Shelly I think there are a lot of positives coming out of this thread for you.
I've also found it very useful as I ha e been questioning my own boundaries that people keep pushing or egging me on about, like no 'one night stands' which almost everyone is saying I'm mad for not exploring and I am starting to doubt myself. But reading this is making me feel slightly better for sticking to this rule of mine as it kinda makes me feel a little better about myself.
I've come too close to breaking it of late though, but I think that's me searching for ego stroking to make me feel I'm not that bad after all!!!!
I didn't realise quite how much of me I see in you until this thread but I have noticed a few of your dating based threads in here mirroring some of the complications I'm experiencing in my own little world!
Keep your posts up as I'm stealing lots of tips for me too!
P.S. sorry for confusing you with my quote. Didn't feel right leaving it with men as its content focus! Although it has to be said I've had a number of blokes trying to convince me other side of late...!
Was telling the guy in work about my Friday experience with the flirty girl and that I need to stay away or get stung again and he started telling me I should think about not being a vegetarian any more and think about being a carnivore...... Initially I was confused as I am not a veggie but he kept trying to tell me the same thing and suddenly I twigged he was on about me eating meat as in his! He's seriously gay and always come over to say hi when I've been in but never realised he was properly 'in to me!' Think I need to steer a little clear in future