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User Topic: Betrayed Men Part 12
SuperDuperWonderboy
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Default  Posted: 8:30 PM, July 25th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Has it started already?
I was wondering about that. Gonna be interesting for a bit.


My Friends call me Wonderboy--That's Mr. SuperduperWonderboy to you Tred.


Posts: 1267 | Registered: Feb 2012 | From: Everett
jjct
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Default  Posted: 8:34 PM, July 25th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

It's a tarp.

bastiges.
As soon as they glom onto a good thing, like freedom,
and SI
they seek to destroy it.

be wary. be wise my brothers.
they truly are evil. mask-erading in masks.
see behind them.


Posts: 6020 | Registered: Dec 2007 | From: texas
Stillkicking
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Default  Posted: 9:10 PM, July 25th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Ment to post to this earlier, but I put my phone down and forgot about it, an somehow couldn't remember where I left off on the thread lol guess I have a slight case of sumtimers, anyway;

It has me wanting to tell my wife I am leaving for no other reason than I have discovered she is a dumbass.

Seriously laughed my ass later...
Circle takes the square.

[This message edited by Stillkicking at 9:11 PM, July 25th (Thursday)]


You'll never learn to fly
until your standing at the cliff

I reserve my right to feel uncomfortable reserve my right to be afraid.
I make mistakes and I am humbled every step of the way.


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jjct
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Default  Posted: 9:26 PM, July 25th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

pawn take queen

Posts: 6020 | Registered: Dec 2007 | From: texas
StillGoing
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Default  Posted: 9:27 PM, July 25th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

They can try to kill SI with stupid, but they've been trying to kill the Internet with that for 20 years and it's just getting bigger and cooler.

Yep, it's the 20th anniversary of the implementation of classless routing for the interwebz~


“Fate is a fickle bitch who dotes on irony.”

Posts: 7115 | Registered: May 2010 | From: USA
noescape
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Default  Posted: 10:34 PM, July 25th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

SG, i always knew the interwebz lacked class... bring back carrier pigeons, ink and paper.....

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WakingFromADream
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Default  Posted: 12:43 AM, July 26th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

That's no barrier. They'll just use IPoAC (IP over Avian Carrier) (RFC 1149) ...

(so...what does that say about me that I know that even exists... )


Me(35) XWW(36) DS(7) DD 11/16/11 EA(PA?) M 11y D 9/3/13

Don't make anyone a priority when you are only an option.


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noescape
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Default  Posted: 1:00 AM, July 26th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

OMG!!!! lol, but your knowledge is incomplete... its being superseded by RFC 6214 'Adaptation of RFC 1149 for IPv6' and RFC 2549
'IP over Avian Carriers with Quality of Service'


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Betrayed444
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Default  Posted: 8:52 AM, July 26th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Holy thread 12!
Just checking in
That thread we shall not speak up is straight up justification bullshit.
The shakes. Yeah I got those. It was like an excorcism of all the pure things I though of WW exiting my body as the realization of what a lying deceiving bitch she was setting in. In addition to the dry heaves because my stomachs was constantly in knots because I had no idea how to get a grasp of the situation.
Things are going as well as can be. Financially I'm not ready to depart on my own but look foward to 30 grand in pay raises and declining debt in the next couple of years.
WW is doing her best at R. In some ways I think the worst is behind me now I just have to concentrate on myself. She seems to be trying or maybe it's just me not giving a fuck or engaging her when she attempts to bait me into conversations regarding her low self esteem.
Seriously well be in bed and ill hear
My nails look bad I need a pedicure
My hair looks bad I need a Brazilian blow out
I'm getting fat
I'm going to cut my hair and color it brown.
My new standard response " sorry you feel that way" got it here. Works like a charm. No drama and she drops it. I used to get sucked right in or allow her to make an appt.
not my problem. And as a bonus she seems to be more productive.
Stay strong brothers

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Stillkicking
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Default  Posted: 9:11 AM, July 26th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

In relation to the shakes which I had really bad, now it's just a constant minor tremors, did or does anyone else have any issues with their memory since dday? I now have trouble remembering even the smallest things, it drives me crazy.


You'll never learn to fly
until your standing at the cliff

I reserve my right to feel uncomfortable reserve my right to be afraid.
I make mistakes and I am humbled every step of the way.


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Tred
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Default  Posted: 9:19 AM, July 26th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I still get them - usually at night when I lie down for bed. They were so bad in the early days that I'd get in the tub and my wife would throw in a load of clothes. I ended rupturing my L4 and had to have emergency back surgery - I still have some paralysis down the left side of my leg (which really suck for my golf game). It's not as bad now but I would of made Linda Blair look normal in the early days. Sans the head spinning around and vomiting green pea soup. I don't have any issues with memory per se, more with attention. I'll disassociate, like when driving, I'll realize that I don't remember how I got to where I'm at. It's kind of disconcerting.


