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User Topic: Betrayed Men Part 12
Sal1995
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Default  Posted: 5:05 PM, July 26th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Wonderboy, his wife wised up and divorced his ass years ago, so now he's a middle-aged divorcee who trolls for women in country music clubs. Otherwise, she'd have found out on Day 2 or 3, right around the time I was able to drag myself out of bed.


Me-45
WW-42
DDay 2/17/13, 10 month PA/EA
Final NC late Feb. '13
M - 18 years, together 19+
4 children

Reconciled


Posts: 1035 | Registered: Apr 2013 | From: Texas
Betrayed444
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Default  Posted: 5:16 PM, July 26th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Sal1995 - BUT she handled it like a champ. Kudos.

Devils Advocate
Do you ever check cell phone records? At your level of alertness you would sniff this number out in no time.
Perhaps he forgot to dial *82 to hide his number and she freaked the fuck out. WW's tend to fuck up. Shit that's how many of them get caught.
Don't get gas lighted! I'm just saying don't be so ready to accept her story so quickly.
It might be wise for your safety to at least know what dip shit looks like. He could stalk you and you would never see it coming. Who knows how desperate he is if he is still calling her. I'd say he's suicidal. We can't have her seeing douche bag taking chances.

I'm pretty pissed off bro. I would be absolutely unhinged. Of course I would point out how wise it was for her to alert you but I have a feeling you would have found out.
On that note I commend your restraint. Hurting this coward will get you nowhere. Don't jeopardize your career or safety. You so have every right to be pissed about another man clandestinely trying to contact your wife intentionally and knowing that it is totally not acceptable. That's bullshit man.

[This message edited by Betrayed444 at 5:21 PM, July 26th (Friday)]


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Sal1995
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Default  Posted: 5:27 PM, July 26th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thanks Losferwords. Actually we have a really good cautionary tale in my neck of the woods from about 5 years ago. A guy who was pretty high up in the Fire Dept. confronted his cheating wife and her AP and ended up killing them both in a fit of rage. Then he blew his own brains out when the cops came to make the arrest. Pretty tough price to pay for someone else's bad behavior, huh?


Me-45
WW-42
DDay 2/17/13, 10 month PA/EA
Final NC late Feb. '13
M - 18 years, together 19+
4 children

Reconciled


Posts: 1035 | Registered: Apr 2013 | From: Texas
Sal1995
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Default  Posted: 5:30 PM, July 26th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Do you ever check cell phone records? At your level of alertness you would sniff this number out in no time.

Yes, frequently. Not only do I check the records but I check what numbers are blocked in our plan, and his has been consistently blocked. I knew that there was a time limit on the blocks but got complacent I guess and didn't tell my wife to update the block periodically.

I get your concern, but this one passes the smell test.

Your comment about knowing what he looks like is food for thought, though. Thanks man.

ETA: My wife just called me with her new cell number. Apparently you can change it over the phone with a customer service representative without having to go into the store. The funny thing was how excited and relieved she sounded, almost like a kid calling a parent to report that she made a good grade, or got selected for the cheerleading team. It would be funny if the underlying subject wasn't so tragic.

Life seemed so much simpler one page ago, when I was joking about getting eaten by giant house cats.

[This message edited by Sal1995 at 6:18 PM, July 26th (Friday)]


Me-45
WW-42
DDay 2/17/13, 10 month PA/EA
Final NC late Feb. '13
M - 18 years, together 19+
4 children

Reconciled


Posts: 1035 | Registered: Apr 2013 | From: Texas
Betrayed444
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Default  Posted: 5:40 PM, July 26th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Cool
Just making sure your heads in the game. I'm glad she told you and it checks out. Says a lot about her commitment. It was brave of her to get up the nerve and tell you.

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StillGoing
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Default  Posted: 5:59 PM, July 26th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

It might be wise for your safety to at least know what dip shit looks like. He could stalk you and you would never see it coming. Who knows how desperate he is if he is still calling her.

This is really good advice. I know I sound like a pussy for saying it, but don't go after the guy if there's no immediate threat that requires removing him as one. I would still revel in beating the hell out of OM, and it's 3 years later, but there's too much damage to be done down that road to salve my ego, and he'd have still fucked my wife anyway.

If he is lurking in your bushes and shit though, game on and bring the bat for round one IMO.


“Fate is a fickle bitch who dotes on irony.”

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MoreWould
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Default  Posted: 6:10 PM, July 26th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Sal,

Caution advised, but it sounds like your WW handled it well. I wish mine had.

POSER called her sporadically for 20 years after the A. She's says she didn't appreciate it, even as she admits he hit on her every time.

But she also didn't lay down the hammer, didn't want to "hurt his feelings". Fuck that.

I knew about some of the calls because he had our landline but not her cellphone number. But like they say, "There's 50 rats for every one you see."

So, good she ratted him out to you. Bad he called. "Danger Will Robinson".


Me BH/WH, 63
Her WW/BW, 62
Her DDay Dec 1976 OMW at the door
My DDay, ~ 2years later, confessed ONS the next day
R via "Sweeping under the rug"
Still married, 40 yrs, mostly OK
2 kids, 24 & 20

Posts: 347 | Registered: Jan 2013 | From: Colorado
Betrayed444
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Default  Posted: 6:12 PM, July 26th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

You never know. I've seen it before. You may have no choice to defend yourself if he's becoming that brazen. You don't know that piece of shit or how dangerous he could be. You already know he has no morals or character. His wife left him and you said he has basically nothing to lose.

A one night stand with a nobody is one thing. I'm betting he knows where you live, who you are, where you work, and what you look like.

Sending a pm

[This message edited by Betrayed444 at 6:15 PM, July 26th (Friday)]


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Stillkicking
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Default  Posted: 7:06 PM, July 26th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Sounds like your wife gets it Sal, but of course vigilance as always.

