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User Topic: Follow or Forget
stilllovingher
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Default  Posted: 9:22 PM, July 1st (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

How I didn't get kicked out of WS is beyond me.

totally!! I expected an admin PM after most my posts in WS, especially bewuzzled's and aubrie's threads.


The only difference between a butt kisser and a brown noser is depth perception.
I'm sure WAL would agree.

Posts: 2401 | Registered: Oct 2010 | From: still BFE, but now BFE, CA
aesir
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Member # 17210
Default  Posted: 9:29 PM, July 1st (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

There's already a Who Doesn't Like Who list in the 5000 post forum.

BTW, aesir is the only member ever to be banned from that forum, because he included a 20k word rant because he mis-read the topic as "Who Doesn't like the Who".
It was brutal, and we're all still a bit embarrassed by it.

Well, if we are expected to try and interpret errors, I am still much closer than your autocorrect. How was I to know it was supposed to be Who Doesn't Like Whom? The Who seemed to fit just as well.


Your mileage may vary... in accordance with the prophecy.

Do not back up. Severe tire damage.


Posts: 14924 | Registered: Nov 2007 | From: Winnipeg
gonnabe2016
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Default  Posted: 10:28 PM, July 1st (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Technical question #1--Say that someone reads some random thread that I've posted on and decides that I'm not someone that s/he would like to EVER hear from and *forgets* me. The person that *forgot* me then starts a thread and I decide that I would like to weigh in.
(1) Will there just be no *post reply* option for me on that thread? or
(2) Will I spend 15 minutes typing up a response only to receive an *error* message? Or
(3) Will I spend 15 minutes typing up a response only to see my reply on the thread say "OP has *forgotten* you. Pound sand, Gonna."? ( like *whatever* girl... )

Technical question #2--just because I'm curious. I can *unforget* someone that I've forgotten by going to their profile and *unforgetting* them. But. The *forgotten* person kinda vanishes....username and text is gone. So if they're *gone*, how will I remember that I *forgot* them?
Oh wait....I'll only *not see* threads started by that person, but I'll still be able to *see* them if they post to others? So even though I want to *forget* them, I'll still have to see them around? And still potentially interact with that person on someone else's thread?


"Oh, what a tangled web we weave when first we practice to deceive." - Sir Walter Scott

In my effort to be *concise*, I often come off as blunt and harsh. Sorry, don't mean to be offensive.


Posts: 7696 | Registered: Feb 2012 | From: Midwest
gahurts
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Default  Posted: 10:58 PM, July 1st (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I love the follow option. There are a few people I always count on for wisdom beyond what I will ever be capable of.

The forget option I'm not so sure of. I already woder if anyone pays attention to me. Now I might become one of the forgotton 10. JK.

But seriously DS and MH thanks for all the work that you have to put into this site. I cannot say it often enough.

Now I just have to upgrade - it's on my priority list.


"Strength does not come from physical capacity. It comes from an indominable will" - Mahatma Gandi

"Courage is being scared to death and saddling up anyway." - Aubrie


Posts: 3325 | Registered: Oct 2011 | From: Georgia
RidingHealingRd
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Default  Posted: 11:04 PM, July 1st (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Being forgotten would not bother me..this is what my WH did to me during his affair...lovely.

ETA: Trigger much?

[This message edited by RidingHealingRd at 11:13 PM, July 1st (Monday)]


ME: 54 BS
HIM: 61 WH
Married: 28 years
D'Day: 10/29/10
in R 3.5 years and it's working but he is putting 200% into it (as he should) to make it right again.

The truth hurts, but I have never seen it cause the pain that lies do.


