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WeepingBuddhist
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Default  Posted: 11:54 AM, June 17th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

NO SPOILERS, PLEASE! I'm a couple of weeks behind.

I used to love this show, but now, it triggers the hell out of me. WS and I watch it together and asked after the last episode we watched he asked if I wanted to maybe find another TV show to enjoy together. Anybody else have this problem with stuff in the media?

[This message edited by WeepingBuddhist at 11:54 AM, June 17th (Monday)]


Me: BS 46
Him: unimportant
D Day:4-27-13
DIVORCED!!! 2-20-14

Posts: 554 | Registered: Apr 2013 | From: Columbus
LA44
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Default  Posted: 12:22 PM, June 17th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

YES! We watched MM all the time. It was "our" show. I can watch anymore. I remember saying how hot Don was. ugh! He admitted after D-Day that the times Don was unfaithful (uhhh, many!) was hard on the head.

We started watching Homeland and really like it. Then there was a betrayal but for some reason I was able to handle it in this show. But yeah...its everywhere isn't it.


Me: 44
He: 47 WH
Married: 15 years
D Day: December 2012
Affair: Fall 2009 - Dec. 2011
R is not linear

Posts: 2220 | Registered: Feb 2013 | From: Canada, eh
nofool4u
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Default  Posted: 12:29 PM, June 17th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I suppose the show should trigger me, but it doesn't. I just chalk it up to entertainment I suppose.

The only show, or movie I should say, that triggered the hell out of me was Unfaithful with Richard Gere and Diane Lane.

Not that it matters "why", but I think it triggered me because Gere played a loving husband and she still messed around.

Ok, enough about that, back to Mad Men. Love that show. I think its what turned me into a scotch/whisky drinker


Me - fBS

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NikkiD
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Default  Posted: 12:31 PM, June 17th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Scandal is a trigger for me. I just cant chear on the "side piece" winning the husband..no matter how much of a biotch the wife seems to be.


"Spoil me with Loyalty; I can finance myself...."
ME: BS-33
HE: WS-32
Married 3 years, known 20
2 kids
D-Day #1 12/30/12
False Recovery
D-Day #2 1/21/14
LTA 5 years-ish
Riding the "Struggle Bus"
Living apart....

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1devastedmom
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Default  Posted: 1:29 PM, June 17th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Yes we no longer watch anything that has infidelity in it or prostitution. We even turn the radio when a song is about cheating etc. I never realized how much is in the media.


Me BS: 42
WH: 44
DDay- April 17, 2013
Married 22 years
3 children: 18, 15 & 9
Reconcilling

Posts: 133 | Registered: Feb 2013 | From: 1devastedmom
WeepingBuddhist
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Default  Posted: 2:21 PM, June 17th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Glad it's not just me!

I still love Scandal, but even before D-Day, I didn't get how anyone could hope that Olivia and Fitz would end up together! I like how terribly flawed everyone on that show is (except for maybe Harrison and that's just because they haven't told much about him)


Me: BS 46
Him: unimportant
D Day:4-27-13
DIVORCED!!! 2-20-14

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outtanowhere
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Default  Posted: 3:13 PM, June 17th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I was thinking it was just me! We have always watched tv in different rooms because we don't typically like the same kind of programs. Since d-day we decided to find something we could watch together and, wouldn't you know! We saw the five stars on Mad Men & started with Season 1 last week & OMG! I had a hard time sitting thru the last episode of season one because of the cheating. They make it look so normal so to me it's no wonder that some people don't get how awful it really is! (Eye roll towards WH!)


BS - 57
SAWH - 60 multiple encounters with prostitutes and other sex workers
Married 37 years
Dday - 2/19/13 - found the emails
He promised me Heaven then put me thru hell

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grapefruit
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Default  Posted: 6:35 PM, June 17th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Love Mad Men but I'm not sure I'll be watching again either. We both love Arrested Development and started watching that again the other night. The line "tricks are what a whore does for money" is just not funny anymore. Sigh. Do all my favourite things have to be ruined?


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Wonderingwhy11
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Default  Posted: 6:50 PM, June 17th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I also have trouble watching shows about infidelity that I would have watched prior to DDay. I can't bring myself to watch Mistress.


Me BW - 46
Him WH - 53
Together 23 yrs, Married 18
DDay August 2011
2 kids - 13 and 15

Gotta love the life that we livin'


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solus sto
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Default  Posted: 6:54 PM, June 17th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Mad Men hasn't been a huge issue for me. I think it's because I was a small child during the period portrayed, and that aspect of the show fascinates me. I like seeing my early life on screen---the clothes, the cars, the decor, the art (and the drunken, distant adults...but the show is kind of therapeutic in that regard). That part grips me, and makes the rest tolerable, somehow.

