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User Topic: Has anyone successfully pulled off an electronic tabula rasa?
Eudaimonia
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Default  Posted: 7:24 PM, July 1st (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

He has wanted to delete all of his online profiles, FB accounts, and fake email accounts since d-day. Since the TT is still ongoing (2+ years later), I have not wanted him to. I was hoping that maybe one of the thousands of persons he conversed/ cybered/ had actual intercourse with/ lied about me to/ mocked me to/etc. would have a shred of integrity or decency and let me in on what he has been doing for the last 10 years of my marriage. I was wrong. Not a single one of these people has any sense of human decency. Not his “ex-girlfriends”. Not his “stripper friends”. Not his “friends.” Not even people who pretended to be my friends. And, certainly not any of the horror shows from C/L or the dating sites.

I’ve accepted that all of these people suck and they are never going to be of any use to me. I don’t like it, but I’m past it.

So, now what? Is it possible to erase an online identity and start over? For example, WH has admitted to sending one photo of his cock to one man (I imagine that actually means that he sent many photos to many people, etc.). I do NOT want my children to ever see that or anything else he may have posted/shared online.

If we do go through and wipe out everything, then anything new will be him acting out in the present, right? Right now, he still gets all kinds of emails and propositions from dating sites and persons that can be explained away by “it was all stuff from the past.” But, if we delete those profiles and those email addresses, then whatever comes in the future will be new activity and I’ll know for sure that he has not changed. He claims that he hasn’t touched that stuff in years…..years before d-day even. I am skeptical. If we wipe out everything, anything new that is found will be just that: new.

Now, to stir the pot a bit-we’re even considering doing a little altering of info-just to be aware of who the real nutjobs are and if they’re still watching/waiting for him to come back for some whatever-the-hell-it-is-they-think-they-had. WH claims he does not have anything to do with any of these people nor does he want to ever again. He claims to be horrified that he had ever had anything to do with any of these people. If we changed his hometown to, say, Nome, Alaska, it might throw the psychos off enough to leave us the hell alone forever. After changing the profiles to the “new” info, we delete. All of it.

Has anyone done this? Is there any reason not to?

I posted something similar a while ago in I/T but did nothing about it because I didn’t get much response. The reasons behind doing this now have escalated with other factors ongoing in our lives, so I feel that we need to do something about this.


So long, and thanks for all the fish!

Posts: 472 | Registered: Jun 2011
Ashland13
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Default  Posted: 7:59 PM, July 1st (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I think you probably could, but I'm not technically oriented. I do wonder if it would take a bit of doing, as so many connections from site to site to site occur, there's cookies and all kinds of things like that in between.

It sounds like a good idea and I bet it's an angle John Locke didn't even imagine!

I've also gone back in history a little bit because I think STBX has taken his "social contract" a bit far with the cheating world.

I wish you luck and sorry I don't have more working or doing advice instead of a passive response.

I hope it will work.


Ashland 13

A person is a person, no matter how small. -Dr. Suess


Posts: 2134 | Registered: Feb 2013 | From: New England
Eudaimonia
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Default  Posted: 9:04 PM, July 1st (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

You rock for getting the reference


So long, and thanks for all the fish!

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Alex CR
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Default  Posted: 5:13 AM, July 2nd (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I think it would be a really hard thing to accomplish, but you can always try to do the best you can. One of the places I found my H's name showing up at a bar he frequented was on the internet archive, the Wayback machine. I don't know if they archive all sites, but it might help you locate some of the pages that are out there.

Good luck.

[This message edited by Alex CR at 5:14 AM, July 2nd (Tuesday)]


BS Me 61
WS Him 62
Married 33
Together 40
DD 11/16/09
The future looks good....

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atsenaotie
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Default  Posted: 7:22 AM, July 2nd (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I would just delete and move on with new emails and such. Just as your WH was involved with many other people, I suspect they all have many more irons in the fire than your WH.

If he REALLY wanted to prove no new acting out, he could have his dick tattooed so you could tell any new pictures from old in the future.


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painpaingoaway
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Default  Posted: 7:55 AM, July 2nd (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

have his dick tattooed so you could tell any new pictures from old in the future.


me BS female 56/him WS 59
Married 33 years
D-day July 09/he gave me his slut's STD
Watch my movie: "My wayward husband's adventures in STD land":
Episode 1: youtu.be/9Jv0-d_CdYc
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Posts: 7021 | Registered: Jan 2010 | From: Coastal South
Eudaimonia
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Default  Posted: 9:11 AM, July 2nd (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

If he REALLY wanted to prove no new acting out, he could have his dick tattooed so you could tell any new pictures from old in the future.

Nearly lost my coffee over that one!!!!!!


Someone mentioned the wayback machine a little while ago. I am unable to figure it out. I can see general C/L postings from the years that he posted there, but I'm unable to see actual posts and therefore cannot even tell if any of them are him. I'll keep trying it.

This "project" will take a while. Thanks for the tips and the chuckles, guys!


So long, and thanks for all the fish!

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