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User Topic: It really is pervasive
TattoodChinaDoll
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Default  Posted: 10:48 AM, July 25th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Oldest DD likes the Kidz Bop CDs...popular music sung by kids and cleaned up. On an early CD there was a song (can't remember the title) with the line, "and my girlfriend went and cheated on me." They didn't change the word cheated. The newest CD just came out and Pink's Just Give Me A Reason is on it. The first line is, "right from the start you were a thief, you broke my heart. And I, your willing victim." They changed victim to person on Kidz Bop. Let's face it, unless its The Wheels On The Bus, even stuff like Taylor Swift (who so many girls love) is about love, boyfriends, etc. Hearing that though made me angry, annoyed, and sad. I know I can't change society, culture, or media...I just hope I help my girls be strong, healthy women.


Me (BW): 32
WH: 33 TimeToManUp
Married: 11 years, together 16 years
3 daughters: 9, 5, 3, and and 2 angel babies (2013 and 2014)
D-Day: 12/21/2011
Confronted him: 12/22/2011


Posts: 1727 | Registered: Jan 2012 | From: New Jersey
AFrayedKnot
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Default  Posted: 12:05 PM, July 25th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

It really always has been.

"You are my Sunshine" was forever ruined for me after I read the rest of the lyrics.


BS 40
fWS 36 (SurprisinglyOkay)
DD DS
A whole bunch of shit that got a lot worse before it got better.
"Knowing is half the battle"

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tushnurse
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Default  Posted: 12:21 PM, July 25th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Good point Chico.

TCD - Just because you are aware of it, and know that you want your girls to be strong, independent, healthy women means you will do your all to make sure that they are.

slight t/j here:
My Dad cheated on my mom. He had an A with a coworker. She stayed, most likely because it was not a socially acceptable thing then, her mom and dad were already gone, so no support there, and she worked part time, not enough to support us. That being said, my sister and I were raised to never need a man for anything. I mean it. I can change my own tires, and oil, I can paint, woodowork, use just about any powertool known to man. I can also manage my finances, and clean my gutters. I also got an education to the point where I knew I would make a good living, and never NEED a man to survive. Funny thing is I married my HS sweetheart, and ultimately ended up being betrayed. So when I chose to stay, and work on us, it was for the right reasons, it was because I loved him, and our family. I knew he was messed up in his head, but that he could find himself.
I think my mom and dad were a bit disappointed initally that I didn't kick him to the curb, but now have the utmost respect for me, and the gift I gave him.
That being said I am raising my daughter in a similar manner, and I know she won't take any BS from anyone, she never has, and never will. It's just who she is.
Anyway, you have this concern, and you are aware of it. I have no doubt your girls will be strong, healthy independent women.


Me: FBS
Him: FWS
Kids: 15 & 17
Married for 22 years now, was 16 at the time. .
D-Day Sept 26 2008
Fully R'd, and Happy Happy Happy

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TattoodChinaDoll
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Default  Posted: 2:03 PM, July 25th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

For me it was just one of those "really?!" moments. The producers felt it was ok for a kid to sing my girlfriend cheated on me buy not the word victim. The world is odd.


Me (BW): 32
WH: 33 TimeToManUp
Married: 11 years, together 16 years
3 daughters: 9, 5, 3, and and 2 angel babies (2013 and 2014)
D-Day: 12/21/2011
Confronted him: 12/22/2011


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unfound
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Default  Posted: 2:14 PM, July 25th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

guess it was too much trouble to change it to "right from the start you were a big ole asshole and ripped my heart of of my chest, and I your unwilling undeserving better than that faithful partner"

catchy tune.

the songs stay the same over time, and I would think girls will either find strength and solace or tragedy in them. Patsy Cline would have kicked their ass if they changed her lyrics .

[This message edited by unfound at 2:15 PM, July 25th (Thursday)]


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TattoodChinaDoll
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Default  Posted: 2:18 PM, July 25th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

^^^^^


I'd buy that CD


Me (BW): 32
WH: 33 TimeToManUp
Married: 11 years, together 16 years
3 daughters: 9, 5, 3, and and 2 angel babies (2013 and 2014)
D-Day: 12/21/2011
Confronted him: 12/22/2011


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