And what makes it crazier is that my MIL actually talked to me about his dad's multiple affairs when she visited. We don't have a good relationship because FIL has always hated me and tried to intimidate me. (But that's another story) She is talking about divorcing his dad and is finally growing a backbone. They have been married 40 years and he had 5 affairs, plus physical abuse. We don't have the abuse part but he can be cruel with words. I think it was an eye opener for me that I really don't want to be his mom. Living with an ass for 40 years and giving him the best parts of my life then starting over in my 50's or 60's.
I don't even know who I am anymore. I'm just lost. I don't know how to check back in even for my kids...
Try doing something just for you.
I've been sitting on the fence so long that my butt has permanent marks in it! I think it's because of the TT in my case and if I'm honest with myself, he might be borderline NPD.
I don't have any advice for you but just know that you are not alone. I've been on this site a lot lately hoping to find answers/information to kick my butt in one direction or the other. I'm so tired of limbo. I even quit my IC cause every week she would ask me where I was and every week I would say "I STILL don't freaking know!!!"
Part of mine is financial like yours Ostrich. With kids though I just can't seem to save any money. I'm a teacher and my income barely covers my bills. I can't have a house payment and a car payment at the same time or no one eats.
Hope, I come here almost every day but I rarely post. People in R talk about rebuilding the relationship but I'm to a point that I'm sick of working on it so we can sit on the fence together.
Thank you TIKY. I think I will take some time today. I think I need it.