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User Topic: Making my WW's Head spin
IGaveItMyAll
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Default  Posted: 5:59 PM, June 20th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

So I have been working on a modified 180. I think it is really making her head spin. I am mostly doing this to break co-dependancy issues and to gain my confidence back. But its weird I have an internal struggle to give in or be strong and keep on going. Anyone experiance this? I alomost start feeling bad. BUT it is going great so far. Here are some examples of what I have been doing:

MC was coming up. I told her she didn't have to go. If she didn't want to go I am just going to go alone. She got defensive and told me she wanted to go.

I ussually plan a date once a week. I told her I was going to the gym and she responded well looks like its the gym for date night. She was ok with it.

I ussually call her throughout the day. Today I waited for her to reach out to me. I could just hear in her voice she was irritated and frustrated I didn't call.

I still have very deep conversations with her. The first day of 180 she attacked me in bed while I was sleeping (That Never Happens) BUT I don't really want all this to back fire on me. So any insight wold be helpful.

[This message edited by IGaveItMyAll at 6:16 PM, June 20th (Thursday)]


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1Faith
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Funny  Posted: 6:39 PM, June 20th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

She's seeing the power shift.

She wants to get control back. You backing off has thrown her for a loop.

Resist and let her know that you have your boundaries and going forward this is acceptable and this is not.

Hold strong. Things are a changing

Good for you !!!


"I can be changed by what happens to me. But I refuse to be reduced by it." - Maya Angelou

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