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User Topic: I threw DS23 out yesterday
painpaingoaway
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Default  Posted: 7:21 AM, July 10th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

The mental health system in this country leaves much to be desired.
Yep, don't even get me started on that issue! Grrrrr!

Well, he's completely on the street now.

He did make it to his second Voc Rehab appt, and they said it should be another week or two before a spot opens in their inpatient program. God why do these things take so long!!!

He came by the other day and asked to take a shower again. He was filthy. I said no, but he was welcome to use the outside hose if he wanted to, but that he was not coming in the house. He cried. It killed me.

When I woke up this morning his truck was parked in the street beside our house. He was sleeping in it.


me BS female 56/him WS 59
Married 33 years
D-day July 09/he gave me his slut's STD
Watch my movie: "My wayward husband's adventures in STD land":
Episode 1: youtu.be/9Jv0-d_CdYc
Episode 2: http://m.youtube.com/watch?v=8Tz822H82Gk

Posts: 7021 | Registered: Jan 2010 | From: Coastal South
lieshurt
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Default  Posted: 8:07 AM, July 10th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm so sorry. I can't imagine how much pain you are feeling right now. Sending prayers to you both.

(((ppg)))


I'm sorry if you don't like my Honesty, but to be fair I don't like your lies.

Sometimes it's better to push someone away...not because you stopped loving them but because you can't take the pain anymore.


Posts: 13650 | Registered: Mar 2007 | From: Houston
frigidfire86
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Default  Posted: 8:28 AM, July 10th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Doing the right thing can really suck sometimes. I was horrible when I was younger...well, it was only 9 years ago. I broke too many laws, was in a horrible relationship, did drugs, etc. My parents kicked me out, cut me off, and let me hit rock bottom. I'm soooo glad they did. Jail sucked and my visits to the hospital weren't fun either, but I needed all that to happen. Thankfully it didn't take too long to get my head out of my ass after they put their foot down (about 6 months). I don't even want to know what kind of life I'd have now if it hadn't happened.


Me: 28
Him: 29
Married 8 years
Daughter, 7 yrs old
D-Day: 05/08/2011

Posts: 622 | Registered: May 2011 | From: Germany
Kajem
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Default  Posted: 9:05 AM, July 10th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

((((ppga))))

I wanted you to know I am thinking about you, sending you strength and praying for your son.


I trust you is a better compliment than I love you, because you may not trust the person you love, but you can always love the person you trust. - Unknown
Relationships are like sharing a book, it doesn't work if you're not on the same page.

Posts: 4867 | Registered: Jul 2012 | From: Florida
lynnm1947
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Default  Posted: 9:49 AM, July 10th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I don't know if they call it "tough love" because it's so hard on the kid or so devastating to the parent.


Age: 64..ummmmmmm, no...............65....no...oh, hell born in 1947. You figure it out!

"I could have missed the pain, but I would have had to miss the dance." Garth Brooks


Posts: 7135 | Registered: Jul 2007 | From: Toronto, Canada
sisoon
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Default  Posted: 9:54 AM, July 10th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((ppga)))


fBH (me) - 65+, fWW (her) - 65+, Married 45+, together since 1965
DDay - 12/2010
Recovered, not yet fully R'ed
I share my own experience because it's the only experience I know, not because I'm a good model.

Posts: 9773 | Registered: Feb 2011 | From: Chicago area
confused615
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Default  Posted: 11:03 AM, July 10th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((((ppga))))


BS(me)41
FWH 45
4 kids..21,20,11,9
M: June 2001
D-Day: 8/10/10
Status: Happily Reconciled.

..that feeling you get in your stomach, when you heart's broken. It's like all the butterflies just died.


Posts: 7161 | Registered: Jan 2011 | From: Indiana
painpaingoaway
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Default  Posted: 7:54 AM, July 19th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

He is in bad shape.

Still on the street.

Could be several more weeks before the treatment center takes him.

H is weakening and wants to to let him come back.

I am still in hell over this.

Here is a song for our loved ones ones with addictions:

http://m.youtube.com/watch?v=-pD2zIuiC2g&feature=fvwrel


me BS female 56/him WS 59
Married 33 years
D-day July 09/he gave me his slut's STD
Watch my movie: "My wayward husband's adventures in STD land":
Episode 1: youtu.be/9Jv0-d_CdYc
Episode 2: http://m.youtube.com/watch?v=8Tz822H82Gk

Posts: 7021 | Registered: Jan 2010 | From: Coastal South
Tred
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Default  Posted: 7:57 AM, July 19th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((PPGA)))
Sending you strength for this awful situation.


