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User Topic: everything wedding related makes me cry
hobbeskat
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Default  Posted: 3:12 PM, June 25th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

My H cheated on 5 months after our wedding. We've now been married 10 months and everything wedding related makes me cry. I did training today and had to go out and compose myself because someone there was getting married in 2 months. That was me a year ago and I was so hopeful and happy. Then on the train home I heard someone planning her hen night. My sister put so much effort into mine, even got us tshirts. And one hangs in the OWs bedroom because she was one of my hens and best friends.

I feel overcome with grief that seems neverending. It makes me want to run. I don't know how to cope with this anymore.


Posts: 308 | Registered: Mar 2013
CatchyUsername
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Default  Posted: 3:24 PM, June 25th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

This is so tough! The A happened many many years after our wedding and any mention of weddings still bothers me. I had to spend last weekend celebrating WHs parents 50th wedding anniversary. I took a lot of long walks by myself. (((Hugs)))

Posts: 191 | Registered: Jun 2013
sisoon
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Default  Posted: 5:09 PM, June 25th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Being betrayed brings a lot of grief IME. A lot. A whole lot.

My approach was to feel it and let it out in the hope that it would eventually end, and that seems to be happening. At 2 1/2 years out, I still feel grief from the A, but it's not so frequent or heavy that I can tell you how often.

So the bad news is that letting the grief go may take you a long time, but the good news is that it does end.

(((hobbeskat)))


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sodamnlost
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Default  Posted: 8:27 PM, June 25th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I can't even imagine it that close to your wedding :-(

I shoot weddings and WH second shoots them with me - some are fine - some - I want to DIE.


If it walks like a duck and quacks like a duck - it's not a fluffy pink unicorn squirting liquid rainbows, complete with pots of gold out of it's ass.

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