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User Topic: Has this happened to you? "Your H is perfect"
watchtheskyy
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Default  Posted: 9:26 AM, July 6th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Double

[This message edited by watchtheskyy at 9:28 AM, July 6th (Saturday)]


The first step to living the life you want is leaving the life you don't want.

Posts: 198 | Registered: Dec 2011
Tripletrouble
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Default  Posted: 9:35 AM, July 6th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I posted something similar recently. It makes me SICK. I actually had a coworker who was also a good friend meet us out once with her SO, and she commented later that he clearly adored me. Months later he signed up on AFF. Wow, I feel so adored. Everyone thinks mr triple is just the salt of the earth, but I know he's a poser. He has everyone snowed.


40 somethings - me BW after 20 years
D Day April 2013
Divorced November 2013

The sea is so wide, and my boat is so small.


Posts: 554 | Registered: May 2013 | From: A state of overwhelmed
scaredyKat
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Default  Posted: 5:19 PM, July 6th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I had to respond. One day my sister, who knows nothing of my long, sordid story, said, "you have a fairy tale marriage!" I said, "yes, I'm married to Goofy!"



Me-BS-59
HIM-SAFWH-63
Damn autocorrect is responsible for the silly errors, sorry!

Posts: 2933 | Registered: Sep 2009 | From: In my head
LA44
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Default  Posted: 9:20 PM, July 6th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Omg scaredyKat, that is funny! I will have to remember that

I am always surprised what post resonates with people. Clearly people can relate to this one!

Sal: you are right. I do think my spouse is overall a good person and this is what people see PLUS the new addition of him clearly adoring me. And let's face it. They are projecting their own story on what they see with us. I did notice about this friend (who we see every 3-5 years) is that she and her H rarely engaged one another.

Stillhurting...you said it! It is not about getting lucky its "hard work". For sure. Even moreso now, right!

[This message edited by LA44 at 9:23 PM, July 6th (Saturday)]


Me: 44
He: 47 WH
Married: 15 years
D Day: December 2012
Affair: Fall 2009 - Dec. 2011
R is not linear

Posts: 1809 | Registered: Feb 2013 | From: Canada, eh
Getting to Happy
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Default  Posted: 9:50 PM, July 6th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Triple "I know he is a poser"
WORD, sister!

"yes, I'm married to Goofy!"
I had to laugh out loud...That is hilarious Kat!!

What DO you say to folks that just gush over the WH?

Mr. Happy even before his stupid A was always referred to as "Such a Nice Guy", *sigh*

A woman saw us a party, that we have known since we were dating actually cried because we were still together after all these years... UGH!!

I could not really say:
"Well he had a 5.5 year PA with a co-worker. I am still licking my wounds 2 years later...but yes we are still together." Not really. But I must say, it was bubbling right behind my lips.

I am trying to find my way back to the "Nice Guy" I knew. Hopefully this will happen before my 'give a shit' breaks!


WS him
BS me DD's 26, 25' DS 23
dd1 1-1-10, dd2 Mothers Day 2011, dd3 3-12-12 Hawaii trip with ho-worker...

Never forget what is worth remembering or remember what is best forgotten.
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Posts: 1138 | Registered: Apr 2012 | From: La La Land
Deanna
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Default  Posted: 11:05 PM, July 6th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

OMG! Drives me crazy. I am lucky now but before he was nice to everyone but me!


DDay - 11/4/09
BS-49 DDay
fWS-46 DDay
EA/PA with childhood sweetheart/ kissed
R - 11/25/09
Life is not a dress rehearsal

Posts: 1341 | Registered: Dec 2009 | From: Northeast
Tripletrouble
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Default  Posted: 9:17 PM, July 7th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Heaven help me, I just got this again tonight. "oh he's such a great guy! We were all just talking about how much we love him.".


40 somethings - me BW after 20 years
D Day April 2013
Divorced November 2013

The sea is so wide, and my boat is so small.


Posts: 554 | Registered: May 2013 | From: A state of overwhelmed
Tripletrouble
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Default  Posted: 9:19 PM, July 7th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Heaven help me, I just got this again tonight. "oh he's such a great guy! We were all just talking about how much we love him.".
I almost lost my shit right there and then. It would take a forklift to pick up the collective jaw drop that would occur when Mr Triple's adventures on AFF were revealed.


40 somethings - me BW after 20 years
D Day April 2013
Divorced November 2013

The sea is so wide, and my boat is so small.


Posts: 554 | Registered: May 2013 | From: A state of overwhelmed
WaryOptimist
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Default  Posted: 11:27 AM, July 8th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

My H's sister was visiting, and at one point sighed deeply and said, "I wish I could have the kind of marriage you two have..." Granted, her H is a total asswipe, and for us it was a good day (our son was graduating from college), but neither one of us said anything, we were too stunned into awkwardness.


Me: The faithful one
Him: WS
4 great kids
Married 28 years, together 35
D-Day: April 1, 2006 (yep, April Fool's Day...)
Aaaaaas Yoooouuu Wiiiiiish...

Posts: 629 | Registered: Jun 2008 | From: Here & There
uniquenewyork
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Default  Posted: 4:37 PM, July 8th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

My WW is a rather public figure, so whenever we go out, she is recognized by many people. No way to go out with just her and not have someone feel the need to say hello. That, in and of itself, is rather annoying, but I've had complete strangers come up to me and tell me what an awesome person she is, and hot, and blah, blah, blah. I usually nod in agreement and say "yep, that's why I married her". There have been times where I really wanted to say "you want her?"

heck, I've even had one of her friends tell me what a lucky guy I am, even though she knew about the affair while it was going on and even encouraged it.


Me(BS): 44/Her(WS): 43
S:11,D:8,D:6
Affair with OM#1 before we were married.
Couple day fling w/ OM#2
Me as a WS: late '07-early '08.
EA/PA with OM#3: 2/16/09 (many D-days after, broken NC.)
EA/PA with OM#4: Found September '10; PA

Posts: 198 | Registered: Jan 2011 | From: Wisconsin
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