I haven't been through this, but wanted to send hugs and strength.
Were together 7+yrs, Ended R.
I would like to send hugs also.
I think continued therapy is very important, if there is any way you can swing it.
I'll be sending good thoughts.
“The most difficult times for many of us are the ones we give ourselves.”
― Pema Chödrön
Learning and consistently implementing other ways of managing the stress is key.
I personally do not have a child with an eating disorder, but my oldest niece walks a fine line with this. She was worse in high school, dancer, athlete, honor student, perfect GPA, on and on. She would tend to have very strange eating habits, now she is getting ready to start her sophomore year of college, and lives on her own. Her eating habits have improved, still eats very clean, lots of fresh fruit, veggies, and only very lean protein. No Fast food, no junk (unless you count pretzels). She also runs for her exercise and stress relief. She looks pretty darn healthy at this time, and I think her learning to accept that it's ok to not be perfect in every aspect of life has helped her more than anything.
Good luck to you guys.
One of things we worked on in therapy is she needs to be open about when she is feeling out of control. We don't have family here and they don't know back "home". She has no girl friends, But she has our immediate family support.
Since she has been home for 3 weeks she got a boyfriend and he is the best therapy, and cheaper too! Only have to feed him! lol. He gives her all kinds of encouragement and likes her just the way she is. He really boosts her self esteem. She is overweight now due to the binge eating and doesn't purge.
I'm going to stay in IC. An absolute must for me. My DD IC we may be able to afford and can probably handle Family therapy, but my My WH IC and MC will have to wait. But I'm afraid to wait too long for those things because I don't want things to slip back to the way we were.
Tushnurce: Your nieces story is somewhat similar. DD made straight A's freshman year, cheerleader. Then all F's Junior year and then dropped out of high school. She is now on an online school trying to make up credits but it's slow going.
She never left the house when she was binge eating. Ever. For about a year. Wouldn't accept help. We were ready to call the police to come and pick her up for treatment when she finally let us take her. When she was anorexic she exercised insensibly. Her diet was very strange. Didn't put anything in her mouth that wasn't "healthy" and it was a mono diet, meaning she ate very few types of food over and over.
The thing of it was I am a Dietitian and couldn't stop her from harming herself. It was very heart breaking to watch. she also many years ago was diagnosed with OCD, and currently on an antidepressant which she wouldn't take before treatment because she thought it was harming her body.
So, to end with, I am dealing with the infidelity, DD eating disorder and a DS who is on meds for depression. I am also was severely depressed and on meds. But these stories are best left to another post.
Thanks for your support.
I will keep you and your D in my thoughts and prayers...HUGS