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User Topic: Betrayed Men Part 12
numb&dumb
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Default  Posted: 3:41 PM, July 30th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Congrats WAL !


Me-35 her-35

DS 1, DD 6
Dday 8/31/11. ONS that occurred 3 years earlier. Lied to for 3 years.

Every truth comes to light in a long enough timeline.


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LosferWords
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Default  Posted: 4:03 PM, July 30th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

That's awesome! Congrats, WAL!

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Sal1995
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Default  Posted: 4:03 PM, July 30th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

WAL, thanks for completely erasing all of the negative energy I injected with my last post. Damn you.

Seriously, congratulations brother. That's great news and a reminder that it won't always be this crappy.


Me-45
WW-42
DDay 2/17/13, 10 month PA/EA
Final NC late Feb. '13
M - 18 years, together 19+
4 children

Reconciled


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Tred
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Default  Posted: 4:59 PM, July 30th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

That's great for you and Wincing WAL!


Married: 16 years (14 @JFO)
D-Day: 11/09/11
"Ohhhhh...shut up Tred!" - NOT the official SI motto (DS)

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SuperDuperWonderboy
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Default  Posted: 5:11 PM, July 30th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Good stuff there WAL


My Friends call me Wonderboy--That's Mr. SuperduperWonderboy to you Tred.


Posts: 1267 | Registered: Feb 2012 | From: Everett
jjct
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Default  Posted: 5:12 PM, July 30th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

That's wonderful wal!

Posts: 6012 | Registered: Dec 2007 | From: texas
5454real
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Default  Posted: 5:13 PM, July 30th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

definitely, congratulations to both of you.


BH 50, WW 41
DS 23(Mine),SD 21,SS 19(Hers),DS 8 Ours, DGS 2 1/2
D=Day #1 5/04EA (Rugswept)
D-Day #2 3/10/12, TT til 3/13/12
Married 10yrs
“I have no love for a friend who loves in words alone.”
― Sophocles, Antigone

Posts: 2068 | Registered: Nov 2012 | From: midwest
thinkingclear
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Default  Posted: 5:19 PM, July 30th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Congratulations WAL.


BS - Me
WW - Her
10 month EA/PA

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noescape
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Default  Posted: 5:19 PM, July 30th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

great news WAL, those kids are blessed :) i'm so happy for you both... 5 & 2 are amazing ages, you'll have hours of glee (not that stupid show)

i wont comment on the other stuff, but my brother jj may know where this is coming from (i know you all will, but he's our bard here) - it hit me like a ton of bricks on the drive home today and i couldn't hold back the tears (something wrong with me, this song is pretty funny), so i leave you with this....

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4OaTaEX8Kh8

how can you look at me as I was just another one of your deals?

well you can fall for chains of silver you can fall for chains of gold
you can fall for pretty strangers and the promises they hold
you promised me everything you promised me thick and thin
now you just say oh romeo yeah you know I used to have a scene with him

juliet when we made love you used to cry
you said I love you like the stars above I'll love you till I die

for those who need to snap back (if those lyrics pain you too... it helped me jerk out of that melancholy mood):

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=x-64CaD8GXw


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slater13
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Default  Posted: 5:35 PM, July 30th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I found a letter I had written to my wife deep into the A (it lasted 3 years). It was pathetic. I never sent it to her, but I was blaming myself and saying I was sorry for my jealousy. I had a really rough night. It took me right back to those nights. I sent the letter to her with a nasty email attached.

She actually took it well. She was devastated. It was a real glimpse into the beast she had created. My soul had been stolen, mostly because I let her do it. Never again. I define my self worth now.


The choices we make reveal the true nature of our character

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WhiskeyRiver
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Default  Posted: 7:41 PM, July 30th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

how can you look at me as I was just another one of your deals?

well you can fall for chains of silver you can fall for chains of gold
you can fall for pretty strangers and the promises they hold
you promised me everything you promised me thick and thin
now you just say oh romeo yeah you know I used to have a scene with him

juliet when we made love you used to cry
you said I love you like the stars above I'll love you till I die

This is just an anecdote that I heard back in college, so no way to actually verify it, but....Mark Knopfler did in fact write this song about a girlfriend whom he felt used him to propel herself to greater musical fame.

