I want to know everything and I've told him this from the start, but he's only now coming around with giving me the truth about everything. He told me he's been lying because he doesn't want to hurt me, but I keep telling him it's already too late for that, you know?
Thing is, my boyfriend is really forgetful as it is. But, because he chose to outright lie to me already, I'm not sure that I can trust that he really can't remember.
So, when you guys get "I don't remember" how do you go about it?
Being very, very careful
D-day 14 June 2013
I'm smart, good looking and gosh darn it, people like me!
I try very hard to be supportive, but sometimes, I want to scream "Are you kidding me!!" This is one of those times.
From your description of home, you have been abused in some way, as many of us have, and are desperate to be loved, but this is not the way to get that.
What I read, from what you wrote, is he could care less. I'm so sorry, I hope you get yourself and baby out of this situation. Your child will be better off with one loving parent than two who don't mutually care for each other, and he certainly doesn't.
You have options, but you need to begin to think about what you want and what you want for your precious baby.
"It's hard to be in love when you can't tell lies!
When she tells me she doesn't remember, I like to tell her, "Okay -- well then let's talk about this again tomorrow, and by then you can try really hard to remember." I'm not calling her a liar (even though she is). Instead, I'm giving her an "out" -- a way to answer the question the next time, and also assuring her that there WILL BE a next time.
me - husband A46
her - wife A42
Married 17 years
D-Day August 2, 2009
3 kids 11, 13, and 15
Tiny details..ok. But the big questions? They know.
I just read your profile. Honey..he had sex with her..and probably the coworker..and others. You need to be tested for STD's. You have a little boy who needs his mommy to be healthy.
Im so sorry.
[This message edited by confused615 at 4:35 PM, July 23rd (Tuesday)]
..that feeling you get in your stomach, when you heart's broken. It's like all the butterflies just died.