Married: 16 years (14 @JFO)
D-Day: 11/09/11
"Ohhhhh...shut up Tred!" - NOT the official SI motto (DS)

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Later
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Default  Posted: 9:25 AM, July 26th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Yeah SK, I have problems with memory, concentration - particularly of the absent minded variety. Like walking around looking for my keys - and then realizing I am actually driving my car and I really need to get back into the driver's seat.

Seriously though I think it is largely due to sleep deprivation and the fact that the human brain can only effectively concentrate on one thing at a time. If your mind is preoccupied you are going to have memory issues.

ETA - was actually posting this when Tred was posting. Disclaim any and all suggestions I am hanging on his nuts by bringing up autos as well.

[This message edited by Later at 9:30 AM, July 26th (Friday)]


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Betrayed444
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Default  Posted: 9:29 AM, July 26th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

In relation to the shakes which I had really bad, now it's just a constant minor tremors, did or does anyone else have any issues with their memory since dday? I now have trouble remembering even the smallest things, it drives me crazy.

Oh no. Quite the opposite. Hyper vigilant. Ill tell you what works though, take co-Q-10. Great stuff. In addition take plenty of vitamins.
I take animal vitamin paks
http://www.bodybuilding.com/store/univ/animalpak.html
The stress you have been putting on your body takes a toll after awhile. You can easily drain your cognitive skills if you don't take care of yourself. Eat, hydrate properly, and work out.
It's all too easy to neglect yourself. Break out of your mold and use that stress to better yourself. Become more mentally and physically fit. Your actually in a battle right now with yourself and WW wife for better control of your life. Your breaking an unhealthy symbiotic relationship you once had that lulled you into a false sense of security.
The above is what helped me. Although I had already been doing that I kicked it up a notch. I also went out from time to time and spent time with friends with no regards to how WW felt. It was important to break out of the cage I found myself in and mingle again. A club here and there did me a world of good. I was able to see that there was a life out there and I wasn't alone.
I'm still navigating my way through this obstacle course but the above is what helped.

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5454real
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Default  Posted: 10:34 AM, July 26th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

yeah I still get the shakes, mostly at night or under stress.

I didn't get the head spinning around thing, but I did do the puking pea soup for the first 60 to 90 days. quickest 35 pounds I've ever lost.


BH 50, WW 41
DS 23(Mine),SD 21,SS 19(Hers),DS 8 Ours, DGS 2 1/2
D=Day #1 5/04EA (Rugswept)
D-Day #2 3/10/12, TT til 3/13/12
Married 10yrs
“I have no love for a friend who loves in words alone.”
― Sophocles, Antigone

Posts: 2070 | Registered: Nov 2012 | From: midwest
StillGoing
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Default  Posted: 10:38 AM, July 26th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I have a shoddy memory to begin with, so that hasn't been an issue for me. The upside is I get to re-read my favorite books because I forget the ending unless I google it. It was something else that was fucked up during the A in fact; since I questioned my own perspective of reality every red flag I confronted her with was explained away, and "You aren't remembering it the right way" was a common theme.

Exercise definitely does help, with damn near everything honestly. Unless you have a bad heart or broken legs or something, probably don't want to run or anything.

Unrelated, I went on a GIS for "hairy ogre belly" (It was SI related believe it or not) but forgot I had safesearch off. Other people seem to get crazy porn and shit, me, I get GIANT FUCKING SPIDERS.


“Fate is a fickle bitch who dotes on irony.”

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Betrayed444
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Default  Posted: 11:19 AM, July 26th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Spider porn!
Shit that thing is scary
Reminds me:
I gotta call WW

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atsenaotie
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Default  Posted: 11:33 AM, July 26th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Memory yes, names of people and things especially.

Shakes no, but I have ground the bite surfaces of most of my molars. Night bite guards and two gold crowns on teeth in the back that chipped or broke. Both parts of the new me since dday.


LTA BS 53
FWW 60
M 1990, dday 10-5-09
Reconciled

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thinkingclear
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Default  Posted: 11:35 AM, July 26th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I haven't experienced the shakes or tremors but definitely can relate to the dissociative almost out of body feelings. I have tended to vacillate between being hyper-vigilant and completely in a daze. At times it feels like being in the Matrix and all time tends to stand still.

I envy those with some memory issues. I would agree that the mind can only process so much at one time, but it seems as if the whole ordeal of her A is a subroutine that is continually running in the background of my mind. I can tune it out to a certain degree, but not for long. My memory, at least of the painful things, seems to be too good for my own good. I can remember her facial expressions, what she was wearing, season it was said for a lot the painful exchanges over the last couple years. I can remember the content of our phone conversation and the time I hung up the phone while we talked Aug 13, 2011 while I was away in Dallas for the night and the POSER was right next to her in our house.

I will try to co-Q-10. Got nothing to loose.


BS - Me
WW - Her
10 month EA/PA

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Betrayed444
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Default  Posted: 11:59 AM, July 26th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Co-Q-10
And Curve
Unstoppable

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thinkingclear
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Default  Posted: 12:03 PM, July 26th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Got the Curve thing going on right now. A quick stop at GNC on the way home and I'll be good to go.


BS - Me
WW - Her
10 month EA/PA

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