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User Topic: Divorce is final
ProbableIceCream
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Default  Posted: 9:55 AM, July 17th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

The divorce is final. No spousal support. I waived about $80 a month in child support because at the moment it would be a hardship (this can change later). XWW was extremely cooperative.. give her some points for that. She accepted everything I suggested (that I considered fair). Only asked me to change one small thing while we were talking about it.

I have ~79% custody and final say in legal decisions according to our current parenting plan (but we're required to discuss major decisions). The plan will be renegotiated in 6 months.

No spousal support. We keep whatever property we have in our separate accounts and in our physical possession. We are responsible for our own student loans.


Me: born 1982.
DD: born 2006 (I have abt 80% custody).
My D-Day was April 2012. Divorced Jul 2013.

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lostmommy
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Default  Posted: 10:11 AM, July 17th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Congratulations!


Me (BS): 32, Mommy to J: 2 1/2 Divorced: 4/10/13
Sometimes you find yourself in the middle of nowhere, and sometimes, in the middle of nowhere, you find yourself

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Chrysalis123
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Default  Posted: 10:45 AM, July 17th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Congrats!!!


Donít get to the end of your life and find that you lived only the length of it; live the width of it as well.†

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Amazonia
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Default  Posted: 11:50 AM, July 17th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Congrats!!

Who would have been paying spousal and child support to whom?


"You yourself deserve your love and affection as much as anybody in the universe." -Buddha
"Let's face it, life is a crap shoot." -Sad in AZ

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tesla
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Default  Posted: 12:01 PM, July 17th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Sounds like how things fell out for me too.

So how are you feeling?


"Thou art the son and heir of a mongrel bitch." --King Lear

Posts: 4546 | Registered: Jan 2012 | From: Indiana
Ann124
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Default  Posted: 1:28 PM, July 17th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Glad to hear that everything went as well as they could!


Posts: 384 | Registered: Aug 2010 | From: Back Home ... And feeling Great!!
nowiknow23
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Default  Posted: 1:57 PM, July 17th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Sounds like things went as well as one could expect. How are you doing?


You can call me NIK

Wise men talk because they have something to say; fools, because they have to say something.
- Plato


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devistatedmom
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Default  Posted: 3:44 PM, July 17th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Congrats on having that done PIC. Hope you are doing ok today.


BS(me) 46, Two wonderful teens.
He is no longer my best friend. Repeat until it sticks.

WH says marriage is over: May 15, 2009.
EA#2 July 20, 2009. Legally sep: Aug 16, 2009. DIVORCED!!!! Signed Nov 23, final Dec 24, 2010, adultery listed.


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h0peless
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Default  Posted: 3:46 PM, July 17th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Congrats!

[This message edited by h0peless at 3:46 PM, July 17th (Wednesday)]


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ProbableIceCream
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Default  Posted: 4:07 PM, July 17th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I would potentially have had to pay spousal support to her, since I make several times as much as she does. Calculated child support was her paying me $80 a month but I requested that it be reduced to $0 for the time being since she makes almost no money.

I'm doing OK I guess. I feel a little shocked. Maybe like things are more open now, I'm more independent. A little sad maybe. Mostly I just have a sense of lots of things changing, which can be a little bewildering.

Including the car thing. Researching a good used car for around $6k takes a lot of work.


Me: born 1982.
DD: born 2006 (I have abt 80% custody).
My D-Day was April 2012. Divorced Jul 2013.

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nowiknow23
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Default  Posted: 4:09 PM, July 17th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

((((Probable))))


You can call me NIK

Wise men talk because they have something to say; fools, because they have to say something.
- Plato


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tryingagain74
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Default  Posted: 4:12 PM, July 17th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Congrats. Do something nice for yourself-- you don't need to "celebrate," but you are starting a NB. I hope you can mark it by doing something more fun than used car research.


BS (Me) 39
Happily liberated!
Two DS and One DD
It matters not how strait the gate,/How charged with punishments the scroll./I am the master of my fate:/I am the captain of my soul.--"Invictus," William Ernest Henley

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gma56
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Default  Posted: 4:26 PM, July 17th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

BREATHE !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

It's such a relief after the shit storm of D/S.

Now it will be time to make short and long term goals for your future.
Congrats and welcome to your NB.
Gma

[This message edited by gma56 at 4:27 PM, July 17th (Wednesday)]


BW-Divorced
It's my life now, my choices, my mistakes to make and my victories to celebrate. His choices made me free of liars and betrayers in my life. I lost my family but gained a second chance to be happy.

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