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User Topic: Woah serious trigger
chikastuff
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Default  Posted: 8:11 PM, July 17th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Woah I just triggered in a MAJOR way. BF was showing me some pictures of his latest project on his phone and he flipped to his thumbnail view. I caught a glimpse if what looked like someone in pink bottoms in a picture that looked like it could be a topless/underwear bathroom selfie. I said "what's that" and grabbed the phone to look. Seriously crazy freak out moment.

It was his niece wearing a pink skirt and white top taken at a distance. She's four.

Holy fuck I literally had a panic attack.

He handled it well, I explained and apologized, we're over it. But fuck that sucked.


Me- 32
Happily engaged and moving on

Posts: 382 | Registered: Apr 2012 | From: New England
She11ybeanz
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Default  Posted: 8:48 PM, July 17th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Don't freak out! I think that was a normal reaction! I think a lot of us might have had a similar reaction had we gotten a glimpse of what you did...or done worse and snuck his phone ...

Just breathe. I'm glad you both talked about it and I think if he knows about all you have been through....he will understand. Especially since you were sincerely apologetic! Communication is key!!


"Life's curve balls come out of nowhere.... just remember to duck and weave!"

ME - BW - 34
HIM - XWH - 38
D day: November 15th, 2009
Married: 5 Years, together 8
Divorced: December 13th, 2010
New Beginning: Piper/8-3-12


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SBB
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Default  Posted: 9:22 AM, July 18th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

It was his niece wearing a pink skirt and white top taken at a distance. She's four.

Oh honey. I shouldn't laugh but that mad me laaarf.

It still fucking sucks though. Damn.


Sending all of the love and strength I can muster to Phoenix1 and her family.
"Death leaves a heartache no one can heal, love leaves a memory no one can steal."

Posts: 4481 | Registered: Apr 2012 | From: Australia
chikastuff
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Default  Posted: 9:44 AM, July 18th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

See? This is what the traumatized mind does! As sad as this experience is, what's sadder is that if this were my ex that really would have been a bathroom selfie of a college co-ed.


Me- 32
Happily engaged and moving on

Posts: 382 | Registered: Apr 2012 | From: New England
lonelylost
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Default  Posted: 11:29 AM, July 18th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((chikastuff)))

It's such a horrible and powerful feeling...I wouldn't wish it on anyone.

I too have had a panic attack triggered by a trigger.


Divorced Jan 2013

"Don't look back, the road is long."
- Needtobreathe


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