Posts: 2089 | Registered: Nov 2011
MovingUpward
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Member # 14866
Default  Posted: 11:16 PM, July 1st (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Technical question #1--Say that someone reads some random thread that I've posted on and decides that I'm not someone that s/he would like to EVER hear from and *forgets* me. The person that *forgot* me then starts a thread and I decide that I would like to weigh in.
(1) Will there just be no *post reply* option for me on that thread? or
(2) Will I spend 15 minutes typing up a response only to receive an *error* message? Or
(3) Will I spend 15 minutes typing up a response only to see my reply on the thread say "OP has *forgotten* you. Pound sand, Gonna."? ( like *whatever* girl... )

Scenario 1 is what you'd get. Where the post reply usually is you'll get a Topic is Full posting.


Technical question #2--just because I'm curious. I can *unforget* someone that I've forgotten by going to their profile and *unforgetting* them. But. The *forgotten* person kinda vanishes....username and text is gone. So if they're *gone*, how will I remember that I *forgot* them?
Oh wait....I'll only *not see* threads started by that person, but I'll still be able to *see* them if they post to others? So even though I want to *forget* them, I'll still have to see them around? And still potentially interact with that person on someone else's thread?

From the testing that I did on this, you will not see any of the content of the unfollowed person on any thread. Threads created by some that doesn't want you following will still show in the forum list with "......." as a thread title and the username hidden. When said person posts on another thread then you will see response blocks but no responses and there won't be a Username listed either for that response.


AKA Moo

Think of the haters in your life as sandpaper; they’ll scratch you up time and time again but in the end you’re polished, smooth, and spotless..while they end up useless

We make a living by what we get, but we make a life by what we give.


Posts: 51504 | Registered: Jun 2007 | From: Big Blue Nation
Sad in AZ
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Default  Posted: 11:16 PM, July 1st (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I suspect it might make the mods lives a bit easier--less tattling ("He was mean to me, teacher!") Now, you just have to go 'click'.


I solemnly swear that I am up to no good.

Posts: 19795 | Registered: Jun 2009 | From: Upstate NY
gonnabe2016
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Default  Posted: 11:30 PM, July 1st (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thanks Moo. Interesting...


"Oh, what a tangled web we weave when first we practice to deceive." - Sir Walter Scott

In my effort to be *concise*, I often come off as blunt and harsh. Sorry, don't mean to be offensive.


Posts: 7696 | Registered: Feb 2012 | From: Midwest
Ascendant
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Default  Posted: 2:58 AM, July 2nd (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I really like the follow feature. Now I can preserve precious life-minutes while still cyber stalking those whose posts I immensely enjoy. Win.


"The thing that always seems to be shocking to wayward wives is the simple fact that the man you choose to reconcile with is not the same man you cheated on." - a friend.

Posts: 1945 | Registered: Jan 2013 | From: Illinois
Lucky2HaveMe
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Default  Posted: 9:21 AM, July 2nd (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm sure MH/DS had a war room going with this idea and have decided it made sense to offer this. Will some maybe not glean as much as they could if they couldn't ignore? Possibly. But we have also all seen those posts where the same poster says the same thing over and over and over again on the same thread - a user may want to *mute* that person... Or there are some posters that simply annoy me - no it's not any of you reading this thread! Yes I try to ignore and not even open their threads - but just like trying to simply ignore people on FB, if it's easy to just click, I do... then I kick myself for walking into the post that is going to make me

When I block someone on FB, I can't read their stuff. I can't search for them. It's a reminder to me that there is a reason for that!

I see this as being able to ignore people pro-actively rather than re-actively. I'm sure if it becomes a sight issue, MH & DS will head back to the war room and figure it all out. Haven't they done and excellent job of managing this site thus far?


Indian wisdom says our lives are rivers. We are born somewhere small and quiet and we move toward a place we cannot see, but only imagine. From Tending Roses

Posts: 6005 | Registered: Jan 2007 | From: WNY
huRtZ413
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Default  Posted: 9:26 AM, July 2nd (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

You should have the screen shot feature! So we can submit texts lol . Good or crazy .....



me_BW
him_WH


I'M ON THE FENCE



Posts: 278 | Registered: May 2013
jackie89
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Default  Posted: 10:09 AM, July 2nd (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thanks mods for this. This is a great site and the advise that I have received and have seen being given to others in similar situations have helped me a lot.

