I feel glad for you, Still Sad! I'm trying to reach that point and I know all the wretched things STBX has done, but I still cry. IC says it's anger at him failing our M and life and continuing to wreak havoc on things.
Yes, I think Perv lost a job based in large part on the A, like your WH may. It was a place run by a single family and very, very family oriented, so I think computer porn wouldn't go over too well? and the other things he did.
One person I saw dig her claws in is Perv's OW, the one interaction I had with her was a text she sent throwing him under the bus and was all in my face about his awful life and M she was going to "fix". Really?
His respect is gone also, from anyone he knows here and he's trying desparately to be Model Citizen Perv again and helping anyone who will let him. I try in vain to the point of exhaustion not to ask or let him know I need help, for I don't want him working off his guilt, do you know what I mean?
Good for you, never going back and knowing your threshold or boundaries.
The only thing that stays the same, is change. -M. Etheridge