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User Topic: N P D Thread - Part 12
ChoosingHope
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Default  Posted: 1:54 PM, January 29th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Every person that I let into my life that is real, has a heart, will help me to live a happy life again.

I believe this, CAN. It takes courage to be vulnerable, to tell our stories and to risk being hurt again. But when we are met with empathy and compassion by others, it makes all the difference.

I think I underestimated some people when my NPD nightmare first began. I didn't think anyone would understand. And maybe most people don't truly understand. But they can show empathy. And that makes all the difference.

Quick update here. The smear campaign continues here, and now SA OW is contributing to it. I'm exhausted, but trying to focus only on what matters during a child evaluation: my parenting, my stability, and the reasons why SA NPD and his SA OW continue to e a danger to the children.

I'm exhausted. 2.5 years of this now. Someone today asked me if he will appeal any decision by the judge, and I realized the answer is yes. Not only that, but the attorneys are worried he'll try to sue all of us (including the law firm!) in civil court after it's all over. He's after my non-marital assets. Some days I wonder if it will ever be over.


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shakeitoff
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Default  Posted: 2:42 PM, January 29th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Well I gave himthe separation papers and he is being very unnaturally calm. I considered seeking help from DVshelter but the last time he hit me, I snapped and hit him back - ALOT. He went to work with a shiner and I'm terrified that they will send me to jail. I had a bloody nose but unfortunately my only witness is a 7 month old baby and my 7 yo daughter. He has his entire platoon to say he had a shiner that day. I want out of this craziness. He's blowing all our money on strippers but I have to tread lightly.


And it's hard to dance with a devil on your back..

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shakeitoff
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Default  Posted: 4:12 PM, January 29th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I am sorry about all the typos. I am trying to squeeze in posts from my cell phone. Walking on egg shells is an understatement. He has to work tomorrow and hopefully we will keep the peace through then.


And it's hard to dance with a devil on your back..

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jjct
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Default  Posted: 7:01 AM, January 30th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Don't worry about typos (((shakeitoff))).
The only ones we care about are the failure to hit <DELETE> on these assclowns...or if you <INSERT> evil back into your life...

Sounds volatile, the bloody nose - I wasn't there, and I'm an 'internet stranger' too, but I can't say I blame you for retaliating. Just give yourself a break while you're going through the 'getting away' phase.
It's the most dangerous phase, when they're facing the upcoming loss of supply.

Do you have a neighbor - anyone? - you could 'invite over'? I highly recommend that.
Sending strength!


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shakeitoff
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Default  Posted: 7:54 AM, January 30th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thank you jjct, I am trying to keep people around as much as possible. I also have a "code word" to text my bff if things get out of hand. She knows if I send her that, to send the police. I am trying to keep things positive and friendly. Even though I just want to throw up and throw him out and change the locks.... BUT we share 4 children together. He says he has nowhere else to go and its flippin freezing outside. I considered telling him to go to a shelter as I have been in one running away from him before BUT I didn't want to poke the bear. He's being good for now so I will keep my sarcasm at bay.


And it's hard to dance with a devil on your back..

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brokenhearted76
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Default  Posted: 10:41 AM, January 30th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I am new to this thread but have been told I probably belong here. My wh has many signs of being NPD. I had never heard of it before. But life was always about him..his needs his wants his rules. Walking on egg shells around him just waiting in the next blow up. 8 yrs of hell. He was only physical a few times.. mainly verbal. He has knocked me down pulled my hair grabbed my arm to stop me from walking away pinned me in a bedroom and someone had to help me get out. I had surgery on my hand and he grabbed me and tore a few stitches. But normally it was just screaming in faces and threatening when things weren't going his way. We are seperated. And are going to divorce. So things are very tense. I am pretty sure I have PTSD. And I am still afraid of him. He refuses to move out until we divorce which takes 60 days here. So I have had my younger sisters (17&24) move in with me and my kids so I am never alone with him. And that makes him mad because he can't follow me around or trap me. I just hate this so much. But I know I am better off away from him.


