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User Topic: SI Makes it on Huffington Post
Tred
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Default  Posted: 7:00 PM, July 24th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Maybe MH needs to create a thread at the very top of the Forums that has a very provocative title, and no matter what they click on it the link goes to SPF


Married: 17 years (14 @JFO)
D-Day: 11/09/11
"Ohhhhh...shut up Tred!" - NOT the official SI motto (DS)

Posts: 3914 | Registered: Dec 2011
Deeply Scared
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Default  Posted: 7:05 PM, July 24th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage


"Don't give up, the beginning is always the hardest." My Mom:)

My tolerance for stupid shit is getting less and less.


Posts: 197680 | Registered: May 2002
Thiscantbhapning
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Default  Posted: 7:15 PM, July 24th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

All the negative comments in response to this article are sadly and honestly the way I felt over two years ago. I, too, thought infidelity was a deal breaker. You truly never know unless you've been through it.
The comment about having conversations with your spouse promising to divorce first before crossing the line- WE HAD THOSE SAME CONVERSATIONS. It's no guarantee.
I'm so very thankful for this site. It has been a tremendous support to me and my husband as we go through this excruciatingly difficult journey we never thought we would be on.


BS (Me)-48
WH-49
COW-28
PA-5 1/2 months
D-Day 5-8-11 (Happy Mother's Day to me)
Married 26 years
DS-24
DD-22
Trying to R
"Maybe this thing was a masterpiece till you tore it all up."

Posts: 20 | Registered: Jun 2013 | From: Texas
unfound
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Default  Posted: 7:21 PM, July 24th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

wow.

it's okay dh, I know you're disappointed... hundreds of comments and not one "nazi" was uttered. you'll get em next time .

sad that people are so blind they can't see what is, what can be and the fact that si would welcome the lot of them with open arms...

[This message edited by unfound at 7:22 PM, July 24th (Wednesday)]


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Posts: 14844 | Registered: Nov 2006 | From: mercury's underboob
booger bear
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Cool  Posted: 7:23 PM, July 24th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Here's my comment ..... Glad I copied it, I went back to look for it and it was gone or not posted yet .... I saw Jrazz and said hi to her .... On this article there are several on this website, holy jeez ...

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2013/07/23/infidelity-marriage_n_3639916.html?ir=Divorce

Those of you passing judgement on Jill in the video have no idea. Until you do, until you have walked in the shoes of infidelity either being the one cheating or the one who was cheated on, you have no room to pass any judgement. You don't even have room to pass a fart, so shut it.
I am a member of survivinginfidelity.com and I can say without a second of hesitation that the site, the people who run it, and the members saved my life and sanity. Jill, her husband and the other VOLUNTEERS keep the site safe for ALL. It is a soft place to land in the worst possible moment of your life, you will get honest advice and make more friends than you know. People you never met or talked to will understand things about what your feeling, what your going to feel and they will have your back every step of the way, no questions asked and they expect nothing in return. So until you can say you have walked in our shoes, in either way, shut it and back off. I love that site and the people there and they have helped thousands more than the few feathers that have been ruffled.


I am fiercely independent and I won’t apologize for it. I'd rather be single than settled.

Posts: 18766 | Registered: Dec 2009 | From: OK - Hot as hell here !!!!!!
Holly-Isis
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Default  Posted: 7:25 PM, July 24th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Funny- they won't publish my comment pointing out that SI isn't a for profit website.


"Being in love" first moved them to promise fidelity: this quieter love enables them to keep the promise. *CS Lewis*

Posts: 11185 | Registered: Jan 2007 | From: Just a fool in limbo
booger bear
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Default  Posted: 7:29 PM, July 24th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Maybe that's why they post mine, I said volunteer ...


I am fiercely independent and I won’t apologize for it. I'd rather be single than settled.

Posts: 18766 | Registered: Dec 2009 | From: OK - Hot as hell here !!!!!!
Getting to Happy
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Default  Posted: 7:37 PM, July 24th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Wow! What a day for SI! Deeply Scarred on the video and we have reached 40K members!

WOW!

Thanks for all of your service to SI, DS and MH!!!

And Kudos on the article.

PS, what is that red and black thing behind you in the video...?


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BS me DD's 26, 25' DS 23
dd1 1-1-10, dd2 Mothers Day 2011, dd3 3-12-12 Hawaii trip with ho-worker...

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Posts: 1140 | Registered: Apr 2012 | From: La La Land
Clarrissa
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Default  Posted: 7:40 PM, July 24th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'd bet every one of those who posted a negative c0mment will thank whatever gods they believe in for this site if they find themselves in our shoes. As has been said, you don't know if it's a dealbreaker until you're faced with it.


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All affairs are variations on a theme. No one has 'Beethoven's 5th' to everyone else's 'Chopsticks'.


Posts: 5886 | Registered: Dec 2008 | From: A better place
Deeply Scared
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Default  Posted: 7:43 PM, July 24th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

PS, what is that red and black thing behind you in the video...?

That is Bucee the Beaver...lol!! Texas famous in all the Bucee truck stop in Texas...I just HAD to get my picture taken with him on a road trip last year

I do want to thank everyone for their PM's and posts...you all are just the greatest!! But you don't have to fight any battle for me, MH or SI...one day all those people that are vilifying us will most likely find themselves here.


"Don't give up, the beginning is always the hardest." My Mom:)

My tolerance for stupid shit is getting less and less.


Posts: 197680 | Registered: May 2002
aesir
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Default  Posted: 7:57 PM, July 24th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

And over 400 comments about what a slut I am
Don't you just hate how these ignorant people can't even be consistent with their epithets? I thought the accepted internet term for DS was the other one.

