This isn't about you being a good wife or not. This is about him and his continued fuckupedness. He's the one who needs to fix his shit and be *a good wife*. He's the one who made the choice to cheat. Not you. His choices had nothing to do with what you did or didn't do. The choice to cheat is on him. You need to work on your needs and desires as well as personal boundaries or his treatment of you will never change.
Don't allow him to treat you like shit any longer. 180 his ass till he gets his shit together. Right now, you're not in R. You're in a living nightmare heading toward either another A with more bull crap to follow and eventually D or a lifetime of you trying to fix him.
[This message edited by stilllovinghim at 1:56 AM, June 23rd (Sunday)]
You guys should have had a long talk with yourselves and an MC before making the decision to move back in. Why in the hell did you move out anyway? It's your home just as much as his and all this moving out / moving in just confuses any kids involved.
Also, you may not have hit your "anger phase" yet so keep that in mind.
IMHO, you're not in R. You're not any where close and he has no desire to try and own let alone fix his shit. Why should he? Its easier for him to let you take all the blame and do all the work. Let me ask you something, do you think this is a good example the two of your are setting for your child?
Please get into IC and later MC and please understand I'm not trying to say your not welcome in the R forum, because you are.
You were scared of coming back to your home to live with him. Did you question yourself as to why? What do you need from him? Can he give this to you?
[This message edited by Unagie at 3:10 AM, June 23rd (Sunday)]
Both had DDays and TT
Do not let others be your reference for who you see in the mirror.
Stop allowing people to hurt you, because you don't love you enough to walk away.