Though I visit this site often and read the stories of others (great support and helpful as I think about my own situation) I have only posted once, and that was back in January. I was feeling so guilty about trying to find 'evidence' of what I felt was happening with my H. Those who responded told me that I wasn't crazy, wasn't wrong, wasn't being disrespectful of his privacy - which I knew but didn't believe. Though it was hard to read the opinions, they were right on. He was engaged in contacting OW and he was doing his best to hide it.
Fast forward to today, and my reason for this post. I just want to say that though it has taken me all these months to 'live' with his lies I have stepped up and confronted him with 'some' of what I know and told him I don't want to live with him and he can move out - go 'live' with her, or his brother, or by himself. Doesn't matter to me. I just can't let him be here with me under these conditions any longer.
There's a lot to this story that I haven't mentioned, but I'm writing this because I feel pretty good about myself to be able to say this to him and mean it. When I compare my panic back in January when I wrote that first post to now, I can see how all of the people whose stories I've been reading have helped me find ways to believe in my self and my own self worth.
Though I see an IC, it's these forums that have been the most helpful and informative for me.
So, just my thanks.