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Default  Posted: 2:41 PM, July 24th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I was also the first girl born sense 1899 75 years later I popped out. Grandpa could not believe it.
So they wanted to name me Rebecca but my Grandma and Great grandma would not hear of it and it had to be a Norwiegn name. And no Marie for a middle name..

Edit in case.

[This message edited by Faithful w/Love at 7:55 AM, July 25th (Thursday)]

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Moved back home Oct 31 2013
Separated again June 2014. Heading toward divorce.
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Default  Posted: 3:27 PM, July 24th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

My mother wanted to name me Katherine, but my grandfather---for reasons no one knows---threatened to disown her if she did. So she went with her second choice, Elizabeth.

My kids' names have lots more meaning behind them. Mine? It kept mom in the will

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Default  Posted: 5:08 PM, July 24th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I was suppose to have my middle name as my first name (and I LOOOOVE it)

but, being a Catholic family, and me being born on Palm Sunday, my parents HAD to come up with a form of "Mary", but not Mary. So they did. Took me till junior high to find anyone with the same name!!

To this day I wish they had just used it as a middle name. *sigh*

All girls in my family have some form of Mary or Ann in their names. And yes, with Confirmation, we each have a list of names!

Me: BS
Him: WH

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Default  Posted: 7:06 PM, July 24th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I have a beautiful and old name, which I have always loved. But, I hate that it is also a popular name. I named my children something a little bit different. My mom said that she just always loved the name.

Now, my sister has a similar sounding name. When we were doing research a few years ago, we discovered that my sisters name is a derivative of mine...therefore my Mom named us the same thing. My Mom said, "I TOLD you I liked that name!"

My middle name was my great-grandmothers, and I never hear it at all.
It isn't one of the old names that came back in popularity.

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M 15 years, together 17

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Default  Posted: 7:10 PM, July 24th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

My mother had a boy's name picked out, Dustin Steven. She was sure I was a boy, so wasn't real worried about picking a girl's name. She flipped though a baby name book in the grocery store checkout lane and saw my name, in the boy section, thought it was cute, but for a girl, which she wasn't having.

Surprise! I have the name my mom glanced at and thought was cute.

I've only ever met one other girl with my name, and only about 3 people total with that name at all. However, lots of women in their late 40s/early 50s ask if my mom watched a lot of Dynasty when she was pregnant with me.

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Default  Posted: 7:53 PM, July 24th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

My father chose my name. It's popular in his family's country of origin. It's fairly unique but not so much so that no one else has it. I used to HATE it but now I think it's sort of pretty.

Me: XWS, 30s, 5-month EA/PA in '09-'10
Husband: XBS, 40s
No kids

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D-day 3/6/10
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Posts: 2232 | Registered: Mar 2010 | From: the cat's meow
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Default  Posted: 10:16 AM, July 25th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

My sister named me after a Perry Como song popular in the 50's. I think there are a gazillion women my age with the same name.

Our family is strange about names. My maternal GM was Helen Elizabeth. She was always called "Lou" and called herself "Louise" named my mother after herself, Louise Jane, who was always called Jane.

My father's family were Jewish immigrants from Kiev, Russia. All had typically Jewish names that were Anglicized upon naturalization, Schmul became Sam, Esther, Jean etc. The kids who were born in America? Sarah Elizabeth, called Sadie and Alexander Michael, called Lew. I'm told that the reason for this was that the doctor delivering the babies were asked to "give him/her a good American name" on the birth certificate, and they would often use their own names or those of their spouses or children. No idea of the veracity of this, but no explanation for the oddity of the names either.

Damn autocorrect is responsible for the silly errors, sorry!

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Default  Posted: 1:06 PM, July 25th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

My parents had my name picked out. Just before completing the birth cert, my grandfather told my mom that with that name, kids would come to my front door and shoit, 'Can ____y come out and play?'

Apparently my mom didn't like my original name with 'y' appended, so she changed it.

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Default  Posted: 1:45 PM, July 25th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage


As you can see I rarely post but in this case I just HAD to ..... Thren ... Your name is just perfect for you!!! Its definitely your name :)

[This message edited by weimylady at 1:52 PM, July 25th (Thursday)]

I edit to correct my mistakes - and there are usually mistakes ....

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Default  Posted: 8:51 PM, July 25th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Just thought about my boys' names.

DS21 was named by his sperm donor. At the time, we were stationed in Germany and I'd never heard of Kathie Lee Gifford, much less her son. When we came home with our son, everyone wanted to know if we named him after Kathie Lee's kid. However, as my XH was a freaking idiot (still is, actually) he had a hard time saying the name he picked out, and it came out "Coyote" half the time. He also wanted desperately for the middle name to be "Corvette". I shit you not. I drew the line, but was petrified that I would have some sort of emergency and wake up from a coma to be introduced to my son, Coyote Corvette XXXXXX.

