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User Topic: He's just not that into you....or is he?
She11ybeanz
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Default  Posted: 1:01 PM, July 10th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Yeah...I totally agree. I took that as a "Leave me alone" text...and so I shall! I know I am a good catch and as they say....there are PLENTY of other fish in the sea! I'm just gonna keep loving and living life and if he comes around we will see how I feel about it then.... but like I said before...I can at least say that I had a nice dating experience from OLD...and that gives me hope!


"Sometimes your knight in shining armor ...is just a douchebag in tin foil!!"

ME - BW - 35
HIM - XWH - 39
D day: November 15th, 2009
Married: 5 Years, together 8
Divorced: December 13th, 2010
New Beginning: Piper/8-3-12


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ajsmom
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Default  Posted: 1:11 PM, July 10th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I sure hope you've put your profile back up, loud and clear!

Yep, he's a Nexter for reelz.

AJ's MOM


Fidelity isn't a feeling...it's a choice.

"Truth has no special time of its own. Its hour is now - always." - Albert Schweitzer
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DS - 31 - Yikes!


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She11ybeanz
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Default  Posted: 1:20 PM, July 10th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Oh YES...profile is back up and going....and I even winked at a guy today!


"Sometimes your knight in shining armor ...is just a douchebag in tin foil!!"

ME - BW - 35
HIM - XWH - 39
D day: November 15th, 2009
Married: 5 Years, together 8
Divorced: December 13th, 2010
New Beginning: Piper/8-3-12


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ajsmom
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Default  Posted: 1:21 PM, July 10th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

That's our girl!


Fidelity isn't a feeling...it's a choice.

"Truth has no special time of its own. Its hour is now - always." - Albert Schweitzer
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DS - 31 - Yikes!


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meaniemouse
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Default  Posted: 1:21 PM, July 10th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Ouch. He could have stopped at "Thanks." The rest of it was at best TMI and at worst, JPM (just plain mean).


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She11ybeanz
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Default  Posted: 1:29 PM, July 10th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Ouch. He could have stopped at "Thanks." The rest of it was at best TMI and at worst, JPM (just plain mean).

I agree. A simple "Thanks" would have been sufficient. Makes me wonder if his week long trip in Atlanta is not just for business and that might be why he doesn't want to be "interrupted" but either way....I don't really care! I was just "trying" to be thoughtful and nice! And, someday...the right guy will appreciate that side of me! I like who I am and want to find someone else who thinks I'm pretty darn awesome too!

That's our girl!

Thanks ajsmom!!!!

[This message edited by She11ybeanz at 1:30 PM, July 10th (Wednesday)]


"Sometimes your knight in shining armor ...is just a douchebag in tin foil!!"

ME - BW - 35
HIM - XWH - 39
D day: November 15th, 2009
Married: 5 Years, together 8
Divorced: December 13th, 2010
New Beginning: Piper/8-3-12


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UndecidedinMA
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Default  Posted: 1:39 PM, July 10th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I wouldn't write him off just yet, it might be wwhat it is - work.

But I also wouldn't put life on hold over 1 date.

As far as his text, well, if he really wanted a 2nd date I am thinking he would have saidsomething more like "see you when I get back" or more along those lines.


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lieshurt
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Default  Posted: 1:45 PM, July 10th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Makes me wonder if his week long trip in Atlanta is not just for business and that might be why he doesn't want to be "interrupted"

I thought this too.


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She11ybeanz
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Default  Posted: 1:55 PM, July 10th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Well...it is what it is! I'm not worried about it. I haven't written him off completely yet....but I'm not going to dwell on it either. I am too busy of a woman to worry about a guy I barely know! I've done my part and I had a good 1st date....and I'm going to leave it at that! I'm just going to enjoy my run tonight.... and spend some time tickling my 11 month old daughter and see what adventures life has in store for me in the future!


"Sometimes your knight in shining armor ...is just a douchebag in tin foil!!"

ME - BW - 35
HIM - XWH - 39
D day: November 15th, 2009
Married: 5 Years, together 8
Divorced: December 13th, 2010
New Beginning: Piper/8-3-12


Posts: 2717 | Registered: Feb 2010 | From: Virginia
Vulcanized
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Default  Posted: 1:55 PM, July 10th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Makes me wonder if his week long trip in Atlanta is not just for business and that might be why he doesn't want to be "interrupted"

I thought this too.

Make that 3. On to the next one!


Me: MH 40s; Him: MH 40s (I had RA)
OW: 30s, moron; one of many
M: 8 yrs
3/13: D'd
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Everything is as it should be.

Posts: 738 | Registered: Oct 2011 | From: Vulcania
gahurts
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Default  Posted: 2:44 PM, July 10th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Ok,

I'm going to play devil's advocate here.

I wouldn't write him off just yet, it might be wwhat it is - work.
But I also wouldn't put life on hold over 1 date.

