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User Topic: Eft Therapy
changedforlife
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Default  Posted: 3:41 PM, July 14th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I am curious if anyone has gone through EFT (Emotionally Focused) Therapy and what you thought of it?

I have just started reading "Hold me Tight" and some of it is resonating with me but then I have also read "Codependant No More" and I feel a little conflicted. I definitely see codependant tendencies in me but as well I know my WH and I need to be more emotionally focused towards each other.

I guess there is a happy medium in there somewhere that I have to find but I was curious about the EFT model.


Me - BS/Him - WH (in our 40's)
Together 21 years/ 1 preschooler
D-day - Jan 24/13 He confessed about affair.
Broken NC -Feb 7-22,Feb 28,March 6
Continued Contact up to July 16
D-DAY 2-July 19 FALSE R!

Posts: 132 | Registered: Feb 2013
TearInYourHand
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Default  Posted: 3:52 PM, July 14th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Im not sure if you mean EFT which stands for Emotional Freedom Technique. Its an accupressure tapping therapy, and my husband actually overcame post-combat PTSD from it. It doesn't sound like that's what you're talking about though (but feel free to google EFT to see if what Im talking about might work for you).


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“Integrity has no need of rules.”

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changedforlife
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Default  Posted: 4:14 PM, July 14th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

TearInYourHand - I googled it and that is different from the EFT I was thinking of.

From what I have gathered so far in reading this book, Emotionally Focused Therapy is based on the Attachment Therory between children and caregivers but that the same attachment is necessary between couples.

Mind you, I just started reading the book so I may not have stated it very well.


Me - BS/Him - WH (in our 40's)
Together 21 years/ 1 preschooler
D-day - Jan 24/13 He confessed about affair.
Broken NC -Feb 7-22,Feb 28,March 6
Continued Contact up to July 16
D-DAY 2-July 19 FALSE R!

Posts: 132 | Registered: Feb 2013
SecondHelping
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Default  Posted: 6:21 AM, July 15th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I had Emotional Freedom Therapy and it worked for me. AS metioned by Tearinyourhand, it is the tapping technique and it helped me with the mind movies. It took the sting and anxiety away from the memories.


D-Day 1: Feb 1990
D-Day 2: 3 Sep 2012 (3 month EA/3 week PA)
BS 49, fWW 43 (Amibroken)
OP- Police Chief (Age 37)
M 25 Yrs, 3 Kids (17, 14, 11)
I initated the relationship at the Railway Tavern, she tried to end it at Scrap Tavern

Posts: 492 | Registered: Sep 2012 | From: Delmarva
callmecrazy
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Default  Posted: 9:51 AM, July 15th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

IF...you are with a very remorseful partner who is not NPD of BPD etc., it could be ok.

My MC failed to believe me when I said there was and continued to be an A...IT WILL NOT WORK WITH AN EMOTIONALLY UNAVAILABLE PARTNER. Once I proved the A was a go still, she apologized and said she noticed he wasnt emotionally charged but was hoping it was just his personality etc. and that eventually my hurt would awaken something.

I honestly dont think it will be helpful until you have made some progress on the A and it is dependent on your partner...I also was directed to Codependant No More and Boundaries...If those are truly issues withing the marriage, unless the partner fixes themselves, we arent really safe being connected like that, which makes it confusing and difficult.

Dont know if that helped, but its my 2 cents on it.


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