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User Topic: And the dating blunders start anew
OnceInALifetime
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Default  Posted: 9:46 PM, June 26th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

A woman I messaged replied, and I'm all Hallelujah about it, 'cause judging from the profile alone, she's an 11 on every scale.

So I most carefully compose a reply to her reply. Did a wonderful job making it sound like it was all off the cuff, even though I spent some time on it. Clicked send.

Then notice that a bunch of text that I thought I had cut was still there, so there was all this crazy repetition. I mean, it was inane.

Please tell me some of you have done that sort of shit. Please?



BH, now divorced

Posts: 3012 | Registered: Oct 2009
Sad in AZ
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Default  Posted: 9:58 PM, June 26th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Write back really quick and tell her your computer had the hiccups!


I solemnly swear that I am up to no good.

Posts: 19789 | Registered: Jun 2009 | From: Upstate NY
nowiknow23
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Default  Posted: 10:02 PM, June 26th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

((((OIAL)))) That stuff happens all the time. ALL the time. Keep breathing - you're fine.


You can call me NIK

Wise men talk because they have something to say; fools, because they have to say something.
- Plato


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OnceInALifetime
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Default  Posted: 10:07 PM, June 26th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Too late for damage control, Sad.

I wish these dating sites would give me 2 minutes to retract a message after I send it. So much carnage would be prevented.


BH, now divorced

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Default  Posted: 10:14 PM, June 26th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

FWIW, I've done that on job-hunting cover letters.


I solemnly swear that I am up to no good.

Posts: 19789 | Registered: Jun 2009 | From: Upstate NY
OnceInALifetime
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Default  Posted: 10:19 PM, June 26th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

FWIW, I've done that on job-hunting cover letters

Yeah, but you're *expected* to edit the hell out of those.


BH, now divorced

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Dreamboat
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Default  Posted: 10:37 PM, June 26th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Relax. Just today I saw on this site someone post FIVE times! Sometimes the phone or computer blips and shit happens. If t makes it better then send a follow up "oops...technology challenged" message. Seriously, it happens to everyone so just roll with it and make the best of it.


And it's hard to dance with a devil on your back
So shake him off
-- Shake It Out, Florence And The Machine

Posts: 17605 | Registered: Apr 2006 | From: A better place :)
OnceInALifetime
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Default  Posted: 10:49 PM, June 26th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

OK, relaxing. :)

One other blunder as well, which was kind of funny. She asked what my summer plans were, so I told her it would be just occasional little getaways. Then I asked if she had any plans to make me jealous.

What I meant, in a playful sense, was did she have any plans that I would be jealous of.

But it's all OK. I figure if she responds I'll have gotten the necessary flubs out of my system early.


BH, now divorced

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timeforchange
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Default  Posted: 12:16 AM, June 27th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I had a similar cringe worthy moment.

I was on Match. At the time my son had a FB account and I did not have one. His was permanently logged in on my phone so I could monitor activity.

Well I searched for a guy I was chatting with on Match, via FB and had a good look at his account. Just to check he was who he said he was.

Whilst scrolling I accidentally sent a friends request to him ..... From my son!!!!!!!

I spent a few hours totally mortified and wondering what to do. My son has a different surname as I use my maiden name... But the guy would still have worked out who it was in about 5 mins.

So I bit the bullet... Emailed him, told him the story and he promptly said here is my number ....... Would you like to go for a drink this weekend.

We dated over last summer and whenever people asked how we met... He told them "she stalked me on FB". We always laughed about it together.

We are no longer together but have remained friends.

So my tip would be to send a message and be honest. She may appreciate it more than you think.

A guy who had clearly spent time thinking and choosing his words wisely would score points with me. And also one who is honest enough to admit he slipped up and who can laugh it off


Me = BS aged 43
2 boys, 13 and 9
DDay 1/19/10
Confronted him 2/16/10
Finally Divorced 8/29/12

“We must let go of the life we have planned, so as to accept the one that is waiting for us.”


Posts: 726 | Registered: Feb 2010 | From: Expats in Europe
cmego
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Default  Posted: 6:04 AM, June 27th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Yup....send a message that your computer had a hiccup.


me...BS, 43 years old, 2 small kids
WS, 41, multiple gay affairs
M 15 years, together 17
Divorced

"For whatever we lose, like a you or a me, it's always ourselves we find in the sea" ee cummings


Posts: 4008 | Registered: Dec 2010 | From: Virginia
SBB
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Default  Posted: 9:13 AM, June 27th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

She would understand what happened. I like the hiccups reference.

