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User Topic: It Happened!!
tryin2havefaith
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Member # 37165
Default  Posted: 7:34 PM, July 11th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

It happened....

I forgave him!!!

After his latest IC session he told me about the hypothetical situation dr presented (what if OW showed up after all this time at our door and said A started again 3 months ago). He asked what my reaction would be, worried that just her showing up may be the final straw. I realized with my answer (call police and not even acknowledge since we know now that she is a sociopath and I know she would be lying. We both have find friends on our phones so I know where he has been) where I was on my path.

I had reached a new level. No triggers, no anger. I trust him...99%....won't ever be 100 again. It was then I realized, at some point I have already forgiven him. I looked at my own actions and discovered it. I look at his actions and they match his words.

So I told him last night. He hugged me and began crying, and then I began to cry. He still said he will forever be making sure I don't regret giving us a chance, apologized for hurting me so badly, and swearing he would never ever cause me a reason to cry in pain like that ever again,

We are still working on us in MC to keep strengthening our M. But the focus there is on US. He is still going to IC to completely deal with his issues so he is never 'that man' again. Facing his demons head on.

Just in a really good place today


In R and Tryin 2 Have Faith
ME- BS 35
HIM- WS 38

DDay 1/2011
4 - 6 months of TT'ing
NC-7/2011


Posts: 197 | Registered: Oct 2012
Flatlined123
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Member # 35862
Default  Posted: 7:37 PM, July 11th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

That is SO awesome! Those moments are great.

I'm so happy for you both. Hope all continues to go well.


Me: BS 43
H : WS 46
DD #1 7-11-08
DD#2 8-21-09 same OW, A never ended.
Started R in 9-09, but I didn't feelTRUE R started until 12-09 when the fog really lifted due to a medical condition with me.
Every day gets a little better.

Posts: 580 | Registered: Jun 2012
Blobette
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Member # 36519
Default  Posted: 7:39 PM, July 11th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

So, so happy for you.


BS (me): 49
WS: 50
Married: 25 yrs
Kids: 2
OW: Co-worker, 7 yr LTA
DD 8/1/2012, Working on R

Posts: 1035 | Registered: Aug 2012
whatnow8
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Member # 36576
Default  Posted: 9:17 PM, July 11th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

That is fantastic! I'm so happy for you. That's got to be an amazing feeling.


wtf?? How insane does your life have to get that you want to polygraph your freaking HUSBAND. ~ OldCow18

It's hard to make a decision when you're too tired to hold on and too in love to let go. ~ unknown


Posts: 175 | Registered: Aug 2012 | From: midwest
healingk
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Member # 28889
Default  Posted: 9:23 PM, July 11th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Awesome!!


Ws 59
Bs me--57
Married 39 years
D Day 11/30/08
Just trying to feel normal.It is getting there, but very slow.

Posts: 178 | Registered: Jun 2010 | From: Tennessee
sri624
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Member # 33956
Default  Posted: 12:27 AM, July 12th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

i am so happy for you!!! your story gives us all hope. i hope to be you someday.


BS (41):(Former Doormat)
WS (39):(Busted Cheater)
Married: 10 years, 1 baby
DD1: 10/11 PA/EA with pilates instructor/former stripper.
DD2: 10/12 False r, cheating with other women, online dating,Substance abuse issues.
Attempting R in bitchboots

Posts: 907 | Registered: Nov 2011 | From: Alabama
HardenMyHeart
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Member # 15902
Default  Posted: 2:16 AM, July 12th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage


Me: BH, Her: FWW - Long Term EA/PA
d-day: June 25, 2007
Married 29 years, Happily Reconciled

Posts: 5613 | Registered: Aug 2007
grapefruit
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Member # 27090
Default  Posted: 3:43 AM, July 12th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Wow! Thanks for sharing


FWW / BS (me)
FWH / BS (him)
In R ...

Posts: 85 | Registered: Jan 2010
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