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User Topic: What I heard a guy at the gym say
hardtimesinlife
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Default  Posted: 11:26 AM, July 9th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

He told a girl there "Sorry I didn't accept your facebook friend request. I only accept requests from women who are in my family." She looked at him as if he had two heads and told him she didn't know if he was kidding or not. He said that, no, he was serious and that the reason was that it would be disrespectful to his wife
He was around 30 and handsome. It was pretty awesome to witness.


Ddays 2004 & 2007
I cut my losses mid 2013
Feeling happier every day :)

Posts: 6065 | Registered: Apr 2006 | From: Florida
JanaGreen
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Default  Posted: 11:32 AM, July 9th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Pretty good stuff.


We're both in our 30s. One awesome 4-year-old daughter.

Posts: 6565 | Registered: Aug 2010 | From: Somewhere in the South
tushnurse
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Default  Posted: 11:33 AM, July 9th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

That is what the world needs more of. Someone needs to call his wife, and tell her. Because if someone told me my H did that, I would be ready to reward him when he got home....


Me: FBS
Him: FWS
Kids: 15 & 17
Married for 22 years now, was 16 at the time. .
D-Day Sept 26 2008
Fully R'd, and Happy Happy Happy

Posts: 7838 | Registered: Oct 2008 | From: St. Louis
nowiknow23
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Default  Posted: 11:34 AM, July 9th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage


You can call me NIK

Wise men talk because they have something to say; fools, because they have to say something.
- Plato


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Ostrich80
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Default  Posted: 11:47 AM, July 9th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

What a refreshing post...there are still some respectful honorable people out there. That just made my day. Thanks for sharing.


BS..me
WS..him
Been with him over half my life
4kid
DD1 10-01-09 DD2 02-12-12 discovered it never ended
OW..nothing special. Just your average skank
Status..#$%@????

Posts: 4742 | Registered: Feb 2012 | From: midwest
selkiescot
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Default  Posted: 11:50 AM, July 9th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage


The truth shall set you free or reveal the name of the OW!
ME 57
WH 64
DDAYs TOO MANY
daughter 27
You give me gifts! I don't want your gifts I want the truth. That's the greatest gift.

Posts: 1377 | Registered: Apr 2009 | From: CT
Dark Inertia
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Default  Posted: 11:53 AM, July 9th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I wish I could like this post.


"If I listened earlier, I wouldn't be here. But that's just the trouble with me. I give myself very good advice, but I very seldom follow it."

Posts: 1177 | Registered: Jan 2011 | From: The Ohio
Faithful w/Love
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Default  Posted: 11:54 AM, July 9th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Wow is all I have to say.
That is AWESOME!


BS(ME)40 WH(HIM)38
DD 19 and DS 15
Separated Aug 2012
Moved back home Oct 31 2013
False R. Still Lying.
Will be divorcing soon!
"You never know how strong you are until being strong is the only choice you have"!

Posts: 2661 | Registered: Aug 2011
Jrazz
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Default  Posted: 11:56 AM, July 9th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Huge karmic high five to homedude.


We are what we repeatedly do, excellence, then is not an act but a habit. - Aristotle

Posts: 16459 | Registered: Feb 2011 | From: California
dameia
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Default  Posted: 11:58 AM, July 9th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

That makes me


Me: BS
D-Day: 7/7/12

One should rather die than be betrayed. There is no deceit in death. It delivers precisely what it has promised. Betrayal, though ... betrayal is the willful slaughter of hope. ~Steven Deitz


Posts: 1102 | Registered: Jul 2012
painpaingoaway
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Default  Posted: 1:00 PM, July 9th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Damn! I think I love him!

However, I would imagine infidelity has already occurred in that situation.

(The wife is probably already a member here, lol).

I don't sound jaded do I?


me BS female 56/him WS 59
Married 33 years
D-day July 09/he gave me his slut's STD
Watch my movie: "My wayward husband's adventures in STD land":
Episode 1: youtu.be/9Jv0-d_CdYc
Episode 2: http://m.youtube.com/watch?v=8Tz822H82Gk

Posts: 7021 | Registered: Jan 2010 | From: Coastal South
SoVerySadNow
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Default  Posted: 1:11 PM, July 9th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Good for him! It probably was after infidelity- his or someone close to him.
After dd, several women at our gym asked to be WH's friend on FB or for his email. He told them that no, he didn't friend women that weren't directly either a family member or tied directly to his wife and he together (sure friends of the marriage). One even tried to physically grab him in spin class which was met with an emphatic "No!" and him moving away from her. That's what began his ramp up of PDA with me at the gym-warding off the hunters. It showed me he "gets" it. He wants me in spin class but he's safe there without me.