Married: 17 years (14 @JFO)
D-Day: 11/09/11
"Ohhhhh...shut up Tred!" - NOT the official SI motto (DS)

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DeadMumWalking
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Default  Posted: 9:40 AM, July 19th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

((((ppga))))

Oh I'm just ACHING for you. Big big hugs to all of you.

((((ppga))))


Me (BS), Him (WH): early 50's
3 DS: teens!!! :)
M: 24 (19 1/2 at Dday), Together 29
Dday: Dec 2008
re-separated (in-house), for good (??) <-- should really remove these, shouldn't I...

Posts: 2538 | Registered: Aug 2009 | From: EU
hopelessromantic
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Default  Posted: 9:49 AM, July 19th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((ppga)))

I'm so sorry for your heartache. I can't even imagine.
Sending you all the strength and mojo you need. It makes *my* DD struggles taking place seem so small.

Wishing you peace to get you through this, wishing your son blessings from God that he will hold him thru the hell he is in and bring him thru on the other side.

hang in there, as a mom, my heart is breaking for you and hoping you find your inner strength to get you through it.


BS-Me FWS-him (bigdog)
D-Day 5/3/09 TT til 6/22/09
Behind every woman scorned is a man who made her that way.

Posts: 2836 | Registered: Sep 2009 | From: Midwest
jo2love
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Default  Posted: 9:53 AM, July 19th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

((((ppga))))

Posts: 33995 | Registered: Mar 2011
SisterMilkshake
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Default  Posted: 11:46 AM, July 19th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

((((ppga)))) You are one of my heroes, ppga. Please believe me when I say you are amazing, even though I am sure you feel anything but.


BW (me) 50ish FWH 50ish
Married 34 years, 3 children
d-day 3/10 LTA (4 yrs./fucking & flirting)

"Oh, why do my actions have consequences?" ~ Homer Simpson
"She knew my one weakness: That I'm weak!" ~ Homer Simpson


Posts: 9423 | Registered: Nov 2010 | From: The Great White North USA
authenticnow
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Default  Posted: 12:09 PM, July 19th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

What Sistermilkshake said.

((((PPGA and DS)))))


Take up your space (and do it well).

"That's the thing about pain, it demands to be felt."


Posts: 36709 | Registered: Sep 2007
painpaingoaway
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Default  Posted: 1:17 PM, July 19th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thanks you for all your thoughts and prayers sweet friends. His situation is, and always has been so horrendous that there really aren't many people to talk to other than you guys and my NAMI support people.

Please everyone keep him in your prayers.

He came by yesterday briefly to return some more tools. I told him I loved him. I asked if there was anything I could do for him. I did go pick up and pay for his bipolar meds. He just stared at me and cried. I hugged him and asked if he wanted to talk. He said no.

[This message edited by painpaingoaway at 1:17 PM, July 19th (Friday)]


me BS female 56/him WS 59
Married 33 years
D-day July 09/he gave me his slut's STD
Watch my movie: "My wayward husband's adventures in STD land":
Episode 1: youtu.be/9Jv0-d_CdYc
Episode 2: http://m.youtube.com/watch?v=8Tz822H82Gk

Posts: 7021 | Registered: Jan 2010 | From: Coastal South
DeadMumWalking
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Default  Posted: 1:58 PM, July 19th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

((((ppga))))


Me (BS), Him (WH): early 50's
3 DS: teens!!! :)
M: 24 (19 1/2 at Dday), Together 29
Dday: Dec 2008
re-separated (in-house), for good (??) <-- should really remove these, shouldn't I...

Posts: 2538 | Registered: Aug 2009 | From: EU
hexed
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Default  Posted: 2:31 PM, July 19th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

((PPGA))

I'm so sorry.


But that's just a lot of water
Underneath a bridge I burned
And there's no use in backtracking
Around corners I have turned

“Many of us crucify ourselves between two thieves - regret for the past and fear of the future.” -foulton oursler


Posts: 8407 | Registered: Apr 2008
redrock
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Default  Posted: 3:15 PM, July 19th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((ppga)))


I don't respect anyone that can't spell a word more than one way:)

Posts: 3151 | Registered: Nov 2008 | From: Michigan
Gottagetthrough
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Default  Posted: 3:22 PM, July 19th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((Painpaingoaway)))

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Williesmom
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Default  Posted: 3:33 PM, July 19th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

((Pain)). You and DS are in my thoughts.


You can stuff your sorries in a sack, mister. -George Costanza
There is a special place in hell for women who don't help other women. - Madeleine Albright

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