~Me~ Blindsided wife, age 37
~Him~ STBXWH, age 37
~Son~ age 14
~Daughter~ age 18, special needs
~Dday~ June 4th 2013
~him: several affairs during our marriage both emotional and physical, latest physical affair in may 2013~

Posts: 83 | Registered: Jun 2013 | From: brokenhearted76
shakeitoff
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Default  Posted: 6:55 PM, January 30th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Brokenhearted, do not play down what happened to you. It was abusive and scary and ugly. You didnt deserve it. Its awful to go through and I hope that where ever you are tonight, you are safe and with friends.


And it's hard to dance with a devil on your back..

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Kajem
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Default  Posted: 12:22 AM, January 31st (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Welcome to The Tribe brokenhearted76, sorry you find yourself here. But it is the best place to be if you're dealing with the crazy narc. We'll help you stay sane.

Hugs,
K


I trust you is a better compliment than I love you, because you may not trust the person you love, but you can always love the person you trust. - Unknown
Relationships are like sharing a book, it doesn't work if you're not on the same page.

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shakeitoff
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Default  Posted: 5:45 AM, January 31st (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

He told me last night that *I* shattered his heart because of *my* behavior (standing up for myself, I guess??) And I am responsible for anything he does now. Does that sound like a veiled threat to you or am I paranoid?


And it's hard to dance with a devil on your back..

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cantaccept
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Default  Posted: 6:01 AM, January 31st (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I read an email. I know it just makes me more crazy. Why is it so hard to not? What am I hoping for? It only causes me more pain. The urge to respond is overwhelming, that is why I am posting here now.

I know that whatever I say to him has no meaning to him and that everything he says to me is to manipulate me, to feed off of me.

"you are the worst kind of liar, the kind that hides behind the truth"

"thirteen years ago your best friends (more then one) told me that you cheated on ex-husband. Your sons called you a whore and a slut. I blocked it out. You betrayed me before I ever betrayed you. You are a product of your past".

"I have been in therapy for three weeks"

Okay, he is looking for justification, a way to live with his actions and put the blame on me.

What I would like to reply, but will not!

The truth, you knew then as you know now that friend had her own agenda. You didn't believe it then and if you are honest with yourself, you still know it was a lie. You have been married to me for 11 years and you have seen for yourself my actions.

The angry words from my sons, they were 15 at the time, angry at me for dating you. You were the first and only man that I dated after my divorce, they did not like that. They did not like the idea of their mother dating. They were immature and were angry at me for enforcing boundaries on them. It was an easy way for them to lash out at me. Their words hurt of course, but I could understand their anger came from their pain. I forgave them and they have grown up.

You are lashing out at me in anger now because of the situation you are in. This is the life that you created. I am not responsible for your actions or your choices.

You are angry at me because I am not responding in the way that you would like.

I gave you the chance to earn my forgiveness, to build a healthier and intimate marriage. I worked so hard and was so driven and sincere in every word and action. I even gave you the option of leaving honorably multiple times. "if this is too hard for you, if you don't love me enough, please, be honest with me".

Your words to me "I will never do this to anyone ever again. No matter what happens between us I will never hurt someone in this way again". "even if you feel like you can't go on, I will keep trying, I will not give up on us", "I will do whatever it takes to help you", "I promise I will never do this to you again".

Now, I remember these words, you seemed so sincere, and I know that even as you said them you were betraying me. I now know that every word was a lie. The why is beyond my comprehension. I do not understand why you would choose to manipulate anyone like that.

You went to therapy, did you lie there? YOu went to MC with me every MOnday and I know you lied there, I witnessed it, I just did not know you were lying.

Now, you are trying to blame me for your choices. I will not accept that blame, it is not mine. These actions are all yours, as is the state of your life.

If you are going to therapy now it really is of no concern to me. You were in therapy for a year and chose to remain the same. Our lives are now separate, what you do has no effect on my life.

Yes, I am a product of my past, as are you, it is our choice as to what we do with our life experiences. If you are hurt you can choose to be angry, to hurt others or you can choose to rise above it and become a better person. You can use your pain to gain empathy and compassion for others or you can try to seek revenge. YOu can use it as an excuse for bad behavior. It is only an excuse, our behavior is our choice.