Me:BW
Him:WH
D-day(s),after years of TT and Gaslighting was Labor Day Weekend 2012, continuing for a week after. *Dammit! More TT 3/9/13
Really trending toward D- planning about it is my "happy place" now.

Posts: 1280 | Registered: Sep 2012 | From: Sunny Florida
painpaingoaway
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Default  Posted: 1:14 PM, July 9th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

One even tried to physically grab him in spin class
Yep. The fact that they make it clear they respect their wives and snub the advances make the ho's want them even more!


me BS female 56/him WS 59
Married 33 years
D-day July 09/he gave me his slut's STD
Watch my movie: "My wayward husband's adventures in STD land":
Episode 1: youtu.be/9Jv0-d_CdYc
Episode 2: http://m.youtube.com/watch?v=8Tz822H82Gk

Posts: 7021 | Registered: Jan 2010 | From: Coastal South
wifehad5
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Default  Posted: 1:22 PM, July 9th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

The wife is probably already a member here, lol

Or he is


FBH - 42
FWW - 43 (BrokenRoad)
2 kids 7&12

The people you do your life with shape the life you live


Posts: 36512 | Registered: Jun 2007 | From: Michigan
ajsmom
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Default  Posted: 1:24 PM, July 9th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Or, the dude has great values and gets it.

I for one would like to give him the benefit of the doubt. Kudos to him and his parents for how he was raised.

AJ's MOM


Fidelity isn't a feeling...it's a choice.

"Truth has no special time of its own. Its hour is now - always." - Albert Schweitzer
____________________________________________
Me: BW - Him: 200+ # tumor removed 7/09
DS - 31 - Yikes!


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JanaGreen
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Default  Posted: 1:28 PM, July 9th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I like that he said that - it was very respectful. That said, I do feel a little bad for the girl - it could have been an innocent gesture on her part. I have all kinds of male facebook friends on whom I have zero designs.

I've never facebook friend requested anyone from the gym though!

[This message edited by JanaGreen at 1:36 PM, July 9th (Tuesday)]


We're both in our 30s. One awesome 4-year-old daughter.

Posts: 6565 | Registered: Aug 2010 | From: Somewhere in the South
PrincessPeach06
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Default  Posted: 1:29 PM, July 9th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

That's awesome! :)

WS and I deleted our pages and got one together. Fbook was their way of communication so I do have some ease now.


Me (BS): 35
Him (fWS): 36
Married 16 years 6 kids ages 15-6
DDay #1 (EA) July '08
DDay #2 (EA/ONS- different OW) May 15, 2013

Finally this is R 8/14/13

"Forgiving is a journey; the deeper the wound, the longer the journey".


Posts: 299 | Registered: Jun 2013
unfound
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Default  Posted: 1:34 PM, July 9th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

wh5
Or he is

working on the ceps for the gun show were we, hmmmm?

boundaries, for whatever reason he had, gym guy is doing it right.


ka-mai
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From time to time, I do consider that I might be mad. Like any self-respecting lunatic, however, I am always quick to dismiss any doubts about my sanity. DK

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IrishLass518
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Default  Posted: 1:38 PM, July 9th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

How wonderful gym guy is and I hope it is reciprocated by his wife. I can only hope that this is from good strong family foundations and not from a brush of infidelity.


Me: 45 BS Divorced
Him: 45 Married OW
DDay: 07/04/2008
Divorced: 06/15/2011
5 kids: IrishLass 27,IrishLad 25, IrishLass 22, IrishLad 21 and IrishLad 12
"You can't run from trouble..there ain't no place that far"

Posts: 1677 | Registered: Jan 2012 | From: WA
Rebreather
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Default  Posted: 1:44 PM, July 9th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Boundaries. He haz them.


Me BS
Him WH
2 ddays in '07
Recovering.
"The cure for the pain, is the pain." -Rumi

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