Before DDAY, I always told me WH, " don't bring me flowers, don't waste the money". I was never into expensive jewelry or material things.
But now, I realize that I would feel so sad if he had given the OW flowers, rings, or things that meant something to him.
I also heard a topic recently about how a person feels love feelings toward someone when they do something nice for them, or pick out a gift, or plan something for the other person. I guess because you have to think of that persons desires and how to please them, and in return, it makes the planner feel love feelings too. I don't think I'm explaining it very well.
Now, I want flowers ( expensive ones) and jewelry, and cards, and perfume, and lingerie, and anything else he may have thought about buying the OW. I WANT those things because I sure don't want him giving those things to someone else.