Topic: Xwh died today
Member # 36041
| Posted: 7:52 PM, June 26th (Wednesday), 2013|
So very sorry to hear this. You don't say so but I am getting the feeling he ended his own life.
My STBX killed himself last September. I had moved out almost a year before. We were still legally married so I had to deal with it all. I never felt any guilt - he was bipolar and not treated and he really went off the rails.
This will still be a difficult time for you even though you don't have to deal with the day to day fall out. Your children will have a bad time too. Get some counseling for them and yourself. It is ok to feel relief - I certainly did and I feel alot safer now. It is nice to know I will never run into him again.
Try and get some peace about it although that will take awhile. It is a real body blow. Be patient with yourself. You are in shock right now.
You will be in my prayers.
White bird must fly or she will die . . .
Posts: 268 | Registered: Jul 2012 | From: in divorce land
Member # 34353
| Posted: 7:59 PM, June 26th (Wednesday), 2013|
I am sorry
Married since 1985
Parents to 2 adult sons and 3 of the cutest cats you have ever seen
D-day 8/6/11 Truth about ONS and 9/21/11 Truth about EA
Trying to reconcile
Posts: 1610 | Registered: Dec 2011 | From: midwest now.
Member # 8142
| Posted: 10:17 PM, June 26th (Wednesday), 2013|
I'm so sorry.
Wishing you strength.
~XWH told me what I wanted to hear but he always did whatever he wanted to do~
Posts: 25406 | Registered: Sep 2005
Member # 26893
| Posted: 11:04 PM, June 26th (Wednesday), 2013|
I wish I could give you a hug right now.
I'm sorry for your loss, your childrens' loss, for everything that happened that shouldn't have and didn't happen that should have.
18 years is a very long time. Be gentle with yourself while you grieve.
BW 38, 5 kids
Dday Dec. 2009
Posts: 4034 | Registered: Dec 2009
Member # 39451
| Posted: 3:21 AM, June 27th (Thursday), 2013|
So sorry ! I had tears in my eyes reading your post!
M: 10 years
DD:5 DS Twin: 2 yrs old
DDay: Earlier 2013, WS flew/met many times with a Philippine girl found online (20 yrs younger)
SA finalized 6 months after DD. divorcing...
I am determined to fly even with broken wings and a broken heart!
Posts: 174 | Registered: Jun 2013 | From: Canada
Member # 33539
| Posted: 12:09 PM, June 27th (Thursday), 2013|
So very sorry. Much hugs to you and your children.
Posts: 508 | Registered: Oct 2011 | From: New York
Member # 36434
| Posted: 12:41 PM, June 27th (Thursday), 2013|
(((ssm and kids)))
Me: BW, 34 Him: WH, 35
3 Kids: 9, 3, and 1
Decree nisi will become absolute in January. We are DONE.
Posts: 771 | Registered: Aug 2012
Member # 30989
| Posted: 1:48 PM, June 27th (Thursday), 2013|
(((ssm and kids))) I'm so sorry; the conflicting emotions must be so confusing.
WH (Trac-fone), 52, PD
2 kids-DD25, DS18
Alone, most strangely, I live on~Rupert Brooke
Posts: 8505 | Registered: Jan 2011 | From: midwest
Member # 30742
| Posted: 2:56 PM, June 27th (Thursday), 2013|
I am so sorry. I think many of us here get how you feel, I think I would feel very similarly.
Hugs to your children.
Temporarily independent with the whole world at my feet.
Posts: 1247 | Registered: Jan 2011 | From: California
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