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User Topic: Told my mom and dad today
soveryweary
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Default  Posted: 4:11 PM, July 5th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I as dreading it, dad is 88 and loves my STBXH and he was floored. He even got a bit weepy, which killed me. Mom is 83and she is wasn't surprised, she has known all along something was up.
Neither of them asked if there as infidelity involved, and I didn't clue them in. Baby steps. I just know they hurt for me and that makes me so sad.


Divorced 1/3/14

Posts: 627 | Registered: May 2011
Rainbows
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Default  Posted: 4:23 PM, July 5th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

((((((soveryweary))))))

It took me almost a week after I filed D to tell my parents. My mom just knew something was up, too.

I warmed them up to it over the course of that week because it was so heartbreaking for me to know that they would hurt and worry about me. I wanted to be and sound ok when I told them.

Although they were sad, they were reassured knowing it was my decision and I was making a choice that was in my best interest.


There is always a rainbow after every storm.

Posts: 413 | Registered: May 2013 | From: California
Nature_Girl
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Default  Posted: 4:34 PM, July 5th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

My mom cried when I told her. It was almost as bad as telling my kids.


Me = BS (Stay-at-home-mom)
Him = EX-d out (abusive troglodyte NPD SA)
3 tween-aged kids
Together 20 years
D-Day: Memorial Weekend 2011
2013 - I DIVORCED HIM, I'M FREE!
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RBOJpIwF47Y

Posts: 9851 | Registered: Jun 2011 | From: USA
dmari
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Default  Posted: 5:37 PM, July 5th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Hugs to your parents. It is so hard for everyone involved, isn't it? Just like I hurt when my children hurt, my parents hurt when I am hurt. My mom knows stbx cheated on me but slowly told my dad over a few days. My parents also loved and accepted stbx completely so I know it hurt them too. We are blessed to have such compassionate and loving and supportive parents.


Me (BS): 43 Children: DD 19, DS 15
Divorced September 30, 2014
"It's always darkest before the dawn ..."

Posts: 2281 | Registered: Oct 2012
Abbondad
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Default  Posted: 5:54 PM, July 5th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I am sorry to hear this. Both my parents are deceased, but I often think about how they would feel about our impending divorce. They loved my wife.

I was about to write "and she loved them," but then I remembered: while my mom lay dying in the hospital, she was cheating on me.

Not five days after she died, I sat on the floor in deep grief. I called my wife at work and asked her to come home and comfort me. Instead, she went to the OM and had sex with him.

So yes, they would be heartbroken, but ultimately because of the severe emotional abuse foisted upon their son--not because of our divorce.


Divorced April Fool's Day 2014

Fear is the mind-killer.
Fear is the little-death that brings total obliteration.
I will face my fear.
I will permit it to pass over me and through me.
-Dune


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soveryweary
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Default  Posted: 6:04 PM, July 5th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Hugs to you all.
So strange, I'm 51 years old with grown children, and felt a little girl who just wanted to crawl on her dads lap and cry.


Divorced 1/3/14

Posts: 627 | Registered: May 2011
Nature_Girl
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Default  Posted: 6:27 PM, July 5th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

So strange, I'm 51 years old with grown children, and felt a little girl who just wanted to crawl on her dads lap and cry

Exactly the same thought goes through my mind to this very day. I wish my father was still alive so I could just feel his strong arms around me. And then I know he'd most likely make STBX disappear, which wouldn't be the worst thing in the world to happen.


Me = BS (Stay-at-home-mom)
Him = EX-d out (abusive troglodyte NPD SA)
3 tween-aged kids
Together 20 years
D-Day: Memorial Weekend 2011
2013 - I DIVORCED HIM, I'M FREE!
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RBOJpIwF47Y

Posts: 9851 | Registered: Jun 2011 | From: USA
Linus1968
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Default  Posted: 6:31 PM, July 5th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((Soveryweary)))
My mom was not a big fan of her, so this just amplified it.
My MIL apparently did not sleep for a week, and got really sick for a few weeks. Fever, the whole bit. I felt bad for her.

You're an interesting species, an interesting mix. You're capable of such beautiful dreams and such horrible nightmares. You feel so lost, so cut off, so alone, only you're not. See, in all our searching, the only thing we've found that makes the emptiness bearable is each other. - Contact


Me: Me
Her: Multiple men, multiple times, OC with the latest one
S: 16, D:14
May 27, 2014 DIVORCED!!!
In the words of Dory "Whew, I'm glad I got that off my chest."

Posts: 241 | Registered: Feb 2011 | From: Hell, and my X is the mayor (FL)
Phoenix1
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Default  Posted: 1:30 AM, July 6th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I just told my dad last week and I was dreading it too (lost mom several years ago). It was difficult, but he was not surprised by either the D or the infidelity. It was a tremendous relief just to get it out in the open. Being his only daughter, he was just really sorry I was having to deal with it and, pushing 50, faced with starting over. I absolutely hate secrets, and that one was killing me! So glad that's over!


BS - Me
XPOS - too many OW/OCs over 20+yrs
Kids - DDs 23,18 -DS20 Deceased
M Dissolved 2013

This above all: to thine own self be true, and it must follow, as the night the day, thou canst not then be false to any man ~ Shakespeare, Hamlet


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