I had some warranty issues wife my escape that my wife drives (they used to spend all their breaks together in there so Poser knows the ride) and due to logistics, I had to take it to the dealership that poser now works at, I wasn't very happy about it to say the least. Anyways I didn't run into him but he did see it in there and of course texted my wife something along the lines of "hey ms. Sk. I seen your truck in here and wandered over to make sure they where doing a good job. How is it going by the way". She texted him saying thanks (showed me the text) nothing else of course she could have deleted a whole conversation and I would be none the wiser as iMessages don't show up on the bill. Anyways she showe me right after and I flipped my shit, she was confused as she "only" texted one word. I said to her that is ten fucking thousand words too many and she should have ignored it.
As far as I can tell there hasn't been any contact since so whatever.
Anyways that is a big step forward Sal just stay vigilante


You'll never learn to fly
until your standing at the cliff

I reserve my right to feel uncomfortable reserve my right to be afraid.
I make mistakes and I am humbled every step of the way.


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DefiledRage
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Default  Posted: 7:14 PM, July 26th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Sal
She let you know right away, that is a good thing in my book.
Poser sent mine a text, got my electronic alert, then had to wait for her to tell me about it. Even though she didn't respond, let her know that I should be told IMMEDIATLY! The knowing and waiting for confession was the worst part of it.
Geez don't care if it was her birthday, she didn't want to ruin it by telling me and making me mad. Too late for that.

[This message edited by DefiledRage at 7:15 PM, July 26th (Friday)]


Me:35 WW:34 M:13yrs
3 young children
Dday 1 EA 7/8/2010
Dday 2 PA 3/1/2013 same OMM for 4yrs

Mister rabbit says, "A moment of realization is worth a thousand prayers."


Posts: 427 | Registered: May 2013 | From: Two blocks from south shit and west hell
LosferWords
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Default  Posted: 7:18 PM, July 26th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

That's a horrible story, Sal. You are right. Big price to pay. Not worth it. Too many good days ahead of us to do something like that.

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DefiledRage
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Default  Posted: 7:24 PM, July 26th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

To the weekend fellas!

Sorry, already drank all the YETI


[This message edited by DefiledRage at 7:26 PM, July 26th (Friday)]


Me:35 WW:34 M:13yrs
3 young children
Dday 1 EA 7/8/2010
Dday 2 PA 3/1/2013 same OMM for 4yrs

Mister rabbit says, "A moment of realization is worth a thousand prayers."


Posts: 427 | Registered: May 2013 | From: Two blocks from south shit and west hell
LosferWords
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Default  Posted: 7:26 PM, July 26th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Oh man... I heart Arrogant Bastard.

Cheers!


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stilllovingher
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Default  Posted: 7:47 PM, July 26th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

the wife got me one of those on this last Father's Day, yummmm.


The only difference between a butt kisser and a brown noser is depth perception.
I'm sure WAL would agree.

Posts: 2385 | Registered: Oct 2010 | From: still BFE, but now BFE, CA
stilllovingher
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Default  Posted: 7:58 PM, July 26th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I said "1" but it was actually a 32 ouncer.


The only difference between a butt kisser and a brown noser is depth perception.
I'm sure WAL would agree.

Posts: 2385 | Registered: Oct 2010 | From: still BFE, but now BFE, CA
LosferWords
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Default  Posted: 8:08 PM, July 26th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Dude... 32 ounces is the size all beers should be.

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stilllovingher
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Default  Posted: 8:29 PM, July 26th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

you know, I just don't drink fast enough to keep those last 8oz cold.
unless I'm TRYING to get drunk, which is like once or twice a year...so I'd be good a 24 ouncer I guess.

either way, that bastard was really freakin good, I'd say its somewhere between a fosters and a Guinness.


The only difference between a butt kisser and a brown noser is depth perception.
I'm sure WAL would agree.

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LosferWords
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Default  Posted: 9:10 PM, July 26th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

With ales, I don't usually mind if they warm up a bit. Especially Guinness. Half the time I start my Guinness out at room temp from the get-go.

Cheaper pilsners, though, they gotta be ice cold.


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stilllovingher
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Default  Posted: 9:19 PM, July 26th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Cheaper pilsners, though, they gotta be ice cold

yup, that way you can't actually taste them


The only difference between a butt kisser and a brown noser is depth perception.
I'm sure WAL would agree.

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jjct
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Default  Posted: 9:16 AM, July 27th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

There was a bar in Houston I went to that serves only locally made brews.
Was down there for a gtg with a buddy, and we had the whole place to ourselves.
Called the Public House, in the Heights, I think...though some of you might want to call it "Heaven on Earth" lol!

We drank mainly sample sizes, with running commentary & discussion with the bartender lady. Pretty good education. I learned that I definitely don't like hoppy beers - tastes like piss to me. I'm positive it's a "DNA thing".
Big Bark, produced here by Live Oak brewery is I think a lager. Amber. Smoo-ooth!

If any of you can make it here for the Sept. gtg, I'm buying the 1st pitcher.
I go for Guinness if it's not available, but in the scorching heat down here, it's a little heavy.
The "beach beer" when I was back east, is Rolling Rock.
Any more, I think the only fully American-owned big bottler is Yeungling.
I won't touch anything from Inbev - even though I used to work at Busch Gardens! - Inbev is evil, using unethical strong-arm tactics to crush the local micro-breweries.
Fuck Tecate too.

Speaking of memory-loss...
Losfer?
How long the hell have you had the color upgrade?
All this time?

Congratulations man!

One other thing.
Sal & the others working toward R, man, that's heart-warming to me. Hope all the WW's pass the smell test!


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