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User Topic: Betrayed Men Part 12
StillGoing
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Default  Posted: 11:52 AM, August 22nd (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Debating if I should make some crab apple cider this fall, then let it freeze outside and remove the ice.

Bad idea:

Today, freeze distillation of alcoholic beverages is illegal in many countries, as it carries certain health hazards -- a number of unwanted by-products of fermentation (which are mostly removed by heat distillation) tend to accumulate in freeze-distilled beverages to an unhealthy level. (The rate that a solution will separate fusel alcohols during freeze distillation is a function of the difference in freezing points of the important alcohols. This tends to not be as good as a method of separation as heat distillation but it is not true that there is not separation.)

The best-known freeze distilled beverage is probably applejack where apple cider is frozen and the ice is removed. Ice wine is the result of a similar process, but in this case, the freezing happens before the fermentation, and thus it is sugar, not alcohol, that gets concentrated. Eisbock is also made by freeze distillation and is made by freezing the water from beer.


http://wiki.homedistiller.org/Freeze_distillation

Don't go blind man.

eta:

To touch on the topic of "alpha-ness" and all that jazz...I've been reading this book lately and it's really cool/inspirational. It's called "The Art of Manliness - Manvotionals: Timeless Wisdom and Advice on Living the 7 Manly Virtues"

For a sec I thought you meant the book by Maddox, which is still awesome:

[This message edited by StillGoing at 11:55 AM, August 22nd (Thursday)]


“Fate is a fickle bitch who dotes on irony.”

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Betrayed444
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Default  Posted: 12:11 PM, August 22nd (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

As the Hoff always says
"Stay Alpha"
See you all in the next thread
On to 13!

[This message edited by Betrayed444 at 12:12 PM, August 22nd (Thursday)]


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DefiledRage
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Default  Posted: 12:13 PM, August 22nd (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

jjct:
should clarify that paragraph was about my WW's mother not my WW herself. I don't think I'd classify any of the kids has having full blown NPD. Though I admit growing up under the same roof with that much crazy, all of them have had some of it rub off. They all struggle because they learned that affection comes with stipulations. Still I hear you, don't think I not more than a little concerned about it, especially considering all of the are showing stronger traits of NPD as they get older.

Although the following three things have been fairly common occurrences in the past 5 years of our relationship.

1. Circular conversations
7. You begin explaining basic human emotions
9. “What in the world just happened”

Number 7 explaination of basic human emotions is a direct result of never seeing things like empathy growing up.
After DDay one of my stipulations for R was mother-in-law is effectively dead to me and my children. Has been one positive thing I've gained post Dday anyway. Don't have to worry about her calling, running through #1 to #9 in one 15 minute conversation with my wife, then having to deal with the fallout myself.

SG:
That book cover got me thinking. Wouldn't that be a good line to use when running into a poser.
"Bitch don't fuck with me, I punch gorillas just because I can!"
Exudes awesomeness.

****ETA
That pic of Hoff looks like it belongs on the side of a bus.

[This message edited by DefiledRage at 12:18 PM, August 22nd (Thursday)]


Me:35 WW:34 M:13yrs
3 young children
Dday 1 EA 7/8/2010
Dday 2 PA 3/1/2013 same OMM for 4yrs

Mister rabbit says, "A moment of realization is worth a thousand prayers."


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Tred
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Default  Posted: 12:18 PM, August 22nd (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Can we trade that picture of the Hoff for one of Dogs Playing Poker or a an Elvis black velvet for the bar?


Married: 16 years (14 @JFO)
D-Day: 11/09/11
"Ohhhhh...shut up Tred!" - NOT the official SI motto (DS)

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RyeBread
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Default  Posted: 12:18 PM, August 22nd (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I don't know about that one SG, the guy is wearing a jean skirt


Let him that would move the world first move himself. - Socrates

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PowerGlo
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Default  Posted: 12:26 PM, August 22nd (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Just something to consider - where do you think your STBX is getting these ideas?

Not sure I am following Tred? In the beginning it came from her single, immoral friends. Now who knows. Same shit as the rest of us though. FOO issues galore, needed validation, blameshifter to the core. I am still being blamed for all of her transgressions.