I know none of this would mean a thing to him but it has been spinning in my head and I needed to get it out. I know he is just looking for a reaction from me. Maybe he believes this and maybe he doesn't, it needs to be irrelevant to me.

This is the same kind of crap he has always done to me. Twist things to make me feel like I am bad, wrong, defective. This is who he is not me.

Before dday #2, I remember him telling me that when we first met he was so drawn to my kindness and gentleness, that he thought by being with me he would become that way.

Then as the years went by he would call my gentleness a weakness. My strengths became my flaws.

Just trying to stay strong.

Can


Life is change. Growth is optional. Choose wisely.

I would now like to be known as Can!

dday October 21,2012
dday December 20, 2013

attempted R, it was all a lie

divorcing


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cantaccept
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Default  Posted: 1:47 PM, January 31st (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Just got a call from the marshall, he left papers at wh home. Wh is at my house right now chopping wood. He takes it to sell.

I am feeling so nervous. This is the big step, the proof of my words to him, my ultimate standing up to him. I am afraid.

I will be okay though. I will be extra cautious, set the alarm, be alert when I am out.

Friend is moving in tomorrow so less chance of having to be alone in the house.

I keep trying to remind myself that there is really left for him to do to me. As long as I am careful he can't hurt me. Just really nervous.

Can


Life is change. Growth is optional. Choose wisely.

I would now like to be known as Can!

dday October 21,2012
dday December 20, 2013

attempted R, it was all a lie

divorcing


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Chrysalis123
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Default  Posted: 2:40 PM, January 31st (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I know that whatever I say to him has no meaning to him and that everything he says to me is to manipulate me, to feed off of me.

Hey Can, how are you?

I highlighted your words because his words also tell you what he is up to. When he says you are the worst liar....what he really means is that HE is.


Don’t get to the end of your life and find that you lived only the length of it; live the width of it as well. 

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cantaccept
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Default  Posted: 3:33 PM, January 31st (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Hi Chrysalis,

I think he proved what a liar he is pretty clearly over the last several months. No doubts there.

I think the hardest part is to not internalize, not take on as my own the things he says about me. I know me, I know who I am. It is his projection of himself onto me.

I wonder sometimes now how I ever believed him? How did I lose my sense of self? My knowledge of myself?

I still find myself doing it. I have to talk myself down. Boy do I miss my IC.

I do know he lies. I also have means to prove it to myself. I have become an amateur detective, new skills every day


Life is change. Growth is optional. Choose wisely.

I would now like to be known as Can!

dday October 21,2012
dday December 20, 2013

attempted R, it was all a lie

divorcing


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shakeitoff
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Default  Posted: 5:24 PM, January 31st (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I presented my WH with separation papers earlier this week because I knew he had a crazy schedule at work for a few weeks and thought it would be a good time to do it. Allowing him to cool down and all. He called in today and spent the entire day running the gamut between begging for another chance and belittling me. He spent an hour trying to get me to sleep with him. Cried when I held fast in refusing. He won't leave our home. Thing is we rent. I dontwant to screw my landlord over - I know he will not be responsible . I also have 3 school age children who I would terrify if I just pick up and run 14 hrs to my mothers home. I do not have family close to here. I dont know what to do. Ive already called cops in previous mind ducks and they dont help unless he's being physical which he hasn't. But I feel like this is spiraling much faster than I anticipated. What would you do? I have left him twice before and went back. No one believes me that im done this time. I know he doesn't. I just am swirling inside with grief and worry about what tomorrow will bring. If I do leave I feel like I am running away from this mess and I am being dramatic. But truly I don't know what else to do.


And it's hard to dance with a devil on your back..

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sadtoo
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Default  Posted: 7:11 PM, January 31st (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Hi Can,
I was just thinking about you and wondering how you were doing.

You're doing great not replying to his nonsense. Just work a little harder at not reading his emails.

