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laney57
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Default  Posted: 8:22 AM, July 24th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Good Morning All...
When will I ever learn? I can't be the wife. It hurts me to see someone I love so deeply hurting (of course, not because of me or our family). Anyways, I always feel empathy and this emotionally unavailable boy feels nothing but for himself. I tried and wanted to reach out and BAM I leave crying to "my room".
Today is a new day, no more bones!
Feel better just writing it. We do not deserve this!


Me - BS, 43
Him - WH, 45
Married - 22 years
D-Day - 05/12/2012
Trying to find me.
Gotta do this, but I'm broken - headed for divorce - 02/20
Hell if I know - 02/24
INS 07/2013 Divorcing

Posts: 226 | Registered: May 2012 | From: KY
TrustedHer
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Member # 23328
Default  Posted: 2:25 PM, July 24th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((laney)))

It gets better. But it takes time.


Take care of yourself. There's a great future out there. It won't come to you; you have to go to it.

Posts: 5118 | Registered: Mar 2009 | From: DeepInTheHeartOf, TX
laney57
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Member # 35617
Default  Posted: 7:40 PM, July 24th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thank you Trust,
That is what I needed to hear tonight. I know it, just needed a bump.
Thank you!


Me - BS, 43
Him - WH, 45
Married - 22 years
D-Day - 05/12/2012
Trying to find me.
Gotta do this, but I'm broken - headed for divorce - 02/20
Hell if I know - 02/24
INS 07/2013 Divorcing

Posts: 226 | Registered: May 2012 | From: KY
dmari
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Default  Posted: 9:00 PM, July 24th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

It hurts me to see someone I love so deeply hurting ... Anyways, I always feel empathy and this emotionally unavailable boy feels nothing but for himself. I could have written this early after dday. So I can tell you that detachment does happen. In the beginning, it was a constant conscious effort to remind myself that I am not his "wife" or "mommy". He betrayed our marriage but here I was trying to help him. WTF??? All he cared about was himself. Continue to remind yourself to put YOUR feelings first. Take care of YOU. Let him figure out his own shit. Hugs and support, dmari


Me (BS): 42 Children: DD 18, DS 15
Settled at mediation
Officially divorced ... SOON!

Posts: 2117 | Registered: Oct 2012
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