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User Topic: Poly tonight - wish us luck :-(
sodamnlost
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Default  Posted: 11:05 AM, June 20th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Having WH take a poly tonight at 6:30. Not suspecting anything new, just looking for some reassurance I guess. I know it's not a silver bullet but with years of mind games from him, I am not so sure I trust my brain some days :-(


If it walks like a duck and quacks like a duck - it's not a fluffy pink unicorn squirting liquid rainbows, complete with pots of gold out of it's ass.

Posts: 769 | Registered: Oct 2012 | From: Nowhere pretty
confused615
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Default  Posted: 11:22 AM, June 20th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Good luck.

WH said he would take one..but has made no effort to do so.

I hope you get the reassurance you're looking for.


((((sodamnlost))))


BS(me)42
FWH 45
4 kids
M: June 2001
D-Day: 8/10/10
Status: Reconciling?

..that feeling you get in your stomach, when you heart's broken. It's like all the butterflies just died.


Posts: 7748 | Registered: Jan 2011 | From: Indiana
JustWow
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Default  Posted: 12:14 PM, June 20th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Good luck, both of you.

We did this. it did help, both of us.


BW - Reconciling

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Posts: 3637 | Registered: May 2008 | From: Midwest
Rebreather
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Default  Posted: 12:50 PM, June 20th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

*fingers crossed* for no parking lot confessons and a good result!


Me BS
Him WH
2 ddays in '07
Recovering.
"The cure for the pain, is the pain." -Rumi

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JanaGreen
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Default  Posted: 2:19 PM, June 20th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

((HUGS)) and good luck tonight. I know it's not going to be easy.


We're both in our 30s. One awesome 4-year-old daughter.

Posts: 6833 | Registered: Aug 2010 | From: Somewhere in the South
sodamnlost
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Default  Posted: 4:49 PM, June 20th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

He feels like crap because he had made choices that have us here, his wife asking for a poly. He is scared it won't help me.

I feel guilty almost. I *KNOW* I shouldn't but I do. I don't think he is still lying (most days) but on those days I do - yeah - the crazy takes over and hopefully this will help. I am *TERRIFIED* that he is still lying to me :-( I sooooo hope the poly gives me some security. I am scared of what I will have to do if he *IS* still lying. My belly is in knots. My head hurts. I want to vomit. My chest has an elephant on it. I want it over and done already.


If it walks like a duck and quacks like a duck - it's not a fluffy pink unicorn squirting liquid rainbows, complete with pots of gold out of it's ass.

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OptimisticWife
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Default  Posted: 5:22 PM, June 20th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((sodamnlost)))

I hope you feel much better once you have the results. Don't feel guilty. Good on you for looking out for yourself. I think it's good that your WH is doing this in hopes of helping your healing. It's a great step for you both. I wish you both the best. Good luck.


Posts: 190 | Registered: Aug 2012
1Faith
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Wink  Posted: 5:35 PM, June 20th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Good luck!! It will hopefully be another reassurance for you so you can move forward. Sending hugs.


"I can be changed by what happens to me. But I refuse to be reduced by it." - Maya Angelou

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sodamnlost
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Default  Posted: 6:51 PM, June 20th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

HE PASSED!!!!!!!!!!!!!

:-) YAY!!


If it walks like a duck and quacks like a duck - it's not a fluffy pink unicorn squirting liquid rainbows, complete with pots of gold out of it's ass.

Posts: 769 | Registered: Oct 2012 | From: Nowhere pretty
JustWow
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Default  Posted: 7:49 PM, June 20th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

yay! yay! yay!

Good job, BOTH of you, boundaries and promises are both important to keep - and ya both did your part!


BW - Reconciling

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Jrazz
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Default  Posted: 8:09 PM, June 20th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Yaaaaay!!! I'm so glad. Hopefully this is a huge load off for both of you!!


(((sdl)))


Cherish those who seek the truth but beware of those who find it. - François-Marie Arouet

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catlover50
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Default  Posted: 8:23 PM, June 20th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Good for you both!!!!!



Dday -9/24/2012
Reconciling

Posts: 1766 | Registered: Oct 2012 | From: northeast
LivinginLimbo
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Default  Posted: 8:29 PM, June 20th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I hope this helps you to move on.


BS - 62
FWH - 60
Married 34 years
D-Day 2/12/12
Doing well with R

Posts: 1055 | Registered: Mar 2012
Missymomma
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Default  Posted: 8:30 PM, June 20th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Congratulations! Hope it gives you some peace.


DDay - 6/15/11
R started - 7/1/11
False Discl- 9/27/12
Real Discl - 2/12/13
Poly - 3/1/13 Pass!
Me - BS (46)
WH - 52 (SA, NA, WA)
Kids: 2 littles and 1 grown
The road to recovery is long and hard. Some days I am up for it and others not!

Posts: 1084 | Registered: Sep 2012 | From: Texas
PinkJeepLady
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Default  Posted: 8:35 PM, June 20th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

That's awesome, I bet this is a huge relief for both of you. What a positive step for R!
Thanks for sharing your news! Have a wonderful evening!


Me: BW-54. Him-FWH 54. DDay June 1st 2012 cheating with prostitutes overseas
R-ing
"Not everything that counts is counted. Not everything that is counted counts." Albert Einstein

Posts: 496 | Registered: Nov 2012 | From: Out West
SoVerySadNow
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Default  Posted: 9:11 PM, June 20th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Yay! I love hearing positive things.


Me:BW
Him:WH
D-day(s),after years of TT and Gaslighting was Labor Day Weekend 2012, continuing for a week after. *Dammit! More TT 3/9/13
Really trending toward D- planning about it is my "happy place" now.

Posts: 1292 | Registered: Sep 2012 | From: Sunny Florida
HardenMyHeart
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Default  Posted: 9:42 PM, June 20th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage


Me: BH, Her: FWW - Long Term EA/PA
d-day: June 25, 2007
Married 30 years, Reconciled

Inner peace begins the moment you choose not to allow another person or event to control your emotions.


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Skan
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Default  Posted: 10:55 PM, June 20th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm so happy for you!


Imagine a ship trying to set sail while towing an anchor. Cutting free is not a gift to the anchor. You must release that burden, not because the anchor is worthy, but because the ship is.

D-Day, June 10, 2012



Posts: 4962 | Registered: Jun 2012 | From: So California
OptimisticWife
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Default  Posted: 7:14 AM, June 21st (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Fantastic!!! All the best to you both

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AFrayedKnot
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Default  Posted: 7:25 AM, June 21st (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Awesome!!!!


BS 40
fWS 36 (SurprisinglyOkay)
DD DS
A whole bunch of shit that got a lot worse before it got better.
"Knowing is half the battle"

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