When I was younger there was a theory about randomness and coincidence that if you gave a billion monkeys typewriters they would eventually create the works of Shakespeare. Now, thanks to the Internet, we know that this is not true.
Not entirely disproven yet, we have to give it more time. However, based on the size of the work to be replicated, statistically speaking by the time we get the full works of Shakespeare we will already have a dozen copies of Mein Kampf.

Huffpost is owned by AOL. All the people commenting are probably still using an internet connection from a disk they received in a magazine.
I dunno, I swear most of those were used up by this guy I used to know that shingled his shed with them.

Interesting to finally hear what DS sounds like.


Your mileage may vary... in accordance with the prophecy.

Do not back up. Severe tire damage.


Posts: 14924 | Registered: Nov 2007 | From: Winnipeg
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Default  Posted: 8:00 PM, July 24th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Anyone who expects intelligent comments on internet articles or news stories clearly hasn't ever spent any time on ESPN.


Machiavellian idiot savant

Posts: 6744 | Registered: Apr 2007 | From: Indiana
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Default  Posted: 8:20 PM, July 24th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage


Wow, this post got me out of lurkdom. DS, that is so courageous of you. You must have known that by doing this type of interview, those type of comments would be made but you still did it.

The people making comments remind me of some of my colleagues. They have no idea what it is so they prefer to utter those empty sentences: It would never happen to me....I would be gone if it happened....She is crazy to stay.

I just look at them and don't say anything because it is worthless to try.


Me : BS - 40
Have a son (Romeo) - 14 years


Well this April's Fools Day joke sucked big time.


Posts: 11472 | Registered: Feb 2006 | From: ontario
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Default  Posted: 9:56 PM, July 24th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

DS, thank you for helping me maintain the core belief that marriage and love is worth it. Even though I had to D in the end, I love to hear about couples who truly make it beyond reconciliation and THRIVE! Thank you for your in depth honesty and guidance for us following behind. I have lurked since 2006, and I believe my sanity and ability to move forward is largely due to SI. I think tens of thousands of people on here will back me up in saying "Thank you" to both of you, for giving us all a safe place to heal.
❤❤❤
Charlie


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BaxtersBFF
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Default  Posted: 10:05 PM, July 24th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Someone jacked my name in the comments section. Just so you all know it's not me...


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BW - gerrygirl

Posts: 6099 | Registered: Dec 2009 | From: Boise
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Default  Posted: 10:11 PM, July 24th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Out of curiousity, how many hits has the site taken today as a result of the article? Out of that, how many new member requests have we received?

I would rather believe the message was delivered SI is a safe place for those that have experienced and are struggling whether BS or WS.

As far as the negative comments go, they can all kiss our big fat hairy (_._).


You can't change the wind, but you can adjust your sails.

Me Tarzan
Her Jane

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Posts: 9561 | Registered: Apr 2008 | From: Birthplace of America's Music
wonderingbull
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Default  Posted: 10:31 PM, July 24th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Way to go girl! I'm impressed...

No need to read the comments...

I know what this place is about and that's why I'm here... Simple...

Here's a toast...

WB


The secret of life is enjoying the passage of time...

James Taylor


Posts: 5976 | Registered: Jun 2007 | From: A better place
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Default  Posted: 11:15 PM, July 24th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Well, we know that there are probably a LOT of people who read this site, some probably regularly, but do not post. BUT they likely still get a lot of insight, even just by reading.

Well, a lot of people will read the HuffPost article, and visit here. They may not post on either site. But again, they may receive the information that they need to move forward.

DS and MH have nothing to explain. The interview was good and honest. The comments, like ANY public forum, are often overrun with trolls who are there frankly because they love the drama. The crazier their posts, the more responses they get...and they like that.

And, there are some who honestly feel that they would NEVER stay after infidelity. And, if faced with infidelity that might be the case...or as many of us found out we could work through it.

No matter the comments, the article in such a major website has raised the profile of SI....more people who may find comfort in their time of crisis.

So DS, it's a good thing.


Posts: 2574 | Registered: Nov 2003 | From: Niagara-on-the-Lake, Canada
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Default  Posted: 11:22 PM, July 24th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Well if you would have asked me before I was married I would have been like those folks and dumped the cheater... Problem is that one never knows until it happens to them. Maybe if I was younger and attractive and we didn't have a child I would be gone.. But alas that isn't the case.. And to make it worse I still love that bastard.. How I don't know.. Cheating was a deal breaker for me..
Do any of you feel like they got away with it and that you (I) am a sucker for staying. All the time but let some whore have my man... I made him what he is today.. Nope it til death do us Part!!!


Me (50)BW
Him (46) FWH
DD 17 and seriously hurt by this all..
Married for 18 years..together 20yrs
EA 2009- 23 yr old that has a childhood crush on my husband. named her child after my husband...sick girl on & off +2years stopped when he started

Posts: 10 | Registered: Jul 2013 | From: Texas
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Default  Posted: 12:29 AM, July 25th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I was very reassured with the comments. I have great "uncertainty" with my lose relationship with spelling and grammar. After reading only the first page I feel I could teach it at Yale. Sweet tap dancing Jesus.

I now understand why 60% of the population (according to an article I read a couple years ago) have no clue what our Constitution is. Yep, that is no longer in doubt or a mystery with the amount of ignorance just on the first page.

Very brave thing to do, DS. I'm sure more than a few were searching SI out for reasons that has nothing to do with curiousity but a need for support. And that's exactly, thanks to you, MH, and the mods/guides member, what they'll find here.


Me: 37

'til the roof comes off. 'til the lights go out. 'til my legs give out, can't shut my mouth


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