This was my thought. I know when I travel and can get focused I can really get a lot of work done. My assumption from his text was that he would not be interrupted by people at work.

However, I still would give him crickets and let him make the next move. Meanwhile you keep moving on and enjoying life.


"Strength does not come from physical capacity. It comes from an indominable will" - Mahatma Gandi

"Courage is being scared to death and saddling up anyway." - Aubrie


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hurtinky
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Default  Posted: 2:47 PM, July 10th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I don't like him.


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D-Day 9-12-2005
S 9-13-2005
D 3-6-12



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lostmommy
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Default  Posted: 2:58 PM, July 10th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

My BS meter seems to go off about this guy. He canceled your first date, went away for a week and then rescheduled. Now he's canceling your second date, going away for a week and then?? It seems like if he's not being shady, he definitely doesn't have enough time for you.

At the very least, he doesn't seem to be doing anything to impress you or show you he's interested beyond a trickle. I'd move on.


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Amazonia
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Default  Posted: 3:26 PM, July 10th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm with UndecidedinMA and GAhurts.


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Default  Posted: 3:34 PM, July 10th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

This was my thought. I know when I travel and can get focused I can really get a lot of work done. My assumption from his text was that he would not be interrupted by people at work.

This is why I hate text messaging. At first glance I read his text as "I can't be bothered with you I am working" but on a re-read I got the same thing gahurts got. He thanked you and then threw in how awesome it will be to actually be able to get some work done without interruptions from coworkers.

If he does text you or contact you for another date at least you have a conversation starter now.


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suckstobeme
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Default  Posted: 3:36 PM, July 10th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Maybe I'm too simplistic, but he sounds like a dick. I would write him off completely.

Had he given any indication that he would be in touch another time or that he would be happy to get together again after his trip, then ok, great. That response, out of all the responses he could have written, was just plain stupid and kind of rude.

Shelly, you are way too cute and nice to even think about a second date with someone who's already shown you exactly who he is - a dick!!


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She11ybeanz
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Default  Posted: 3:36 PM, July 10th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm not going to over-analyze his response or make any assumptions....like you guys said...it was ONE date! IF he wants to see me again...he will contact me...if not....its definitely his loss and not mine!


"Sometimes your knight in shining armor ...is just a douchebag in tin foil!!"

ME - BW - 35
HIM - XWH - 39
D day: November 15th, 2009
Married: 5 Years, together 8
Divorced: December 13th, 2010
New Beginning: Piper/8-3-12


Posts: 2717 | Registered: Feb 2010 | From: Virginia
She11ybeanz
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Default  Posted: 3:39 PM, July 10th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Shelly, you are way too cute and nice to even think about a second date with someone who's already shown you exactly who he is - a dick!!

Well, thank you! And, I think that if this is a taste of who he is....it explains the real reason why he has never been married...... He's just too busy!!!

Have you ever heard this quote?...

“I’m about to make a wild, extreme, and severe relationship rule: THE WORD "BUSY" IS A LOAD OF CRAP AND IS MOST OFTEN USED BY ASSHOLES. The word “busy” is the relationship Weapon of Mass Destruction. Remember: Men are never too busy to get what they want.”
― Greg Behrendt, He's Just Not That Into You: The No-Excuses Truth to Understanding Guys

[This message edited by She11ybeanz at 3:41 PM, July 10th (Wednesday)]


"Sometimes your knight in shining armor ...is just a douchebag in tin foil!!"

ME - BW - 35
HIM - XWH - 39
D day: November 15th, 2009
Married: 5 Years, together 8
Divorced: December 13th, 2010
New Beginning: Piper/8-3-12


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InnerLight
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Default  Posted: 4:21 PM, July 10th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Whatever his reasons for his unfriendly text - who cares. He certainly made himself unattractive whether purposefully or not.


I'm not going to dwell on it either. I am too busy of a woman to worry about a guy I barely know! I've done my part and I had a good 1st date....and I'm going to leave it at that! I'm just going to enjoy my run tonight.... and spend some time tickling my 11 month old daughter and see what adventures life has in store for me in the future!

This is perfect Shelly! You keep yourself front and center with your spirits up! Attagirl!


BS, age 53, d-day 6-2-08, divorced after 17 years and 20 together. dating again, living in the sticks with a cat. It's taking a long time to create new dreams and a new life but it is slowly coming together.

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She11ybeanz
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Default  Posted: 6:19 PM, July 10th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

You keep yourself front and center with your spirits up! Attagirl!

Thank you Innerlight! I agree! Life moves on and so am I!

[This message edited by She11ybeanz at 6:20 PM, July 10th (Wednesday)]


"Sometimes your knight in shining armor ...is just a douchebag in tin foil!!"

ME - BW - 35
HIM - XWH - 39
D day: November 15th, 2009
Married: 5 Years, together 8
Divorced: December 13th, 2010
New Beginning: Piper/8-3-12


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