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User Topic: How does it happen??
sunflowergirl30
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Default  Posted: 1:59 PM, July 25th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Vent away Betrayed07, I will shut up!


Together 20yrs married 17yrs
2 kids, now 18 & 15
Bw: now 37
Wh: now 36
Mow: now 49
1st D-day EA w/mow our realtor 4-?-2007, 2nd D-day PA w/ same mow 5-29-2010

Posts: 1047 | Registered: Jul 2010 | From: Pacific Northwest
broken81
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Default  Posted: 5:41 PM, July 25th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

No matter if its the slutty OW or the sleazy WH, Why do people not have more self respect to not put themselves out there like that??!!!
I know after DDay i wanted my WH to hurt as bad as I did. I contemplated a RA but i kept coming back to thats just not me. I didnt want to lessen myself by going against my beliefs for him.
That to me is self respect.



Me BS
him fWS
M 8yrs 2 kids
DD 2/12 lies until 4/12
2.5 yr A with an OLD married whore
working on R

Posts: 232 | Registered: Sep 2012
SuperSadWife
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Default  Posted: 6:03 PM, July 25th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I agree I think I am suspicious of all women now but my male friend who's ex had an A was even suspicious of my H with his new wife. Now I even think back did he send any signals that I didn't see.. Or are we hypersensitive.
Oh I have a good one.. Tell me what y'all think..
My H was in the hospital because a routine procedure went bad. The nurse a young**** comes in and introduces herself since she's coming on shift. Ok cool.. Old nurse comes for last vitals and says she leaving.. No big deal. New nurse comes in 10 min and says she has to take vitals.. Ok.. She starts.. She keeps saying how he doesn't look sick..he's pail and in pain.. Suddenly she's pulling his gown up.. She's like to take your pulse.. I'm ok where the groin.. Then she's oh wow you are fit. Look at that six pack.. Then she proceeds to tell me how lucky I am.. And she has to palpate his stomach... Wait the other lady didn't do it. Which I mention to her.. She's like well yes I need to since I just came on.. So she's pressing his stomach and then she mentions again .. Wow your abs are so hard... And she literally starts to stroke his abdomen down to his groin.. Then she lifts up the gown and looks at his junk.. Then she asks if I am spending the night.. I was WTF bitch hell no.I walked out told her and her manager totally inappropriate asked for a different nurses. She was like no I didn't mean anything.
I think people and these women have no morals..


Me (50)BW
Him (46) FWH
DD 17 and seriously hurt by this all..
Married for 18 years..together 20yrs
EA 2009- 23 yr old that has a childhood crush on my husband. named her child after my husband...sick girl on & off +2years stopped when he started

Posts: 10 | Registered: Jul 2013 | From: Texas
sailorgirl
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Default  Posted: 6:32 PM, July 25th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

It's actually pitiful. I can't imagine having so little self-respect.

How sad for these women that they have no idea what it's like to be desired for who you are on the inside. To be admired for your intelligence, strength, kindness, and integrity. Yes, it's nice to be wanted for my body, but if that's all there is to it, how shallow and fleeting . . .

What must their role models and childhoods have been like that they are desperate to "get" a man by flashing boobs, flattery and begging?

Here's a decent idea: Be yourself. But wait, that doesn't work when there's nothing appealing or interesting or good about yourself. I would not trade places with the OW for anything.


Married 14 years, three amazing kids
H had 17 month EA/PA
D-day 1/5/13
Reconcilling

Posts: 787 | Registered: Jan 2013
sunflowergirl30
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Default  Posted: 8:09 PM, July 25th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Meh...people can really suck. Im on high alert 24/7...its draining. No, it seems a lot of people do not have ethics, character, integrity or self respect.


Together 20yrs married 17yrs
2 kids, now 18 & 15
Bw: now 37
Wh: now 36
Mow: now 49
1st D-day EA w/mow our realtor 4-?-2007, 2nd D-day PA w/ same mow 5-29-2010

Posts: 1047 | Registered: Jul 2010 | From: Pacific Northwest
BFFGone
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Default  Posted: 8:37 PM, July 25th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm in this club too!

I used to be very proud of my WH at work...so powerful...so smart....until d day and finding out his OW 's were people who worked for him way down the food chain that he "mentored".

Fancy word for fucking, huh??

I hate his whole industry now. I go to work events, and I want to glare at all of them and think of them all as whores in Armani suits.

Fun fun fun....


I choose to thrive. I choose to be happy.

That which doesn't kill me makes me stronger...but damn, aren't I strong enough yet???


Posts: 71 | Registered: Jan 2013
BFFGone
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Default  Posted: 8:41 PM, July 25th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Oh, and all the OW's met me, met my CHILDREN and slept with him in a condo we owned that was covered in pictures of me and my kids!!

