WH says marriage is over: May 15, 2009.
EA#2 July 20, 2009. Legally sep: Aug 16, 2009. DIVORCED!!!! Signed Nov 23, final Dec 24, 2010, adultery listed.
"For whatever we lose, like a you or a me, it's always ourselves we find in the sea" ee cummings
I personally think it's a red flag.
It takes literally 2 seconds to send a text.
My guy and I have been texting for 2 and a half months, but have only seen each other 7 times. In the beginning he was texting like crazy. Several times a day, random stuff, long texts too, not just one word responses. I too valued these text messages because I knew we couldn't see each other that often.
Then suddenly about two weeks ago (the 2 month mark) they drastically changed. Sometimes I would send a text and he wouldn't reply. Hours would go by and nothing. Then if he did text, suddenly it was really short and generic.
I know he is glued to his phone. It is always on him. So when I don't get a reply, I know he is ignoring me. I don't keep send texts. If he backs off, I back off...that's just how I am. I'm not going to chase anyone...but to tell you the truth it does drive me nuts.
I also noticed when we are together, (his phone is on silence...kind of a trigger for me) he is constantly being contacted by someone. He is always looking at his phone and texting. He claims it's his kids. I don't know.
If you guys are talking like normal, then that is a good sign. But I'm with you, when I see a pattern shift, I think something is up.
Good luck! I hope it's nothing.
"Don't look back, the road is long."
Cmego- I have talked to him. He assures me he's just super busy at work and things should calm down in a few weeks. So, I guess I just need to trust that. I realize I have some residual insecurity issues left over from my previous marriage. I'm working through them.
Lonelylost- I'm not worried about there being someone else. More that he's not interested in me. Again, that's my insecurity trying to tell me that I'm not good enough. Even though I know I am plenty good enough, those old feelings are hard to completely banish.
So, for now, I'm just going to try to be patient and see how things go for the next few weeks. Hopefully, it'll be ok.
It’s good that you are still communicating well. I’d give it a little time and see if you can come up with other ways to give the relationship a little boost when you can connect. If he does have to cancel Thursday, perhaps you could replace it with plans for an even better date.