However, I was NOT able to watch the show with my husband. I have no trouble watching it myself, but couldn't watch it with him. Alone, I don't trigger at all. I don't know if I would if he were in the room; I never wanted to watch it with him, so I guess it would be likely.

Weird.

A friend and I recently gave a fabulous Mad Men party--it was an offering for a charity auction and was a huge hit. Martinis, Manhattans, fancy clothes, excellent food typical of the era. It was great fun.

[This message edited by solus sto at 7:00 PM, June 17th (Monday)]


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2 kids-DD25, DS18
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LA44
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Default  Posted: 6:56 PM, June 17th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

ugh Mistress! I can't even bear to look. This will be off the air in no time.

Why do all the "cancers" be in our society have to be made into a TV show?


Me: 44
He: 47 WH
Married: 15 years
D Day: December 2012
Affair: Fall 2009 - Dec. 2011
R is not linear

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WeepingBuddhist
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Default  Posted: 10:22 AM, June 18th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

The Mad Men party sounds fun and OMG---there is a show about mistresses? I am more grateful than ever that we got rid of cable a couple of years ago and use netflix and on-demand. I may have to try watching MM along. I didn't even think of that. Dr. Who has been a godsend but now that's over for the season. the new season of "Luther" is out soon, so we'll watch that, probably.


Me: BS 46
Him: unimportant
D Day:4-27-13
DIVORCED!!! 2-20-14

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struggling16
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Default  Posted: 10:35 AM, June 18th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

We have watched Mad Men together since it premiered. It was a big weekly "thing" for us with popcorn and, later, reviewing each episode. He was carrying on the A in 2010 while we watched it and shared reactions, multi-day conversations, reading reviews together, etc. Some days he actually had been with the AP and then came home to watch with me. He also watched with me and then went to be with the AP the next day. Then he had no problem condemning the As in the show as he was doing the same thing. I truly think that he related in a positive way and thought he was glamorous for being so duplicitous. He disagrees.

We still watch it together and I have small triggers but it's getting better as time goes by.


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outtanowhere
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Default  Posted: 11:05 AM, June 18th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I brought this up to H last night. He said it didn't really bother him but, he knew it was probably getting to me. He was right! It's a good story line but I can't help but believe that when you watch those kind of things it creeps into your unconsciousness. For people with altered thought processes, I'm scared that it could cause some to rationalize that kind of behavior. Just my opinion but, we decided to stop watching it & switched to Arrested Development instead.


BS - 57
SAWH - 60 multiple encounters with prostitutes and other sex workers
Married 37 years
Dday - 2/19/13 - found the emails
He promised me Heaven then put me thru hell

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WeepingBuddhist
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Default  Posted: 11:13 AM, June 18th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Struggling, that sounds so painful! I'm glad to hear you are less "triggery". That seems impossible right now so it's good to know it can happen.

Outanowhere, I guess I've never seen Don as glamorous really (except for all those fabulous clothes!) but kind of pathetic--which makes for a great character.


Me: BS 46
Him: unimportant
D Day:4-27-13
DIVORCED!!! 2-20-14

Posts: 554 | Registered: Apr 2013 | From: Columbus
NikkiD
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Default  Posted: 12:16 PM, June 18th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I REFUSE to watch mistress. I WILL NOT. That shit is not cute...

[This message edited by NikkiD at 12:17 PM, June 18th (Tuesday)]


"Spoil me with Loyalty; I can finance myself...."
ME: BS-33
HE: WS-32
Married 3 years, known 20
2 kids
D-Day #1 12/30/12
False Recovery
D-Day #2 1/21/14
LTA 5 years-ish
Riding the "Struggle Bus"
Living apart....

Posts: 668 | Registered: Jan 2013 | From: Midwest
finallyfree2011
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Default  Posted: 5:24 PM, June 18th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I love Mad Men but the last few episodes where Don is treating his mistress badly really got to me. I started remembering how xap treated me - even used to say he owned me.

When the mistress ended it and said she was ashamed I started crying. I so felt the same way.

Embarassed, ashamed, guilty..


Me - WS
H - BH

D day - July 2011 after a 4 year relationship with OM

Reconciled and renewed our vows on our 22 Anniversary in June 2012


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