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sadallthetime
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Default  Posted: 5:35 PM, June 29th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I am 4 years out and although things are much better I still struggle. After TT, more DD's and lying for 6 months FWH has done everything to help me heal.

[This message edited by SI Staff at 7:12 PM, June 29th (Saturday)]


Me-BW 60 now, FWH 64 now, 2 adult kids
DD#1 7-21-09 11 yr. affair w OW 30 yrs. younger who is an "escort". DD#2 7-23-09 Long Term EA with mutual friend DD#3 10-3-09 1 1/2 yr PA with escort #2 DD#4 10 yr. EA w/old GF

Posts: 104 | Registered: Dec 2009 | From: Florida
rachelc
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Default  Posted: 6:46 PM, June 29th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thank you for posting that. While some of it rings true, and at this time, there isn't much punishment going on, there are a couple things I will never forgive and I don't feel badly about it.
Does it mean we don't have true love? I don't think so. It may mean we don't have 100% true unconditional love. To forgive a couple of instances where I was mind- fucked feels like I would not be honoring myself and the pain that girl went through. It would say to me that what I went through was "ok." It wasn't and I know that's not what she's saying but that's how I define firgiveness.
I love him less for doing those things to me. So be it. I will settle for less then as there is too much good stuff to give up. That's real life. I don't think of these things often and I don't bring them up but I will never forget them. And there will be a piece of me he doesn't get because of it. Actions, meet consequences.....

[This message edited by rachelc at 6:47 PM, June 29th (Saturday)]


his Dday: 2/10 but TT until 7/11
my Ddays: 1/12, 4/12 broken NC 12/12

me (WW/BS): 48
him: (BS/WH)52
4 kiddos in mid 20's

“Follow your intuition. Be smart, be brave. Tell the truth and don’t take any shit.”


Posts: 5335 | Registered: Dec 2010 | From: Midwest
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