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User Topic: god's got a sick sense of humor
roughroadahead
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Default  Posted: 2:29 PM, July 16th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

The first divorce pretrial has been scheduled for the morning of the 10th wedding anniversary.

FML.


BS-Me 30s
WS-Him 30s
D-Day 4/2012 (Insisted EA only)
D-Day 5/2012 (Did I say EA? Ummm..)
Numerous other TT/broken NC d-days until S 1/2013. D settled 11/2013
MOW-coworker, 40s.
2 DS and DD all w/autism

Posts: 725 | Registered: Jul 2012 | From: USA
tesla
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Default  Posted: 2:33 PM, July 16th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

((((roughroad)))

The day we had the "getting divorced" talk was my b-day.

The day D was finalized, his b-day.

Bitter-sweet, fitting, and shitty. All part of that shit-sandwich we have to choke down.


"Thou art the son and heir of a mongrel bitch." --King Lear

Posts: 4554 | Registered: Jan 2012 | From: Indiana
peridot
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Default  Posted: 2:48 PM, July 16th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

My divorce was granted the same day my parents got divorced.


I think...therefore, I'm single.

It is what it is.


Posts: 4693 | Registered: Feb 2008
lostmommy
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Default  Posted: 2:57 PM, July 16th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

((((roughroadahead)))) Our divorce was final the day before what would have been our 16th anniversary. Sometimes it's cleansing that way.


Me (BS): 32, Mommy to J: 2 1/2 Divorced: 4/10/13
Sometimes you find yourself in the middle of nowhere, and sometimes, in the middle of nowhere, you find yourself

Posts: 485 | Registered: Sep 2011 | From: NY
Snapdragon
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Default  Posted: 3:01 PM, July 16th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Yep... on our 10th wedding anniversary we were in court and I was defending myself against his false domestic abuse claims.

It was so interesting to watch him on the stand lie about everything except his name and address.


Divorced - recovered and hoping to help.

"We're not broken, just bent, and we can learn to love again" ~Pink


Posts: 3070 | Registered: May 2004 | From: Midwest
nowiknow23
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Default  Posted: 3:20 PM, July 16th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

((((rra))))


You can call me NIK

Wise men talk because they have something to say; fools, because they have to say something.
- Plato


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Mommato4
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Default  Posted: 3:55 PM, July 16th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

((((rra))))

Mine was final just a few days after my birthday. Dday was my youngest's birthday turning 1.

Believe me it gets better. I'm on year 5 and it's not the first thing I think of around my birthday now or my son's birthday.

[This message edited by Mommato4 at 3:56 PM, July 16th (Tuesday)]


Updated 2013:
BS-me 40
XH-doesn't matter
4 kids
Divorced-7/25/08

SO-5 years together-he decided to end it by cheating too


Posts: 1373 | Registered: Aug 2007 | From: PNW country
fraeuken
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Default  Posted: 4:17 PM, July 16th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

- My divorce was final on May 17, 2013.
- I got married on May 17, 1996.
- May 17, 2103 was a Friday, so was May 17, 1996.
- And, doing the math, my divorce date was the 17 year anniversary of our wedding date.

Think I should play lottery with the number 17?


Temporarily independent with the whole world at my feet.

Posts: 1230 | Registered: Jan 2011 | From: California
solus sto
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Default  Posted: 4:26 PM, July 16th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

We share an anniversary, fraeuken.

I guess we should warn others not to make use of the date.


BS-me, 52
WH (Trac-fone), 52, PD
2 kids-DD25, DS18
multiple d-days
DIVORCING
Alone, most strangely, I live on~Rupert Brooke

Posts: 8330 | Registered: Jan 2011 | From: midwest
Kajem
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Default  Posted: 4:33 PM, July 16th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((((roughroadahead))))))


The day he moved the rest of his stuff out-my birthday. a Day after our final paperwork was sent to the court house. The day we were finalized was the same day as my parents divorce.

Divorce sucks.


I trust you is a better compliment than I love you, because you may not trust the person you love, but you can always love the person you trust. - Unknown
Relationships are like sharing a book, it doesn't work if you're not on the same page.

Posts: 4851 | Registered: Jul 2012 | From: Florida
fraeuken
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Default  Posted: 5:03 PM, July 16th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Solus, we should! My BIL did marry on the same day as well, I am hoping it will last for him.


Temporarily independent with the whole world at my feet.

Posts: 1230 | Registered: Jan 2011 | From: California
SBB
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Default  Posted: 5:16 PM, July 16th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Final was about 2 mins into our 8th Wedding Anniversary. Also OWUglyIndian's Birthday.

I did something VERY memorable on that date this year. That is what I'll remember in the years to come.


Buzz- The word you are searching for is 'Space-Ranger.'
Woody- The word I'm searching for, I can't say, because there are Pre-school toys here.

Posts: 5424 | Registered: Apr 2012 | From: Australia
jo2love
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Default  Posted: 5:31 PM, July 16th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

((((roughroad)))

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roughroadahead
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Default  Posted: 10:31 PM, July 17th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Reprieve! Waffle's L has a conflict, so it has been rescheduled. We're now looking at the end of August. Oddly, at kid exchange today Waffle told me it was good that it had turned out that way because he "preferred not" to have to deal with the D on "that day"


BS-Me 30s
WS-Him 30s
D-Day 4/2012 (Insisted EA only)
D-Day 5/2012 (Did I say EA? Ummm..)
Numerous other TT/broken NC d-days until S 1/2013. D settled 11/2013
MOW-coworker, 40s.
2 DS and DD all w/autism

Posts: 725 | Registered: Jul 2012 | From: USA
sunfish
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Default  Posted: 11:30 PM, July 17th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

My 1st D Day..."our" 20th wedding anniversary. I feel your pain.


Me BS (49)
Him (STBXH (49)
DDay#1 07/10
DDay #2 08/10
DDay#3 09/10
02/11 He moved in for R
4/4/12 - he wants a Divorce...
4/18/12 - he moved out
11/13 - after much negotiation, we decide to R.

"...because you don't move to a sm


Posts: 160 | Registered: Aug 2011 | From: Left Coast
wontdefineme
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Default  Posted: 11:44 PM, July 17th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Don't blame God, it's clearly the devil trying to break us. If you haven't already noticed, but it seems like the weak spouse is used by forces to break the strong one, because being married to these losers didn't break us before the A's. We were always strong when they were weak, when they were broken, and we kept on loving them no matter what. I just hate it when we blame God for the bad things.

Posts: 2127 | Registered: Mar 2011
roughroadahead
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Default  Posted: 5:06 AM, July 18th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

wontdefineme: I don't actually blame god

It is a song lyric from Depeche Mode.


BS-Me 30s
WS-Him 30s
D-Day 4/2012 (Insisted EA only)
D-Day 5/2012 (Did I say EA? Ummm..)
Numerous other TT/broken NC d-days until S 1/2013. D settled 11/2013
MOW-coworker, 40s.
2 DS and DD all w/autism

Posts: 725 | Registered: Jul 2012 | From: USA
wontdefineme
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Default  Posted: 2:40 AM, July 19th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

And these cheaters suck the humor right out of our lives. I need to lighten up some. Sorry.

Posts: 2127 | Registered: Mar 2011
nomoreplease
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Default  Posted: 8:22 AM, July 19th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

A little bit of irony for my D:

I signed the petition on Good Friday.
The waiting period was over on July 4th (courts were closed so it wasn’t really final until the 5th, but close enough).


'one walks away saying "I fought to save God's ideal," and the other must always admit, "I fought to destroy God's ideal!"'

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