I had a WH who, on Dday, took responsibility for what he did, the destruction he caused, and the hurt he inflicted. He endured a tremendous amount of anger and rage from me,much deserved I might add, but he was not angry. He responded with, "I deserve it"
He would not have lasted a day in my house as an angry WS. I would have packed his bags for him.
Sure, he was mad at himself for what he did but he had only himself to blame and he knew it.
You get what you allow...don't allow that behavior. He should be kissing your ass.
ME: 54 BS
HIM: 61 WH
Married: 28 years
in R 3.5 years and it's working but he is putting 200% into it (as he should) to make it right again.
The truth hurts, but I have never seen it cause the pain that lies do.