We all seem to forget about the telephone!!Not always an option when you have a toxic, insane family that doesn't communicate with you.
Im sure he would be suspicious of what else you were up to while on the site.She stated "Not that it matters to him". If he cared, he should have spoken up. If he did care and didn't speak up, that's on him. He can communicate like a big boy.
Unagie, I get the whole crazy non-communicative family thing. My husband wouldn't know half the things he knows about his family if it wasn't for FB. Weird. They'll be friends with him or keep their pages public but they can't pick up a phone or write an email or letter.
My husband cares for his family. He uses FB to keep an eye on them. I have seen him continually send texts and emails to his family. Birthdays, Get Wells, Congratulations, and Condolences. It's a one sided conversation. He loves them, he lets them know he's there. They choose to ignore it. His choice to reach out even when he knows it's one sided, their choice to ignore he care and concern.
I know FB is highly controversial. I had one once upon a time. Oodles of friends and family. Finally about 3 years ago, I deactivated. Only recently have I opened a new FB that I use for select friends. All the friends and family I had before are not aware of the new one. It's a part of my life that I chose not to share with the world.
Does it mean my boundaries have "dropped"? Guess it depends on your own personal view.
Everything can be used for good or evil Unagie. FB can be a very good tool if used properly, just as it can be abused and bring destruction and heartache. You can apply that to a lot of areas in life. It's not just FB. It's the person and their motive behind it.
I want to call my sister and offer her condolences but wonder if I should knowing the animosity there, even not knowing the reason for it.Or you can simply drop a card in the mail with a heartfelt note. Cuts the awkward of a conversation out but shows her you still care. Me - FWW * Him - QuietStand
"Courage is being scared to death and saddling up anyway." - J. Wayne