It doesn't matter what the "real truth" is in your life. An NPD has the ability to take words & situations and twist & turn them into something grotesque. Something that doesn't even resemble the actual event. And you can argue, point out where they are wrong, show them proof of the truth and all you will be doing is wasting your breath.

Your STBXNPDH is extremely manipulative. Believe it or not, he will be the best player on your team. Why? Because these types LOVE to hear themselves talk because they think they are smarter than everyone else and they can't wait to tell everyone just that. Including the judge on your case. Believe me. Judges see right through idiots like yours, mine, and many others. I was scared to death my judge was going to believe mine, but once my NPD started blabbing, I will never forget the look on the judge's face. His face was saying, "Are you for real? Or is this some kind of a joke?" and his jaw was dropped on the bench.

It took me a while to see it with mine. You will see it with yours soon too. After that, you will look forward to him running his dump trap.


It is what it is, not what we hope it can be.

When another woman takes your husband,
sometimes the best thing you can do for
yourself is to LET HER HAVE the worthless
bum.
OC born 2001
Divorced 2003
Remarried 2008 (New Guy)


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phmh
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Default  Posted: 8:24 PM, January 31st (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Did anyone else see this article written by a sociopath

I have such hope that in the future, ASPD, NPD, etc., will be able to be pre-screened by brain scan and those of us who aren't personality-disordered can stick with our own kind. Of course, this is likely far in the future, but pretty neat to think about:

http://www.theatlantic.com/health/archive/2014/01/life-as-a-nonviolent-psychopath/282271/


Me: BW, divorced, now fabulous and happy!

Married: 11 years, no kids

The greater danger for most of us lies not in setting our aim too high and falling short; but in setting our aim too low, and achieving our mark. -Michelangelo


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Kajem
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Default  Posted: 9:24 PM, January 31st (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((((((Shakeitoff))))))

Can you call your DV shelter? I hate to think of you feeling the need to run and not able to. Please stay safe.

My XH is digging for drama with his family. Thank God. It isn't about me!

Hugs,
K


I trust you is a better compliment than I love you, because you may not trust the person you love, but you can always love the person you trust. - Unknown
Relationships are like sharing a book, it doesn't work if you're not on the same page.

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Kajem
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Default  Posted: 12:24 PM, February 1st (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

********WARNING NOVEL AHEAD********

For those looking for insight into the mind of the NPD, I give you a letter from XH to his parents. A little background is needed to understand all the inuendos.

9/2011 DD(then20,single college student) is pregnant. Due 4/2012. She tells XH after confirmation by OB/GYN. He informs NW, she is with her DD.

11/2012 NWDD has told 2 of my DD that when NW found out about the pregnancy had a few choice names to describe pregnant DD.

12/2012 NWDD tells pregnant DD what NW said. Pregnant DD moves back home (My home) and XH asks why she doesn't go to his house every other week. She tells him about what NWDD told her. He tells NW. NW goes ballistic on DD and on NWDD. NWDD puts DD under the bus saying that she didn't say that.

1/2012 NW and DD are doing the she said -she said thing. XH wants to have a sit down DD refuses because she knows it will be 2 against one. NWDD calls DD and apologizes for putting her under the bus, but she isn't strong enough to deal with the repercussions from NW.

2/2012 DD is not gaining weight and baby is not growing. OB asked if she was stressing.. DD tells her. OB tells her it's ok to cut stressors out at this time and let them back in later. If she needs to talk to someone, she has recommendations. DD tells XH that she needs to focus on baby building and needs to go NC for now. DD suspects once NW gets the message, her phone service will be terminated. We look into getting her own phone (my plan has max phones) she needs XH's approval to leave, and there is a fee for early termination. contract ends 5/31. XH is cheap, he will wait- I tell her.

DD posts something on FB about wishing people would act like adults and not middle schoolers after drama at work one day. She's a cashier in a supermarket...lots of fodder there. NW took exception to her post and jumped all over FB. Other (out of state family members got involved) one family member private messaged NW and she told him the DD did not know who the father of the baby is and that there are many possibilities (not true, NW doesn't know who it is, DD wouldn't give her a name, no telling what she would do). She also told him the DD needs psychological help and even the OB recommended it.