Don't see this as a dealbreaker - see it as an ice-breaker.

Oh OIAL - you're the Calamity Jane of Dating. Just be you, friend. I think its endearing.

Unless of course your note said "Fucktity Fuck Fuck Shit. Fuck."

Remember she has probably come across a few 'Mr Stallion Beefcake Mancandy's in OLD. *shudder*


Buzz- The word you are searching for is 'Space-Ranger.'
Woody- The word I'm searching for, I can't say, because there are Pre-school toys here.

Posts: 5401 | Registered: Apr 2012 | From: Australia
ajsmom
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Default  Posted: 9:17 AM, June 27th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Please tell me you are journaling your escapades.

I can so see a sitcom about your experiences.

AJ's MOM


Fidelity isn't a feeling...it's a choice.

"Truth has no special time of its own. Its hour is now - always." - Albert Schweitzer
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Me: BW - Him: 200+ # tumor removed 7/09
DS - 31 - Yikes!


Posts: 21032 | Registered: Dec 2007 | From: Been Through Hell...On My Way Back
Amazonia
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Default  Posted: 9:18 AM, June 27th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

It's never too late for damage control. "I logged in and was re-reading this and noticed that I sent part of it twice - not sure how that happened! sorry if it came across as weird or confusing" is a perfectly appropriate thing to send the next morning.


"You yourself deserve your love and affection as much as anybody in the universe." -Buddha
"Let's face it, life is a crap shoot." -Sad in AZ

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gahurts
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Default  Posted: 10:33 AM, June 27th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Please tell me you are journaling your escapades.

I can so see a sitcom about your experiences.

"Everyone Loves OIAL"

Tonight at 7 on the WB!


"Strength does not come from physical capacity. It comes from an indominable will" - Mahatma Gandi

"Courage is being scared to death and saddling up anyway." - Aubrie


Posts: 3317 | Registered: Oct 2011 | From: Georgia
thyme2go
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Default  Posted: 10:52 AM, June 27th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Yup....send a message that your computer had a hiccup.

But it did not.


-t2g


BH - no longer 48
3 DD's - (27, 24 and 17)
Divorced on 8/6/09

Posts: 9174 | Registered: Dec 2006 | From: Eastern Washington
OnceInALifetime
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Default  Posted: 11:53 AM, June 27th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

OK, riddle me this. After my inane response to her message, she responded with not another message, but a smile (similar to match's wink feature).

Translation?

Well, the ball's in her court. I asked her some questions, and a smile is not a response.


BH, now divorced

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Default  Posted: 11:55 AM, June 27th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Does Match show whether the message was read? Maybe she needs to time to respond but wanted to acknowledge that she read it?


"You yourself deserve your love and affection as much as anybody in the universe." -Buddha
"Let's face it, life is a crap shoot." -Sad in AZ

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She11ybeanz
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Funny  Posted: 1:01 PM, June 27th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Just write her back real quick and apologize for the errors but its hard to type when she is rocking your world!!!


"Sometimes your knight in shining armor ...is just a douchebag in tin foil!!"

ME - BW - 35
HIM - XWH - 39
D day: November 15th, 2009
Married: 5 Years, together 8
Divorced: December 13th, 2010
New Beginning: Piper/8-3-12


Posts: 2710 | Registered: Feb 2010 | From: Virginia
cayc
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Default  Posted: 1:24 PM, June 27th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Well, the ball's in her court. I asked her some questions, and a smile is not a response.

Well if you want to be tit for tat about dating I guess. But if you're interested, message her again. (And fwiw, a smile is a response, just not the one you wanted).


"The difference between involvement and commitment is like ham and eggs. The chicken is involved, the pig is committed." -Martina Navratilova
"The question isn't who is going to let me; it's who is going to stop me." -Ayn Rand

Posts: 2999 | Registered: Dec 2008 | From: Mexico
gahurts
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Default  Posted: 1:56 PM, June 27th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I would take a smile to mean that she liked what she read.

Sometimes you don't know what to say but you want to respond to let the other person know that you are still engaged inthe conversation. That's how I take this.


"Strength does not come from physical capacity. It comes from an indominable will" - Mahatma Gandi

"Courage is being scared to death and saddling up anyway." - Aubrie


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