Married 27 years...
DDay #1 11/11/11 - AFF profile with 10-15 boy toys.
DDay #2 1/13/2012 - still at it with the AFF boys.
1/17/2014 - Divorced
I knew the moment had arrived
For killing the past and coming back to life


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StillGoing
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Default  Posted: 12:28 PM, August 22nd (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I don't know about that one SG, the guy is wearing a jean skirt

I think that's his way of saying he is so manly he fears no cockpunch.


“Fate is a fickle bitch who dotes on irony.”

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Tred
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Default  Posted: 12:31 PM, August 22nd (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

PG,

You were married over 20 something years, right? And I'm pretty sure that you never saw this in her. It may be she has someone "new" in her circle of friends that is advising her and it's in their best interest to make your life hell. Maybe a player looking to insert himself into the comfortable life you built for the family. Just a thought.


Married: 16 years (14 @JFO)
D-Day: 11/09/11
"Ohhhhh...shut up Tred!" - NOT the official SI motto (DS)

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Default  Posted: 12:31 PM, August 22nd (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

haha...right on.

In relation to my popeye quote:


Let him that would move the world first move himself. - Socrates

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StillGoing
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Default  Posted: 12:32 PM, August 22nd (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

lol, that looks like my granddad.

I miss my granddad.


“Fate is a fickle bitch who dotes on irony.”

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64fleet
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Default  Posted: 12:35 PM, August 22nd (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Random customer just came in, pushin 60, said his 27yr M went down the crapper, he's living in a rented house across the road from his place(ex owns it now). Shit is epidemic, guys. Neighbors is his family now...

I want grandchildren, but urge my son to stay single.


time wounds all heels

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Default  Posted: 12:49 PM, August 22nd (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

On the topic of "this shit can happen to anyone", you guys see that Tim Duncan's wife was banging her trainer? I mean TIM DUNCAN, WTF? I guess he was too nice/ beta?


The choices we make reveal the true nature of our character

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DefiledRage
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Default  Posted: 12:50 PM, August 22nd (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

T-Minus 7


Me:35 WW:34 M:13yrs
3 young children
Dday 1 EA 7/8/2010
Dday 2 PA 3/1/2013 same OMM for 4yrs

Mister rabbit says, "A moment of realization is worth a thousand prayers."


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DWBH
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Default  Posted: 12:51 PM, August 22nd (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Anyone else here need to go back on AD’s?

I had a failed attempt to go off mine, a couple of months ago. It was a disaster. I got very low, and my sense of perspective was just whacked/nonexistent. I was 3.5 weeks into a 4 week weaning process, and finally just said fuck it, and went back to my full dose. I won't even consider trying again for a couple of years.

No shame in this at all. I realize now my brain just isn't wired for being 'happy'. I've got some OCD traits which can really derail my mood, and the AD seems to take enough of the edge off to keep me sane.


Me: BH, 43
Her: FWW, 41 (ThornyRose)
M: 16 years, together 19
2 Daughters: 14 and 12
D Day: 9/25/2011; Lies & TT to 5/4/2012
~Double betrayal; caught them in the act~

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Tred
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Default  Posted: 12:54 PM, August 22nd (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

He just divorced her. There is a lot more to the story - there are rumors he had a gay boyfriend who used to live with him and his wife, and he was letting her bang her trainer in hopes that his gay lifestyle wouldn't come out in a divorce proceeding. Since the D was done in a secret hearing, hard to tell.


Married: 16 years (14 @JFO)
D-Day: 11/09/11
"Ohhhhh...shut up Tred!" - NOT the official SI motto (DS)

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Default  Posted: 12:58 PM, August 22nd (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Shit, pressure is on now. This thread is rolling over at the wrong time...I'm away from home computer!


My Friends call me Wonderboy--That's Mr. SuperduperWonderboy to you Tred.


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Betrayed444
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SuperDuperWonderboy
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Default  Posted: 1:25 PM, August 22nd (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I think it is pretty near time for a new thread!


My Friends call me Wonderboy--That's Mr. SuperduperWonderboy to you Tred.


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Default  Posted: 1:30 PM, August 22nd (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'll sneak my first post here in right before the change. Maybe no one will notice.


BS 39
fWS 36 (SurprisinglyOkay)
DD DS
A whole bunch of shit that got a lot worse before it got better. Reconciled from the A's but still working hard for a better tomorrow.
"Knowing is half the battle"

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Good night all. Don't forget to lock up!



My Friends call me Wonderboy--That's Mr. SuperduperWonderboy to you Tred.


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