I will piggy back on what others have said. You need to call your parents and get out.
You can't live a lie. It will eat you alive. This is not a healthy place for you to be physically or mentally.
I am not sure how you have not confronted him by now. I personally do not possess that much self control.
He is a fake and a liar. He is hiding behind God which makes it that much sicker in my book. I wouldn't want him anywhere around my kids via youth ministry.
Don't be a wife in any sense of the word. Especially do not sleep with him. You are going to need to be tested for STD's.
He is an egomaniac and most likely a narcissist.
You need to count your blessings that you have found out now before children.
Call your parents. Move forward.
(((hugs and prayers)))
Rather than sully you, he's doing what a lot of these men also do and is getting his jollies elsewhere because you're too 'pure' to unleash his manly passions on.
Stupid, moronic and archaic, but that's what it really sounds like.
Get out while you're young and especially before you get pregnant or you'll be stuck to this guy for life.
Good luck to you.
I hope you have called your family.
I hope that you've called your parents. Also, please go to your work's HR department and see about them stopping payment into his account and cutting you a check directly. You need to get away from this evil excuse for a human being as quickly as possible. And check into an annullment. (((hugs)))
D-Day, June 10, 2012
I haven't called my parents. They are on a cruise right now and I don't want to ruin their vacation with that information-- my mother in particular is going to be absolutely shattered. I'm actually more concerned about her than me at this point, i think.
They'll be back next week. In the meantime I've a friend here; she's a few years older, married and extremely kind. She has offered to let me stay with her until I get myself sorted out, so I'll probably slip out someday this week while he's at work.
The STD thing really really freaked me out as I've been having a reoccurent , nasty case of thrush since he came back from that "business" trip. I thought I'd just suddenly become susceptible to thrush (even though I never had it before my wedding or that trip) and now I'm terrified he gave me something (even the doctor, who barely speaks English, implied as much.) Results in three days, fingers crossed....and I think I might just snap if he gave me some nasty disease.
Definitely take Skans advice and stop your paychecks from going into joint accounts. Pack your stuff and get out of there today. And please, please, please, call your Mom. I waited to tell my Mom and she was very hurt by it. I'm a Mom as well and if this was happening to my daughter I would move heaven and earth to get you home and safe with me. You will not ruin her cruise. Hell, she'll probably get the boat to your location and pick you up! You NEED your Mom right now, even if it's only by phone. She'll be able to help you make a plan.
Super big hugs to you and I think you can probably get an annulment. Speaking of that. Did you marry in a church where you live now? If so, you may want to go to the church for comfort and advice. Don't worry about your WH being a member.