Greetings all! I am so appreciative of the genuine happiness you share for me and my H. I have read every post a couple times now and all of them are wonderful. Gotta love this one from s2s....
I have to admit I did a little fist pump for you,
Today was a little different for Dad. He has had some time to process and was more vocal. He drove my H to the airport at 5am and let him know that in life there is happiness and pleasure. While there is nothing wrong with pleasure, when it is at the expense of someone else it is just plain selfish. He told him he held him way above most others and he is disappointed. Dad is brief, genuine and says it without bitterness. That will stay with H for always.
And yes, Knowing I did mention this...
did you mention your niece and her out-of-bounds response? She lived with them, right? They must know her well and might know a good way to approach this subject with her now that it's out in the open.
My N grew up here. If there is anyone who can speak to her, it is my Dad, her grandpa who has never dropped the ball with her. Next to her Mom, she trusts him. He said he will chose his words carefully and speak to her. I love my N. She is a good girl but she is confused, angry and as it turns out, FIVE (yes 5!) of her friends are going through this with their parents now. She is hearing a lot of noise and can't make sense of it. I will NOT be telling her that I told my parents. I am sure my sister already did but I didn't feel I owed her that phone call. And yes, SMS, I agree that her forgiving should not be based on us telling my parents but again, she is 17 and the world is all black and white.
Meaning reaching a maturity level that enables us to move past the black and white, highly judgmental stage into the stage your parents apparently are at...that stage of more completeness, more understanding, a more realistic less idealistic stage.
Yes. For sure. I think our fam sitch was a solid example of how life experience AND if you chose to learn and grow from it brings one to a higher level. A new plateau. With my niece at 17 and my parents at 75 and all of us in between my parents handled it better then anyone. I know their experience brings wisdom and we certainly benefited from that last night. Certainly my H did and he could not be more grateful. He told me today that Mom hugged him again last night when they said goodbye.
Full of grace.
A very happy, LA