But Ouch - Already can see who doesn't like me! Ah well...


Separated - working on R

Posts: 451 | Registered: Jan 2013 | From: Pennsylvania
m334455
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Default  Posted: 1:42 PM, July 2nd (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

But nobody has addressed the issues in the graphic I posted.

Change is bad. A motto of all the people in my profession.

more importantly: there is a 5000 post forum? Now I'm jealous.


BW 38, 5 kids
Dday Dec. 2009

Posts: 4034 | Registered: Dec 2009
ajsmom
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Default  Posted: 2:05 PM, July 2nd (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

For future reference, my user name is ajsmom not my signature AJ's MOM.

Carry on.

AJ's MOM


Fidelity isn't a feeling...it's a choice.

"Truth has no special time of its own. Its hour is now - always." - Albert Schweitzer
____________________________________________
Me: BW - Him: 200+ # tumor removed 7/09
DS - 31 - Yikes!


Posts: 21032 | Registered: Dec 2007 | From: Been Through Hell...On My Way Back
JanaGreen
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Default  Posted: 2:29 PM, July 2nd (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

more importantly: there is a 5000 post forum? Now I'm jealous.


This is a platinum feature?


We're both in our 30s. One awesome 4-year-old daughter.

Posts: 6543 | Registered: Aug 2010 | From: Somewhere in the South
sisoon
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Default  Posted: 3:27 PM, July 2nd (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm not very worried about problems. If problems occur, I think mods, admins, and MH will be informed very quickly. Just sayin'....


fBH (me) - 65+, fWW (her) - 65+, Married 45+, together since 1965
DDay - 12/2010
Recovered, not yet fully R'ed
I share my own experience because it's the only experience I know, not because I'm a good model.

Posts: 9761 | Registered: Feb 2011 | From: Chicago area
JanaGreen
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Default  Posted: 7:46 AM, July 3rd (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm bumping this because I really want to know about the 5000 post forum.


We're both in our 30s. One awesome 4-year-old daughter.

Posts: 6543 | Registered: Aug 2010 | From: Somewhere in the South
nowiknow23
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Default  Posted: 7:49 AM, July 3rd (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

There's no 5000 post forum, Jana. But there is a 100K forum, and it's located by DS & MH's pool.


You can call me NIK

Wise men talk because they have something to say; fools, because they have to say something.
- Plato


Posts: 24435 | Registered: Aug 2011
Mama_of_3_Kids
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Default  Posted: 7:57 AM, July 3rd (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I suspect it might make the mods lives a bit easier--less tattling ("He was mean to me, teacher!") Now, you just have to go 'click'.

This ^^^....

I really like the follow feature. Now I can preserve precious life-minutes while still cyber stalking those whose posts I immensely enjoy. Win

...and this ^^^

Could it be abused? Sure. However, I am sure we all remember what it was like to come here with those raw, "right after the A" feelings; there were people that said something in a way that was not conducive to our healing, at that moment. There are still many people who can get the same message out to them, but maybe in a different way. Sometimes we just need a way to block comments until we're ready to hear from that person.


Me: FBW/30 Him: FWH/33 The kidlets: DS13, DS10, and DD8 The hounds: Four Shih Tzu's
Finally, completely R'd
Clothed in strength and dignity, with nothing to fear, she smiles when she thinks about the future.~Proverbs 31:25

Posts: 11538 | Registered: Dec 2009
JanaGreen
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Default  Posted: 8:00 AM, July 3rd (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I hate it when I don't get the joke. It's like when I was a newbie here, and people were talking about cheese abuse, and I was just lost.


We're both in our 30s. One awesome 4-year-old daughter.

Posts: 6543 | Registered: Aug 2010 | From: Somewhere in the South
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