It took all of my physical willpower not to storm into that house and clock this b*tch!! I have not been confrontational with either her or my WH. I moved out with the kids to avoid that sort of drama. My kids need me! They need a parent who is thinking rationally. He told me that she wouldn't be there if he wasn't home. Sure... Guess I just caught him in ANOTHER lie. Sadly, I'm not really that surprised, just really pissed off.
I'm meeting the attorney at 3:30 this afternoon to put down my retainer. This was the last straw. And if he is lying about her being at the house without him, then he will also lie about her being around my kids. The attorney said that we can petition the court to physically keep her away from my children. I hope it works. He just doesn't care how bad that will screw them up!!
Burn everything love then burn the ashes.
"In life, unlike chess, the game continues after checkmate." - Asimov
"Be patient and tough; someday this pain will be useful to you." - Ovid
Marriages that start this way, stepping over the bodies of loved ones as the giddy couple walks down the aisle, are not likely to last.
You snapped a pic, right??
~Feel your emotions, but control your behavior~ Unknown
For future reference, I've heard that soda eats the paint off of cars ...
I am officially under legal counsel as of 3:30pm today. I asked my lawyer if I can do anything about her being there but she said unfortunately, he invited her in. But, she keeps insisting we can petition the court to keep her away from the children. Maybe not forever but we will try. OW doesn't have custody of her own daughter. I'm not entirely sure why but I did tell the lawyer that tidbit of information. She is currently working on the custody agreement.
It was a tough pill to swallow forking out that much money but I needed to put my b*tch boots on and file. No more being "nice." I only wish I could see the look on his face was he is finally served. I don't think he will expect it all. I'm trying to hang on to the feeling that I took back just a little bit of control. No more waiting on him to file or feeling like he is holding stuff over my head. He wants to play house with Little Miss Hotpants, let him. We'll see how long he lasts in fantasy land.
But, more importantly, I'm taking the first step to my new life. A better life without his cheating and lies.
WH says marriage is over: May 15, 2009.
EA#2 July 20, 2009. Legally sep: Aug 16, 2009. DIVORCED!!!! Signed Nov 23, final Dec 24, 2010, adultery listed.
he said unfortunately, he invited her in.
What an appropriate way to describe her-- like a vampire.
OW doesn't have custody of her own daughter. I'm not entirely sure why but I did tell the lawyer that tidbit of information.
Ask your L if she can run a background check on the OW. That sounds highly suspicious. My L told me that if the OW didn't have custody of her kids, that was a huge red flag. The OW in your case might have a rap sheet, which would give you further ammunition in keeping her away from your kids.
I'm sorry that she's at the marital home. The Owife in my situation is now permanently parked at mine.
OW currently lives with her mother and sister. They are in debt up to their eyeballs and always on the verge of being evicted. Her sister has a serious rap sheet but I can't find any dirt on the OW... yet. I'm wondering if its simply a case of not wanting to take care of her child, who resides with the paternal grandmother. WH was foolish enough to tell me this information when I was getting the "we're just friends" story. I have questioned whether this issue of custody is true or not. But, seeing that she has been spending the night at the marital home almost every day for the past 2 weeks, expect when WH has the boys, I'm thinking its a safe bet that she doesn't have physical custody.
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