Needless to say....he now works 4 days a week from home, condo sold 3 weeks ago, and there are no business social events without massive boundaries and parameters in place.

Such whores in the workplace! I had NO IDEA until the moment I did!!!


I choose to thrive. I choose to be happy.

That which doesn't kill me makes me stronger...but damn, aren't I strong enough yet???


Posts: 71 | Registered: Jan 2013
SSmile
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Default  Posted: 8:46 PM, July 25th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

These are needy, attention driven women. That is all they are. They are quit sad in my eyes. How horrible that you have to behave less than to get attention. Men, really only fuck those type of women but rarely want them as a woman. They are not tactful or have class or self respect. Just sad.

WELL SAID FAITHFUL and I agree 100%. They are pitiful and losers.


Anyone can give up, it's the easiest thing in the world to do. But to hold it together when everyone else
would understand if you fell apart, that's true strength.
-unknown

Posts: 84 | Registered: Dec 2012
sunflowergirl30
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Default  Posted: 8:50 PM, July 25th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Bffgone, thats just beyond f'd up. A lot of women arent pro other women. We women should have each others backs!

Im so disappointed in other women. I know there are amazing ones out there in the world(me) lol...no seriously im a fiercely loyal friend. Loyalty is big on my list and then integrity.

I heard a saying cant quite recall. Something about loyalty first unless it compromises your honor...

Sadly i think a lot of people just arent deep enough to even get that.


Together 20yrs married 17yrs
2 kids, now 18 & 15
Bw: now 37
Wh: now 36
Mow: now 49
1st D-day EA w/mow our realtor 4-?-2007, 2nd D-day PA w/ same mow 5-29-2010

Posts: 1047 | Registered: Jul 2010 | From: Pacific Northwest
SSmile
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Default  Posted: 8:51 PM, July 25th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

yep...The OW met my H during Basketball season for one of our kids (friends with hers). I didnt know her... flirted with him at practice and TADA--------------------------------------------------yep and the 2 others hit on him when he was away on deployment..just great huh? I DO 110% blame him but these women are a piece of work-I told him you are TAKEN..you say NO!! I AM IN LOVE WITH MY SPOUSE. I don't know if I will ever get over this...Id like to believe there still are good people in this world.


Anyone can give up, it's the easiest thing in the world to do. But to hold it together when everyone else
would understand if you fell apart, that's true strength.
-unknown

Posts: 84 | Registered: Dec 2012
hurtincolorado
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Default  Posted: 9:19 PM, July 25th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I hate to be the bearer of this comment but folks get propositioned often (unless they are a celebrity) only when they put off the vibe. Most people on the make enter slowly and give many clues before they openly proposition someone. Your other hasn't shut those opening moves off. That is why he was in that position. For many years I was the focus at work as I was single , smart, good looking and kind but everyone knew I was dating someone else and I received no overt propositions. Why? Because I didn't put off the vibe of availability.

Posts: 38 | Registered: Jul 2013 | From: Colorado
tryingmybest2011
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Default  Posted: 9:56 PM, July 25th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I've never been propositioned either. Hooted and whistled at, but nothing at work.

What kind of vibe do our WS's give off? I haven't noticed this vibe in any male coworkers either. What do they do? Smile? Laugh? I feel like I'm in school. Sluts 101.

WH's howorkers sent him vag shots. Um, why...what...I mean, c'mon. If some guy sent me pictures of his dink, it would gross me out. So very strange.


BS: me - 37
WH: him - 37
DD: 8
DD: 11 mos

Married over 9 years, together for 18.

DD#1: 12/12/10 - LTA of 3 years, 2 mos.
DD#2: 02/02/11 - 2 EA/PA with coworkers, a month after the LTA was ended (by OW).

In limbo.


Posts: 321 | Registered: Jun 2011 | From: Ontario Canada
sunflowergirl30
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Default  Posted: 11:15 PM, July 25th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Hurtincolorado, i dont agree. But thats my opinion. Im sure it can and does go down like what you described but i dont think people are always giving of that "vibe"...


Together 20yrs married 17yrs
2 kids, now 18 & 15
Bw: now 37
Wh: now 36
Mow: now 49
1st D-day EA w/mow our realtor 4-?-2007, 2nd D-day PA w/ same mow 5-29-2010

Posts: 1047 | Registered: Jul 2010 | From: Pacific Northwest
HurtButHopeful?
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Default  Posted: 11:34 PM, July 25th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

If some guy sent me pictures of his dink, it would gross me out. So very strange.

ROFLOL!! I agree!

I have good female friends that I think are moral people, but even so...I wouldn't trust them alone with my H...I guess I'm right with everyone else...I don't 100% trust anyone anymore.


Reconciliation means that we both are authentic and vulnerable. I still have my H, and he's a better man than ever!

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