3/2012 DD turns 21 and gets a text from her phone provider that her phone service will be disconnected in a week. 3 weeks before her due date. She gets a new plan, New Iphone which she wanted at a good rate with no money down...huge improvement over when she last checked. Her grandparents called to wish her a happy birthday and grandma starts crying saying her phone is about to be terminated. They were told they are not allowed to tell her, but they worry about her being without a phone and being so far along in her pregnancy she may need to call for help and if she ....you get it.
NW told them they were not allowed to tell her or they wouldn't see XH or my DDs. and she told XH if he told DD, she would divorce him. And she ordered him to cancel the phone service even if it cost him money. His parents were very upset....

I talked to grandma, she wanted to know what I heard about the drama.. I told her what I "KNOW" which is I have a single, college daughter who is pregnant, scared, and needs my support. I wish everyone else would see that DD is going to need emotional and physical support, she doesn't need this drama." I try to make my home a place of peace and a XH drama free zone. It works for me.

4/2012 DD delivers baby, XH is forbidden by NW to visit. Youngest 2 DD's overhear the argument between XH and NW. NW yells at him that he "is either for team NW or against team NW and if he goes against her she will divorce him."... he consults DDs crying. They discuss with him that he is being bullied,emotionally abused, etc. DDs sneak him into the hospital to see DD and DGD.

5/2012 His parents come at least once a week to visit DD and DGD. I make myself scarce, there are repercussions to them for being in my home. I know NW does driveby my home regularly..so I take my car and leave the 4 of them to visit. They are in contact with XH regarding how much the baby's grown, cute...etc.

6/2012 DGD is Baptized. His parents want him to be at the Baptism. He wants to be there. DD says its ok.. NO to NW. NW goes off on his parents-telling them to make a choice between their DGD and DGGD and their son (XH). She was yelling at FIL, and FIL told her he was done with her, and passed the phone to MIL. MIL got on the phone to XH telling her that FIL threatened NW. MIL explained there was a lot of yelling, but no threats. XH hung up on her. After the baptism, XH tells DD1 and DD3 that FIL was yelling at NW and threatened her. They come to me, telling me to make DD2 apologize to NW, in order to end this. I tell DD3 to contact grandparents and get their side of the story and ask her to think about WHY XH is telling her this? It isn't any of her business, why is he bringing her into this drama. DD1 gets it right away, she can see the manipulations.

XIL's chose DGD and DGGD and still kept in contact with XH sending cards with no return address because they thought if NW saw them, he would not receive the cards.

12/2012 XH's sister (my BFF)comes to visit. She stays part time with me and part time with her parents. visits XH with her parents for the holiday. They then come to my home for some baby time. They stayed and hour and left for the drive back. BFF planned on staying a couple of days. Parents thought the day went well, people were civil at XH's and they had fun at my house with the baby, and my family who they have not seen in years. Got home to a message from XH "NOW I KNOW HOW I RATE!!!"

5/2013 NWDS fiance sent a lovely card to MIL. MIL did not send a card or gift to NWDD or NWDS for birthdays. XH was angry, drove the hour to tell them off. When XIL's refused to apologize he told them they would not be invited to NWDS wedding. MIL sent a note to fiance thanking her for her thoughtfulness and explaining that due to circumstances beyone fiance's control, they would probably not be attending the wedding. They wished her all the happiness she and NWDS could hold.

There has been little dramas here and there, but those are the highlights of the last couple of years. I lost my home in October and DD,DGD and I moved to a new city. She has almost NC with XH. NW cannot invoke any drama with us. They have kept very low contact with XH.

If you got this far... now into the sick mind of my NPD.


Mom and Dad

I want to begin by saying that whatever you may think, I am writing this to put an end to your reprehensible and un-Christian behavior that has been directed toward my family.

Your continued sending of "cards" and gifts only to me, without a return address, goes out of the way to be hurtful toward NW. This goes beyond common decencies to intentionally hurt her. You frequently profess Christian rhetoric in your cards, however, I know Christ would not condone behavior that is intended to intentionally hurt someone. Please refrain from sending any further gifts or cards that exclude NW.

