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User Topic: Am I selfish or a crybaby
strawblond30
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Default  Posted: 5:48 PM, June 18th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I can't stop crying . I have lived it what I consider a crap life . I hate ( yes hate ) my run down out dated now flood disaster of a house. No money, I'm filing bank rupt in a week. Divorce was final last Friday. He is still here like he wants a new start. But I've found a new friend ( nothing serious) his wife cheated also so we share each others time together. But how do I explain to the ex how much I hate everything I mean everything. I need therapy bad!!!


Me 39, EX H 40 married 17 years infidelity on both parts . He a serial cheater. I cheated for revenge and ran home to brag. Or make Him mad. He confessed to more affairs after that. We are now divorced living apart . 3 children

Posts: 957 | Registered: Jan 2005 | From: illinois
Take2
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Default  Posted: 7:47 PM, June 18th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Sounds like you are overwhelmed and having a well deserved pity party (btdt) and you have a whole lot of mess on your plate at once. Take a breath, take a day by yourself somewhere nice, even if it is just a walk... you are never too old to start over (at least that is what I keep telling myself )


"We must be willing to get rid of the life we've planned, so as to have the life that is waiting for us." Joseph Campbell...So, If fear was not a factor - what would you do?

Posts: 4129 | Registered: May 2009 | From: New England
Ashland13
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Default  Posted: 7:56 PM, June 18th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm sorry, StrawBlond. I have a lot of the same issues you have and some more.

I notice in your post you said you are getting divorced but Wh is still there? I just wondered why, if you ever felt like telling that part. Maybe it's adding to your stress?

I have the tears too and for what it's worth, I asked IC for ideas of what I mourn and she suggested it could be other emotions coming out in crying form-anger is something she suggested and I buy that because I recognize what a horrible person Perv turned into.

Anyway...

That word I hate "compartmentalize" has actually helped me, though I hate to use it, but I wonder if it would help you? I used it when a holiday would come and we had too much to do in a day, where I would only think of one thing at one time. I know there are forces in the air around us that don't always let us think that way, but if you could make a list and somehow put an issue away for part of a day, maybe it could help?

I've also heard a term lately called "emotional exhaustion" that I have and it sounds like you may, also, kind of where everything runs together in our minds at once and all we do is cry. There's a lot online to read about it.

I hope some closure will come soon and I wish you peace.


Ashland 13

A person is a person, no matter how small. -Dr. Suess

Perserverance and spirit have done wonders in all ages.

-George Washington


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