Because I apparently have a learning disability of some sort, I made a deal with JM that he could choose a boy's name and I would choose a girl's name. Of course, we had a boy. I went through the whole pregnancy thinking we were going to have Jason Mxxxxx Sxxxx, and chose a nickname for ds based on his middle name. JM is a junior and they have a ridiculous redneck 1st name. Bad enough to be inflicted on one generation, let alone 2. Imagine my surprise when immediately before the delivery, JM announced we were having RidiculousRedneckName FairlyCommonName OurLastName, the THIRD.As soon as I saw ds, I knew I couldn't use the nickname I had chosen and instead we called him the diminutive of JM's nickname. They look so much alike that it's difficult to distinguish JM's baby/kid pictures from ds's.

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Default  Posted: 9:25 AM, July 26th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

My mother was such a humble woman. She was hoping I'd be a girl since I had four older brothers, and I was.

She had considered the name "Lynette" but decided that people would think that was too fancy!

So she named me Susan.

Well, then one of my aunts was pregnant at the same time and gave birth a couple of months later. She and my mother had not discussed names for their babies but this aunt named her baby Lynette! So I think of that story often when I see my cousin Lynette.

(Lynette is a good person but I don't see her as any fancier than me, and no more deserving of a fancy name than I am!)

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Default  Posted: 2:24 PM, July 26th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

My mom and dad could not agree on a name. My mom wanted names like Eve and Eden and my dad wanted names like Savannah Georgia and be nicknamed George.

SO my grandmother stepped in and named me.

[This message edited by amitheow at 2:25 PM, July 26th (Friday)]

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Default  Posted: 5:07 PM, July 26th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I have no idea about my name or my middle brother's but my younger brother had my Dad's name with Jr. on the end.

He told us that he was choosing his name for the new baby because this would be the last kid and when you name a child the same name as the dad you can't have any more children.

I was six at the time and remember asking "But Dad, my friend Bob has the same name as his father and he is the oldest!"

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Default  Posted: 7:40 PM, July 26th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

My mom named me after my older sister's babysitter

She's not very original......


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Default  Posted: 8:50 PM, July 27th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

My mother had a "difficult" delivery and was very ill and not conscious for my first week basically, so the naming of me fell to my bio dad.

I was supposed to be a boy, no ultra sound back then, but my bio dad's family insisted I be a boy, it was only proper, the first born must be a boy, anything less was....well... LESS and not acceptable.

The name I would have had, had I been a boy was Michael Scott, of course with The Office and all, I find it humorous that could have been my name.

Bio dad named me after and Italian pin up girl. I have a hyphenated first name and no middle name. Then after the divorce and re-marriage, I used my step dad's last name (even though my legal name was my bio dad's name), so I was embarassed I had no middle name, and the last name was embarassing also, because things would come up and I would have to use the legal name and other kids would question it and then I would have to explain that my "dad" was not really my dad, etc. I knew no one else from a divorced family growing up, I was the only one, it was very frowned upon. So, yeah, I have name issues.

I worked very hard on my kids names, looked up all the meanings to make sure they were positive etc. My oldest is named after her great great grandmother and great grandmother who I loved dearly and were amazing people. My son's name is unique and has a regal/spiritual meaning a famous football player shares his name and is the only one I have heard in the media. My third's first name is my mother's middle name and her middle is the second half of my first, it just fit. My last's first name is my H's mother's middle name blended with my mothers middle name and her middle is the name my H would have been named, had he been a girl.

Grace (oh, and my real name, means grace, but not the grace I intended with my SI name but the form of grace, as in graceful, etc, I am sooo NOT graceful. lol I am the most uncoordinated person you will meet, seriously, and I have come to terms with that lol)

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Default  Posted: 9:13 PM, July 27th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

My Mom wanted to name me Sarah, my Dad thought that that name sounded too Jewish with our last name, my maiden name. We are not Jewish.

My name is a derivative of Gwendolyn, made popular by Walt Disney, in a movie........

According to what I have read, Mr. Disney created it.

I was in High School before I met anyone with that name.

In this modern day, I googled my name, my first name with my married name, I am a character in a Beatles movie.

I'm not telling you which one

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Default  Posted: 5:46 AM, July 29th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

My father already had 3 girls when I came along and he was determined that he was coming home with "John Keith". Yeah right! Lol so here comes another girl and they had no names ready. So my grandma named me!

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