Your "disowning" of NWDD and NWDS, along with their families, goes beyond cruel. They have always treated you as their grandparents. Although you claim that they did not write, call or visit, I have to ask how often did you make the effort to do the same to them? How often does DGS and DGD write, call or visit with you? Have you disowned them? Please remember that you have always treated them different from the girls(my 4 DDs)-such as, how often did you take NWDD and NWDS on a shopping trip when you took the girls? Then when NWDS and fiance make and effort by sending you a Mother's Day card, how did you respond? Did you acknowledge the thought with a "Thank you" or did you reply with a nasty note telling them you would never see them again? I read the note and it was nasty and hurtful.

Since we are discussing keeping in touch with family, when did Dad ever write or call HIS grandmother, the woman who raised him, without being prompted by mom? Using your own criteria, Nana should have disowned him. NWDD and NWDS thought of you as their grandparents and opened their hearts to you only to have you walk away from them. I doubt Christ wold condone your use of double standard - "Let those of you who are without sin cast the first stone". You are not without 'sin' and have no right to stand in such harsh judgement of others particularly in light of the fact that you do know know all the facts and refuse to hear them.

I cannot and will not tolerate your cruel behavior toward my family any longer. I am ashamed of what you have done.

I want to make this very clear to you. Your behavior has led me to not want anything to do with either of you unless you can be civil. Your constant "blaming" of others for your bad behavior and the consequences of it is not acceptable. If you cannot be civil and decent toward my ENTIRE family, not just me and the girls but NW, NWDD, NWDS and their families, please refrain from any contact with me or my family. The only reply acceptable to this letter with have to start with a SINCERE apologies to my family from you. If you can not find it in yourself to apologize for the hurt you have caused, please don't bother sending anything to me either.

XH


I actually think NW wrote it. XH was on law review in law school, he can string a grammatically correct sentence together.

Oh and he called FIL to wish him a happy birthday a week after they received this letter.

I sit here giggling..... I hope you can find the funny.

[This message edited by Kajem at 12:52 PM, February 1st (Saturday)]


I trust you is a better compliment than I love you, because you may not trust the person you love, but you can always love the person you trust. - Unknown
Relationships are like sharing a book, it doesn't work if you're not on the same page.

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ChoosingHope
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Default  Posted: 7:19 PM, February 1st (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Kajem, that was quite a letter. My NPD STBX was on law review too. Interesting.

I was wondering if anyone here read Peter Cook's latest words attacking Christie Brinkley. Of course his "indiscretion" was sleeping with a teenager and paying her $300,000 to keep quiet about it. He said about his former wife:

She disposed of 10 good years of marriage because of my indiscretion and has had to vilify me ever since to excuse her own petty and self-indulgent behavior — throwing our children under the bus, relentlessly vilifying their father and surrendering our lives to the media — essentially capitalizing on my pain and by default our children’s pain; all masked behind a fixed disingenuous smile."

I can't get over this. My STBX could have written this! How could he blame her? I can't get over his self-pity. And the complete lack or shame, remorse, or empathy.



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Chippednotbroken
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Default  Posted: 8:17 PM, February 1st (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I never know how to react to mine. I still feel like I am in crazy town. I have a protective order. He did get a black eye from one of the "fights". He has been using that at every court hearing etc. then claims later that's its all his attorney he doesn't know what his attorney is doing.
Texts last night if he can have a picture of me because a he misses me. Drops off gifts for the kids, through a neighbor -- can't come within 200 ft of house. I just feel so crazy. I know what he did, how can the switch be flipped so fast. I try to ignore the texts but I know he must miss the kids terribly. He was a stay at home. So I send one pic and then I get scared that he will think we are still on and he can come by or that he will use it in court. Ugh I was doing so well and now the fear. Court for final order is soon. I am so nervous. I just want to be divorced and safe.


Me BS 32
STBXH 34
3 kids
Divorcing, though he isn't on board.
DDay July 13'

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