the 180. It will help strengthen you and perhaps your WH will come to his senses when he sees you are not going to put up with his shenanigans, but you are going to get on with your own life, with or without him.
You also need to set boundaries, and requirements for him to meet in order for you to stay in the M with him. YOu will get ideas for that also in the healing library.
Here is a link to SerJR's Tactical Primer.
Here is also a link to a thread called "Great Posts for Newbies to Read."
One more thing: Your WH sounds like he may have issues with sexual addiction. This is a progressive thing, and it sounds like he has become progressively worse.
Hugs for you (((((Jammy19)))))
**The cruelest lies are often told in silence- Robert Louis Stevenson
married 2y, together 2.5y
1 beautiful daughter, 23m
"Someday soon, I'm going to put my life together; Win or lose, I'm starting over again."