The story that I heard was from a friend who saw them play on a night around the time that his second wife left him sometime in the early 90s, and that it was the most devastatingly beautiful version of the song that they'd ever played. No way to confirm the veracity of this, but I like the story.


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jjct
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Default  Posted: 7:45 PM, July 30th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

She took it well but was devastated? Ahhh, do you mean her devastation was a sign that she took it well? (as a sign of true remorse...good for you?)

I see. Opposites and contradictions drive me. The declarations of love vs. the unfaithfulness.
Is it no wonder I'm a fan of counterintuitive? No. Not to me.

I could write at least two poems about what was said during taking vows.
I prefer words I can understand during the noise of music.
This was done live.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fay1uk7wpnQ

Funny. Can you hear every word?
Have you ever heard John Mayall's Room to Move?

or Willis Allan Ramsey's Spider John?

Words stories blah blah blah. Even this will disappear in the ephemera that is the internet.
What touches the heart.
And leaves marks on it.
Is different.

Then the old songs and poems make sense. These are the things of truth. Truth is that which does not change.
Just told in different ways.


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jjct
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Default  Posted: 7:51 PM, July 30th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Oh and please. I forgot to say.
Turn your speakers UP.

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wifehad5
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Default  Posted: 7:59 PM, July 30th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

We're about to be parents again, and I can't even relate how excited I am for these additions to our family.

This is the definition of badass. I'm in awe. Have fun with this


FBH - 42
FWW - 43 (BrokenRoad)
2 kids 7&12

The people you do your life with shape the life you live


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Default  Posted: 8:43 PM, July 30th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Congratulations, WAL!

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Itsgoingtobeok
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Default  Posted: 3:08 AM, July 31st (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

First - congrats Wal - they will bring much happiness .
I remember our mc tell us this
" Women have A for emotional reasons and men have A for the sex " I tend to agree to a point but I'm sure my WW had A'ers just for the different dick ! Our mc made it seem like w don't have A'ers for sex .


BS-(52)
WS-49
married 28 yrs
Kid's -2
A- several
DD- 12-10-12
Starting recovery

"I don't understand the world today I don't understand what she needs I gave her everything she threw it all away" tom petty


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noescape
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Default  Posted: 4:27 AM, July 31st (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

No way to confirm the veracity of this, but I like the story.

WR, the final chorus, his voice is so broken that the emotions ARE real. Touched me.

jj, yes, the truth resonates through time... Words... Stories... We'll all end, they won't, not for a long time at least.

Igbo, yeah, men are the dirty dogs and women are the oh so pained princesses.FTN. We've seen enough here to know better about those kinds of stereotypes. The more I read, the more I realise that a lot of women use their naughty bits to manipulate a lot of their relationships with men; both personal and professional, yet the gender with the bad rep on sexuality is men, how'd that happen????


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Default  Posted: 5:30 AM, July 31st (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Congratulations WAL that's wonderful news!


BH: 45
fWW: 44
Beautiful 7 year old daughter
Married 21 years, Together 27 - High School Sweethearts
Reconciling

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Stillkicking
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Default  Posted: 8:56 AM, July 31st (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Congrats WAL!!!

At one of my previous jobs, there was this guy and girl, and this girl would pursue this guy to no end but the dude would would avoid this girl like the plague (they were both single). Anyways, we where all out for drinks after work and she wound up getting super hammered and just starting kissing this dude outta no place, the next day he got fired for an inappropriate work relationship, when he didn't even do shit.
Of course nothing happened to her because she was so innocent. Fuck those balls.


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until your standing at the cliff

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I make mistakes and I am humbled every step of the way.


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Ascendant
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Default  Posted: 1:32 PM, July 31st (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Any of you gentlemen have any great ideas for a 30th birthday party? Mine's coming up soon, looking for inspiration.


“Anyone who has a continuous smile on his face conceals a toughness that is almost frightening.”

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